So confused

MissMitch

You really need to sit back & try and take life as it comes without worrying about every minute detail, because tbh you'd scare the bejimminies out of me if I was dating you! :eek:;) It'll unfold as it should, whether you worry about it or not!

halibut2209

TheTruthMachine wrote: »

I know I am just scared that they will. As they will see me as taking their daughter off them sort of thing.

I just panic. I said I would take them to a resturant at the meet. Is that a bad idea?

I wouldn't do that. Go to their house, let them make you a cup of tea, sit down, and just chat and get to know each other. No need for gifts or trips to restaurants. No need to "try too hard"

CH27

TheTruthMachine wrote: »

I know I am just scared that they will. As they will see me as taking their daughter off them sort of thing.

I just panic. I said I would take them to a resturant at the meet. Is that a bad idea?

For goodness sake RELAX!:D
Your knickers are in such a twist you are missing out on enjoying all the lovely feelings that come with a new relationship.

Epiphone

I suspect from her father's point of view it'll be something like http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x4pIJtt48g4 (NSFW - has swears)

Scotty1.7

Just sit back and relax

Enjoy what going on and don't force things

If you worry, you try to make it right in your head, which normally end up making it worse in the long run (Voice of experince on this one)

I know it hard not to worry (as a major worrier myself, whos fav word is sorry) but its better if you just don't.

I use the phrase S.L.A.G.I.T now (Seemed Like A Good Idea Then) but crude but it works

TheTruthMachine

I just find it hard to relax on this

I can't do tea, Only coffee.

I still don't understand why her dad has a dislike to me for being a manc. Its hard for me to grasp.

On sign off day, after the ceremony should I take her to one side and explain I'm signing off the project not her. She's been texting/facebooking with worry. I was thinking during the ceremony get her involved etc. but I don't know

BillTrac

Every time someone posts 'calm down' I hear it in my head with a very strong accent...bit like those characters from Liverpool with the perms?

calm down, calm down..like:rotfl:

Kay_Peel

You remind me of my daughter, She takes everything literally. She's slow to recognise when someone is teasing her. She thinks that because she tells the truth and is open and honest that everyone else is. You can see her do a double-take when someone makes a comment. She's learnt to check herself and ask: 'Are they joking? Are they trying to wind me up affectionately? Am I being teased?' She needs constant reassurance and she was a bleddy bind as a child and as a teeenager- overly sensitive to comments and over-thinking situations.

I think your work colleagues' comment about having 'had' your g/f was a wind up. A cruel wind-up.

I think your g/f's comment about her father's dislike of Mancs was just teasing. The pretended dislike of Mancs stems from football rivalry, and Big-city rivalry (when it comes to London and the south-east) or neighbourly rivalry (when it comes to Liverpool, Leeds, Nottingham, etc). Nothing more. Not personal.

If you are like my daughter then I know it's no use telling you that you need to lighten up and check yourself before you over-analyse comments. Be aware of your over-sensitivity and the fact that jokes and teases may go over your head. It might give you some perspective and balance before you start worrying.

Most of all, have fun and enjoy what you are experiencing.

TheTruthMachine

Thanks for all your input

Had some issues at work in regards to the project and such.

Getting close Its amazing. Still scared for Monday

She wants lots of pictures of us together.

Still nervous about it all

halibut2209

You'll be fine

Ask your girlfriend about her dad's interests. See if there's anything in common you can talk about.