So confused

TheTruthMachine

Should I be worried?

TheTruthMachine

aggypanthus wrote: »

hello, nice to meet you,

I thinks its outrageous and bloody rude for her dad to ask what you earn, its none of his bloody business. you should have said, thats not something i wish to discuss.

I just said I can provide credit reports if needbe. I don't mind about the wage. as long as they don't ask for a borrow

The young lady seems to be rather zealous in her pursuit of you, and that in itself is very flattering to you, and will intensify your feelings of love of her. Re the hotel issue, wake up, of course she wants you to stay with her.. you are not 16, both adults, get on with it.
She seems to be very clingy to you.

How do you mean clingy?

Im confused by this statement

CheeseCat

It does seem to have moved very quickly from meeting to the 'meet the parents' stage especially as you live so far apart. That's something you normally wait a while to do, once you know how serious things are.

Agreed about the grilling by the way! None of his bloomin business what you earn!! they sound like very difficult and old fashioned parents.

I don't want to be negative (sorry) I wish you both all the best just try not to get sucked in too much too soon


Edited: I think the 'clingy' is due to all the facebook messages and texts you said she sent worrying you'll forget her etc. Its quite full on

Emmzi

are you dating her, or her dad?

she's old enough that what he thinks does not matter.

aggypanthus

Cautious perhaps. It all seems to intense too soon.

Its such early days for her to be taking you home to mummy.
I am twice your age, in our extended family, 2 nephews fell in deep with young ladies, got engaged very quickly only for it to go badly wrong. one even bought a joint house only to break up after a year.
Dont get in tooo deep to quick is what i am saying. Are you the worrying type, ? you seem to be frettin the small stuff

Kay_Peel

TheTruthMachine wrote: »

How do you mean impulsive?

To an outsider like me, she's the 'mover and shaker'. She's the one doing all the pursuing and arranging. She takes the lead and, oh boy, is she going at break-neck speed. You appear to be the passive one to whom all these nice things are happening. The parents may be concerned about that.

Not that a parent can do anything about a adult child's latest passion, and anyway a parent wouldn't want to interfere. It would just calm my nerves if I could reassure myself that the bloke deserved her. She's my precious little girl, remember!

aggypanthus

WHAT? are you a wimp? you offered him credit reports?? get some backbone, they will walk all over you!

YES, so much txting and fb is overkill and a bit immature, and it all adds to the relationship being unreal and more intense. And her crying early in the rel when you left her?
Dont let them reel you in , take a step back.

TheTruthMachine

It may seem she does all the running, I just want to take it slow but I do chase her. It was her parents that insisted they meet me. I totally understand, I have a great job, prospects etc and such. But her parents do scare me. After the meet she was just appologising.

They were telling me about her fads and previous boyfriends. They were crazy!

She just kept appologising

TheTruthMachine

aggypanthus wrote: »

WHAT? are you a wimp? you offered him credit reports?? get some backbone, they will walk all over you!

YES, so much txting and fb is overkill and a bit immature, and it all adds to the relationship being unreal and more intense. And her crying early in the rel when you left her?
Dont let them reel you in , take a step back.

The credit reports was a joke. I don't even look at my credit reports :P

I personally have got teary leaving a job like this. so many reasons to get teary to be honest. Like missing staff and the place etc but thats another story

Moody_Mare

Hi there I have read your thread and just wondered how long have you been dating for? I apologize if you have already stated this.