OS Friday 12th JANUARY

dlb

I often find it hard as as said before my ds3 really struggles, he is in year 4 at the moment and is approx a year behind in his Lit work, yet he is in the top group in the top set in maths.
I do as much with him as i did with the other 2 boys and we read every day and i dont push him.

I have some parents who have children in his class who know he isnt as bright as their kids who take great pleasure in telling me how well their children are doing, i dont say anything as they obviously presume my other 2 are the same, i wish they would just realise that not all kids achieve the same even with the same support and help.

Horasio

Bargain_Rzl wrote:

Evening all

(((((hugs))))) to Roz_V and little sis. TBH I sort of feel sorry for the girl who made the comments almost as much as I do for the dead girl's family. Imagine being a 14 year old bully with the potential of growing up into a decent human being. Then imagine having to live with that sort of guilt all your life... on which subject, Roz I think you said absolutely the right thing to your sis, I was just going to suggest something similar prior to reading your more recent post.

Freecyclers have been and gone, taking 14 cardboard boxes with them :j :j - I've got no particular plans for the weekend so I told them that I'd email them on Sunday/Monday if I'd got another batch of boxes unpacked, in case they want any more. Ohhhh it's good to have them out of my bedroom (which was the only place I could put them where they weren't in the way).

Am now relaxing with a glass of wine while watching "The Baby Borrowers" and I'll be watching Martin in a minute on Trevor McDonald. I had to hunt all over for the corkscrew :eek: I almost phoned my mum and asked if she was a corkscrew where would she think of hiding but found it in the end

I must remember to take the chicken thighs out of the freezer for tomorrow morning - I have various things that need using up and as they include onions, garlic and lemons, I figured a simple SC chicken dish was in order. The only reason I haven't done it yet is that the SC crock needs washing up and I just KNOW that if I start defrosting the chicken first, I will be too lazy to wash the crock and will end up wasting the chicken! How pathetic is that? I just know what I'm like on a lazy Friday evening with a glass of wine in my hand...

Anyway bye for now
Rzl xx

I don't feel sympathy for the stupid bullying girl's guilt, that is her karma, if anyone drove my son to this, I would be devasted, and would hope the idiot suffered forever - she should be made an example of. I feel very sorry for the dead girls family and I would make sure justice was done. Although, nothing will bring their daughter back.

It probably went on for ages and no-one noticed or intervened. The poor soul must have been so tormented. Teenage years are hellish anyway, January is hellish, add a stupid bullying bint = depression at very least, suicide at worst. Bullying doesn't just stop at school, neither do their effects. If schools and parents could nip it in the bud before it got this bad, it could be dramatically reduced.

I abhor bullying.:mad:

Roz_V

Hi again all,

leaning on you lot tonight for support as OH has gone out for his best friends 21st birthday.

:mad: the chavmonster in the next block of flats has started playing his music again and I know it will be on until 3/4am :mad: I have to be up for work at 6.30 and feel rotten with cold as it is without the stress of this. We have complained to the management company and they have sent out letters to all the flats which arrived today but obviously this chavmonster hasn't checked his mail :mad: I wouldn't mind so much if it wasn't for the fact that its every week, and that he plays it from the front room, two floors above and one block to the left of us, yet I can still hear and feel the bass from my back bedroom.

Had a long chat with my mum this evening about my sister. I forgot to mention before that one of her MySpace friends was killed in a horrific RTA two weeks ago, so mum is very worried about her and is devoting the weekend to whatever she wants to do. She has also sat her down and told her that bottling things up is the worst thing she can do, and has given her a list of phone numbers to call if she's ever upset (inc. mine, my other sister, samaritans and an old sim card of mine which never gets used in case she wants to vent into an answerphone) so I feel a bit better about her now.

The place where my parents live, and where the incident happened, is a very small town where everyone knows each others business. Because of this I feel incredibly sorry for the girl who made the comments as she will literally have the whole community knowing what she said and making judgement on her, when in fact it's possible that the poor girl who died had problems *other* than the bullying ie. family troubles. Sadly, because everyone knows what's happened, and because the school doesn't generally have a problem with bullying, I feel the girl will be penalised more in order that the school are shown to be doing something.

Anyway, I'm off to wallow in a big bowl of chocolate and hope that chavmonster blows a speaker soon....

have a good weekend everyone - sorry for upsetting some of you :grouphug:

dlb

We have a citizenship cup which is awarded each term and also class cups and as said these are not awarded for academic reasons but for general improvement and attitude.
We have just started a superstudent scheme, which i havent been involved in as i left the governing body before this was sorted, they have 3 lists of things to achieve at a bronze,silver and gold level. Simple things like never runs in school, always helpful and friendly, caring to others ect.

I think this is a great idea as it isnt academic, and im proud to say ds1 was one of the first to recieve this, the rewards also incourage other kids to want to get this status, today ds1 had his lunch at a set table with napkins candles and tablecloth and once a week they can go in the staff room for their break with the teachers.
They can lose the status at any time with no warning if they break any of the codes for the level they are at.

I know not all school are brilliant at things like this, my dear step son isnt at a wonderfull school but unfourtunatly dh ex will not move him.

Godness we are being very deep and grown up tonight arnt we !!!LOL

anniestar

Just a very quick one haven't read any since about 4.00 hope you are all ok. Just to say htat DH had a WONDERFUL day at school. He is the happiest htat iI've seen him for ages. Long may it coontinue. Again many thanks for being there to share all this with.

lil_me

dlb I can understand what you are saying entirely, I've had the same conversations with parents repeatedly, but I am happy when they are 'improving' rather than what score he got in spellings (which was 2/10 the lowest in the class but better than 1/10 which was what he got before Christmas) when other parents do the 'oh wow you got 10/10 again' I just ignore the parent and praise the child, then say to my son it's fine, we'll just practise some more. They hated it when my son the 'one who can't read/spell' won a local award for a painting he did last year, Mayor presented his trophy and I cried buckets!

We also have the kindness cup which is awarded each week, tear in my eye when my son got this.

Roz pleased to hear you managed to speak to your Mum, hope your little sister is ok, especially after the loss of friends in such tragic circumstances. Report the neighbour! Sounds like a right pest!

Annie great news long may it continue

*don't you just hate it when you cross post and look like you have ignored everyone and have to edit it*

Horasio

Roz_V wrote:

Hi again all,

leaning on you lot tonight for support as OH has gone out for his best friends 21st birthday.

:mad: the chavmonster in the next block of flats has started playing his music again and I know it will be on until 3/4am :mad: I have to be up for work at 6.30 and feel rotten with cold as it is without the stress of this. We have complained to the management company and they have sent out letters to all the flats which arrived today but obviously this chavmonster hasn't checked his mail :mad: I wouldn't mind so much if it wasn't for the fact that its every week, and that he plays it from the front room, two floors above and one block to the left of us, yet I can still hear and feel the bass from my back bedroom.

Had a long chat with my mum this evening about my sister. I forgot to mention before that one of her MySpace friends was killed in a horrific RTA two weeks ago, so mum is very worried about her and is devoting the weekend to whatever she wants to do. She has also sat her down and told her that bottling things up is the worst thing she can do, and has given her a list of phone numbers to call if she's ever upset (inc. mine, my other sister, samaritans and an old sim card of mine which never gets used in case she wants to vent into an answerphone) so I feel a bit better about her now.

The place where my parents live, and where the incident happened, is a very small town where everyone knows each others business. Because of this I feel incredibly sorry for the girl who made the comments as she will literally have the whole community knowing what she said and making judgement on her, when in fact it's possible that the poor girl who died had problems *other* than the bullying ie. family troubles. Sadly, because everyone knows what's happened, and because the school doesn't generally have a problem with bullying, I feel the girl will be penalised more in order that the school are shown to be doing something.

Anyway, I'm off to wallow in a big bowl of chocolate and hope that chavmonster blows a speaker soon....

have a good weekend everyone - sorry for upsetting some of you :grouphug:

Report the runt, call the police once it has gone midnight, get the neigbhours to back you up, by them ringing them too - he is breaking the law. He sounds to be a bully. My neighbours are the same when they have midweek parties. You don't need this rubbish on top of trying to work and feeling low.

Sorry to hear about your loss - big hugs

AussieLass

Roz I can imagine what a shock it was. Try and not worry too much about DS. You've done all the right things. I also feel sorry for the girl that said the wrong comment. It's something she will live with for the rest of her life. It wasn't nice but everyone can put their hands up in saying the wrong thing. Especially at 14. Maybe the comment was the straw that broke the camel's back so to speak. I sometimes wonder when I read/watch tv how girls can become anoxeria after someone called them *fatty* or such. I think to myself how very fragile they must be. Do they have other problems beforehand? But such a tragic event, and my heart aches for her family.

Annie I had no idea that you didn't have to vote if you didn't want to. When we turn 18 we HAVE to vote in every election local/state/federal. If we don't there is a hefty fine. :rolleyes: I would anyway. I'd like to think my vote helped.

With comments about schooling. It's a the reverse here. If you do have a child that is gifted/talented there is so much to offer, but if they are struggling it's really up to the parents to bring them up to speed with tutouring. If not they are left behind. It's a shame a happy medium can't be reached.

Well I better get cracking. It's overcast here this morning so a bit cooler. Washing has just stopped so better hang it out. Have a good sleep everyone. Plumber day today. DH has gone up to the house super early to wait in anticipation. A lady is coming later this morning to inspect this house as she wants to rent it. Byeeeeeeeeee

dlb

Roz not another one with noisey neighbours as if the witch wasnt enough for me, we also have neighbours who play rave music till all hours.
Report them to the council long drawn out process but it works eventually.

Im glad you feel better about your sister, it sounds like you have a great family that have shown her love and support.

Roz_V

adding: CCStar, although I agree with your sentiment, the girl in question made the remarks after an arguement between the two. She has admitted to her HOY and headmaster what she said, and is, I believe, to receive counselling. It seems that although the dispute had been going on for a while, it was mainly out of school, and therefore not much the school could do, particularly as the girl never asked for help or mentioned to anyone what was happening.

I don't want to stick up for the girl in question, however she, a 14YO herself, is going to have to live with everyone in the local community calling her a *murderer* (as one or two kids have already said to her).

EDIT: re. noise, we tried phoning the police at 4am one morning (101 - the Anti-social behaviour number, not 999) and were told they don't deal with noise complaints anymore :mad:

Enviro Health have been informed, but as they only work office hours, they will not come to hear the noise/disruption. Luckily we keep a log, and appear not to be the only ones to have complained