I am a mean parent

niceday999

The o.p has to be joking ? right ? I've never heard anything like it in my life !!!! How awful for the poor daughter.......i'm speechless !!!!!!

KnightSmile

Wow I never knew parents could hate their children she must have done something EVIL!!

gnasher18us

I don't like to say it, but I think this is the most cruel - possibly unreal - comment I have ever read. I would have been ashamed to be the author of it.

As a mother you should always love your child, and no love is stronger than a mother / child.

This just proves "money doesn't buy love" because, you may earn £50k but to post this is a disgrace.

I hope your £50k makes you happy - but it will never make you happier than unconditional love between your daughter and yourself.

To answer your question, you don't have to give anything. You can give your daughter £30k of debt which might make you a little happier.

I just hope she rubs it in your face if she does well.

Unbelievable OP.

DirtyDick

Without getting into the emotional aspect of this: one isn't compelled to provide for an adult child, much as one is entitled to boot them out.

However, so as to prevent lots of parents claiming they are estranged financially from their offspring in order not to contribute, it does mean that it will become very difficult (if not impossible) for her to prove this until several years of financial independence has elapsed, or until she reaches the age of 25. So unless you contribute, without other resources she'd pretty much find it impossible to pay for her university studies.

jascrawf

I don't think it's fair to try and disgrace the OP for what she said. Everyone has a reason for their actions and you don't know what her daughter is like.

MeanParent

For those that have made comments. I would happily jump in front of a moving bus to save her life.

I can just no longer live with her or support her.

I have my reasons and have been severely hurt by her over many years but it is getting worse.

For my own sanity I have to move on and break all ties.

mikey72

gnasher18us wrote: »

........... and no love is stronger than a mother / child....................

That could well be the problem if the op is the husband.

gnasher18us

MeanParent wrote: »

For those that have made comments. I would happily jump in front of a moving bus to save her life.

I can just no longer live with her or support her.

I have my reasons and have been severely hurt by her over many years but it is getting worse.

For my own sanity I have to move on and break all ties.

Your daughter will change (she'll get maturity)...and if you'd jump under a bus for her you must love her.

So, begs the question, why won't you help her to become educated, and a better woman?

You can't expect not to have comments after what you said in the OP.

I am still throroughly shocked.

gnasher18us

jascrawf wrote: »

I don't think it's fair to try and disgrace the OP for what she said. Everyone has a reason for their actions and you don't know what her daughter is like.

I disagree... she has admitted she would jump under a bus for her daughter, so there is love there.

I know her daughter will change, but doesn't she understand her daughter needs to be shown love from the woman calling herself "mean parent" and being very pleased to tell everyone she is a mean parent who earns £50K?

I don't care what she earns...and I know her daughter will change with maturity (and perhaps getting some love from the self proclaimed Mean Parent).

I'm just glad I'm not her son - or related to her in any way (I hope I'm not, at least! Am I Mean Parent!? :rotfl:)

Jinx

I think she can theoretically pursue some maintenance especially if she stays in full time education without a break. However, if she ends up not living with you and you don't want to subsidise her studies I would doubt this could be forced.

She may get a loan which has a recommended amount of parental input noted on it, but this can be easily updated to the relevant loan peeps. My daughter did this when my hubby was made redundant and she got more cash last year but its hitting her hard this year due to us both working her amount has really dropped so shes working more hours and we are subsidising her more. Am skint! lol

IMO there is no automatic entitlement to go to Uni and consequently 'children' should not automatically expect/rely on continued parental support. And certainly children are not 'children' until the age of 25 which a previous poster noted re entitlement of support.