I am a mean parent

MeanParent

My daughter hopes to start university next year (2012) and will pay the £9k fees.

As I earn over £50k per year do I HAVE to contribute anything to her studies.

I don't want to contribute anything because I don't like her! Actually I hate her and want her out of the house as soon as she is 18 (long story that I don't want to go in to here). I currently pay for her to go to a private school but don't see why I should continue to pay for someone who makes my life a living hell.

Lokolo

Well this is a first.....

But no you don't have to contribute anything.

Although I wouldn't be expecting any Birthday or Christmas presents from the sounds of things....

skylight

Hate is a heck of a strong emotion. Especially towards your own child. Teens are designed to make our lives hell! (At least yours has made it to Uni; mine got herself up the duff).

But no. You do not have to contribute a penny towards her now. She will be able to apply for grants/loans as would any student. She may even think about getting a part-time job to help cover her living expenses.

[Deleted User]

Well I guess you have paid soo much already so this is like the final part.

You have to also consider when the child matures they meay be different and hence you may well change your opinion on matters that have long been left behind.

Good luck with your decision, however I will say my children will have everything they need, the only reason is because I know I will do my best for them and give them as much as I can, if they reject this or me (bad things) for example then that is their decision, however I still know that I did my best.

I am not being rude or trying to judge but the situation sounds very sad for all involved.

xxx

[Deleted User]

OP - I don't believe you! You are not a mean parent really :-)

whitewing

She will (probably) only go to University once in her life. Presumably you haven't always hated her, and you may come to like her and be proud of her in the future. I think you should support her a bit (whether that means financially or practically), and maybe set some money aside regularly in case you should want to change your mind. It is quite sad that you can say you hate your daughter - maybe you could get some independent help with that aspect.

gozaimasu

It was my understanding that a parent is still financially responsible for a child up to the age of 25 if they are still in full-time education.

So whilst you definitely don't have to give her anything; if she gets wind of your nasty and vindictive plan, then she might sue you in retaliation and the courts may well rule in her favour.

It was ruled by SAAS/SLC that parents should make a certain contribution based on their income, and the student gets the remainder as a loan for living costs. Just like you, my parents didn't give me any money as per that "recommendation" and I resent them for it. I got a measly loan as assessed by the SLC, and I had to work really hard at uni with lots of part time jobs. As a result my studies suffered and I am unhappy in my current job and unhappy with life. Extentuating circumstances or not, employers are ruthless and judge you purely on numbers.

Not only are you ruining your relationship, you are jeopardising her chances of a successful career and happy life.

Sounds like that's your plan anyway OP.

MeanParent

Does this include maintenance loans as they seem be be based on parents' income?

See here:

moneysavingexpert....
/family/student-loans-tuition-fees-changes

Lokolo

MeanParent wrote: »

Does this include maintenance loans as they seem be be based on parents' income?

See here:

moneysavingexpert....
/family/student-loans-tuition-fees-changes

Everyone is entitled to the basic maintenance loan no matter what parents income.

If the student is entitled to more loan or some grants, they have to get their parents to declare their income.

Cardozo

MeanParent wrote: »

Does this include maintenance loans as they seem be be based on parents' income?

See here:

moneysavingexpert....
/family/student-loans-tuition-fees-changes

As Lokolo said.

This amount is around £3650 IIRC.

MeanParent

So if I don't contribute, she will get about £3,650 a year to live on but will need to pay it back?

That is not going to work with student accommodation costing £120 per week plus food!

Oh well, the little darling will have to get a job!