Kids coming over to play with mine and expecting food and drink!!

black-saturn

Gabriel-Ernest wrote:

If the 6-year old has escaped the care of the person looking after them while the parents are at work, then obviously it's an issue to be addressed. One would hope someone would be at the child's home - surely no parent would leave a 6-year old at home alone?

Sorry but I've had this several times. Parents are both out at work until about 6 or 6.30 so it's just expected that the children in question can come to my house. Until I put my foot down. I'd never even met one of the parents in question but when I started to put my foot down she got my phone number off her daughters mobile and rang me to say how inconvenient it was and how she will have to change her work hours now. If I'm not in the child has to walk the streets until her parents come home. And yes I have contacted social services in the past and informed the school but it still goes on.

Gabriel-Ernest

I'm gobsmacked, black-saturn - both that you were put in that situation and that the authorities are doing nothing. How old is the girl? How long ago was this, and is it now resolved re the imposition on you or is it still ongoing?

play2day

Black Saturn that is truely shocking!!!!!

Gabriel-Ernest

Indeed - I can't believe the authorities won't do something about a 6 year old out on the streets where any pervert could get hold of her or she could wander into the road. That's child abuse, poor kid

black-saturn

Gabriel-Ernest wrote:

I'm gobsmacked, black-saturn - both that you were put in that situation and that the authorities are doing nothing. How old is the girl? How long ago was this, and is it now resolved re the imposition on you or is it still ongoing?

Child in question was about 8 when it started and she's 12 now. I've never minded them coming round but when it got to be a regular thing and it was expected that I fed her too I started to put my foot down by sending her home when we were going to eat. I'm afraid there are plenty of working parents out there who just presume that if a parent is at home they have nothing else to do than look after their children for them. As far as I know she has started going round someone elses now until they get fed up then she will befriend someone else.

play2day

My DS (15) has just come home complete with 4 friends.... unexpected.... and all staying for dinner. Thay have rang their parents. I have already got a roast chicken, pots and veg underway but will stretch it with some frozen peas, sweetcorn and yorkshire puds. The sponge cake will now be sponge and custard to go further. I expect this will cost me an extra £1 for four teenagers.... But at least I know where they are and what they are doing.
My sons friends parents are all working and the kids would fend for themselves if they went home. My DS would be welcome to join them. (Lots of teenagers in an unsupervised house - no thank you!) At the weekend DS will go to his friends and may have lunch there.
IMO £1 for my peace of mind is a small price to pay.

Rachie_B

play2day wrote:

My DS (15) has just come home complete with 4 friends.... unexpected.... and all staying for dinner. Thay have rang their parents. I have already got a roast chicken, pots and veg underway but will stretch it with some frozen peas, sweetcorn and yorkshire puds. The sponge cake will now be sponge and custard to go further. I expect this will cost me an extra £1 for four teenagers.... But at least I know where they are and what they are doing.
My sons friends parents are all working and the kids would fend for themselves if they went home. My DS would be welcome to join them. (Lots of teenagers in an unsupervised house - no thank you!) At the weekend DS will go to his friends and may have lunch there.
IMO £1 for my peace of mind is a small price to pay.

thats lovely of you

is this a one off or a regular occurance though ?
as much as its lovely to have my sons friends over ( we had a sleep over before xmas so an extra 4 10 yr old boys :eek: :rotfl: )
im not sure id want them for dinner a few nights a week on a regular basis !

and did they ask to stay or did you offer ? a huge difference IMO

play2day

Its regular.... 2 -3 times a week maybe. I always offer. I like a houseful!

Spendless

black-saturn wrote:

Victory - I'd like to ask where are the children's parents while their children are at yours? Do you ever speak to them or get a thankyou or an invitation to their house? I bet they are at work?

If the children are 6, they will either be yr 1 or yr 2 (assumming this is in England). Do other schools let 6yo out by schools to walk home by themselves cos they don't at my sons school??

Rachie_B

Spendless wrote:

If the children are 6, they will either be yr 1 or yr 2 (assumming this is in England). Do other schools let 6yo out by schools to walk home by themselves cos they don't at my sons school??

same at my sons school,children are only let out when the teacher can see the parent there

only from yr 2 - juniors are they allowed out of the school without a parent ( but most pick their children up until yr 4 or so)