MONEY MORAL DILEMMA: Should Lisa exchange her gaudy expensive engagement ring?

littleange

I'd also have to question how well do they really know each other.

I'd also say that the engagement ring is not necessary - especially not 2 months wages :eek: Seems a waste of money to me, surely being in love is the important thing.

My lovely boyfriend and I would rather put the money towards a house - I'm not even sure a wedding ring is necessary or even marriage, I'm just happy to be with the one I love!

Buying presents are now banned in our relationship, we can write notes and make pressies thou - all we need is each other.

My boyfriend is my bestfriend - diamonds or anything else don't even come close!

Burlesque_Star

My engagement ring is inherited from my great aunt, which I had re-sized after my fiance & I finally decided to get married.
As his wedding ring, he will wear a plain steel band he already had & my mum has given me her antique wedding ring from when she married my dad (they're happily divorced, good thing I'm not superstitious...).
In total we've spent £50 on the rings & I don't feel any of the romance has been lost!

I do think that you need to be happy with the ring you will be wearing for the rest of your married life.

Congratulations by the way!

spwench

It happened to me, we were both a bit tipsy and my first words were "you need to take that back" I did then day it was very nice but not what I wanted. Took it back to the shop and the only ones I liked were about £500 more expensive!! He then got a refund and I went to the Jewellery quarter in B'ham, I got a lovely ring with a certified diamond(the original one wasn't) and saved him £300!

busabus

Definitely say something, it's going to last a long long time. Not being open and truthfull from the beginning will hurt. But sugar coat of course!

And if the guy's got any sense the first thing he's said to the jewler is "I'll need to be able to exchange it"... I did.

other

bagpuss wrote:

Now all you have to do is find an old fashioned ring pull that isn't stuck to the can..........

I'll get some next time in China for a holiday.....
anyone else want one

BNU_2

Money~Bunny wrote:

She should wait a couple of weeks to see if the ring grows on her. If she still dislikes it then do as drsims said - explain that she loves him very much but the ring isn't her style. Yes he will be miffed for a few days, but if she doesn't tell him, she'll be stuck wearing an item of jewellery she hates. Not the best way to start a marriage!

OK in theory, but they would need to check the jewellers return policy/their statutory rights or else risk being saddled with it for good.

If it is as bad as gaudy as the OP indicates then just maybe the jeweller will not be too please to see it back?

- Just a thought...

juliaw

Can somebody please explain how the men who buy engagement rings without their girlfriends present, know what size to get?

sue_balu

I'm usually quite an upright citizen but this dilemma has made me realise I'm totally immoral!
I'd be too cowardly to tell him and so I would be careless with the ring probably lose it and get him to claim on his insurance to buy another which I'd chose with him!
(by the way I've had full contents insurance for 33 years and only ever made one claim for storm damage - so its lucky my engagement ring (inexpensive but which I still think is one of the most beautiful I've ever seen)is now too small to wear and is tucked safely away.

martynhawkins

mrsbez wrote:

.......i always remember this one young lad who bought an engagement ring which was a good £1000, she didn't like it and came in to change it for one worth £2500. The poor chaps face as he maxed out all his credit cards to pay for it. Shall we say this is not what love should be about!!!!!!

A very good point. I think everyone who has said to exchange it would agree with me here - exchange for a cheaper one, or equal value, that she likes. Exchanging it for one more than twice as expensive seems very ungreatful, and very selfish. I wouldn't be with someone that didn't understand the value of money - I'd have got the refund and let her buy herself a ring!

Techno

Can't she say it's too big/small/causing a terrible allergy (which my friends wedding ring has done so it is possible) and then return it for one 'that fits' or she isn't allergic to - then again not telling a man the total truth about a gift he has bought her - no woman would do that - would she!!!!