MONEY MORAL DILEMMA: Should Lisa exchange her gaudy expensive engagement ring?

mskitten2904

oh gosh... tell him! he loves her so he'l understand! if he dont then maybe she needs to rethink! lol

Dead_Eye_Jones

Lisa should call the whole thing off, this clearly shows that Michael doesnt know her that well at all even after 4 years. She should be very concerned, exactly who does he think he is going out with. Someone who is impressed by flashing the cash and grand statements of wealth?!

The ring I purchased was small and perfectly formed, money wasnt an issue in selection, I was always going to buy the ring that matched her, whatever the cost. Fortunately I found the perfect ring, simple, elegant, beautiful, much like the misses (well except the simple bit I guess !), and it didnt cost that much at all. Not only did she love it but all her friends couldnt believe I had picked it myself, but then I knew her well enough to know what would make her happy... (well at least I hope so anyway lol!)

Lisa - run away (and sell the ring )!

jono_3-2_2

I bought a £100 'coke can ring pull' for the proposal and we both went shopping for the real ring.
We were in NZ when I proposed and we bought the real deal in Singapore on the way back to the UK.
She still has the 'ring pull' as she says it is special. I certainly would never have bought the real thing without her. I even joked before the proposal that she would get a ring pull as an engagement ring.

uniquegirl

Hi,

I reckon if they have been together for so long then they must have a really strong bond, honesty is 99.99% recurring always best in any case, so Lisa should ( tactfully) suggest that the ring be exchanged for one more befitting- after all, it is Lisa who is going to be hopefullt be wearing it, for a long, long time to come! Richard will want his hard- earned money well spent!

Uniquegirl

uniquegirl

Hi,

I reckon if they have been together for so long then they must have a really strong bond, honesty is 99.99% recurring always best in any case, so Lisa should ( tactfully) suggest that the ring be exchanged for one more befitting- after all, it is Lisa who is going to be hopefullt be wearing it, for a long, long time to come! Richard will want his hard- earned money well spent!

Uniquegirl

missthang

I think you shold tell him, let him read all these comments and say you would rather be honest because you LOVE him.

NatFeerick

She should gently explain to him that she doesn't need a big flashy ring to prove how much he loves her, she knows he does, and if they exchanged it for something more delicate they could put the spare cash towards the wedding fund.

If something like this ends up causing a major row, I'm not sure they should be getting married at all!

wendyjj

Yes, she should tell him that she would prefer a different ring. She should know him well enough on how to word it to him & get a ring she'll love. Part of the engagement thing is admiring the ring on your finger!!!
I should add that I didn't choose my own ring, but my husband chose a gorgeous diamond solitaire.

woodklan

She should tell him nicely that she would love to wear his ring - but one that they chose together. My husband bought me a diamond for Valentine's Day - we had been after one for a pinky ring for nearly a year. It was far too big and we returned it (yes, a woman who returned a diamond!) for a refund - the jewellers couldn't believe what I was doing! We eventually got one that we both liked, that wasn't too big and one that I wasn't embarrassed to wear. They need to be able to be truthful with each other without either one taking offence - men can't always get it right but if you don't tell them when they get it wrong how can they improve!!

Ethanol

If I were to propose to my girlfriend, I would expect her to say if she didn't like the ring; in fact, I would ask her if she liked it.

She would answer honestly, and if it were not she wanted then it would of course be exchanged. My feelings wouldn't be hurt - I would just want what she wanted and be glad that she had told me.