I want to ask someone out but...

Gillyx

Tell him... if he's a good friend, even if nothing happens there won't be any awkwardness.

This thread has made me even happier with my decision to go on the donor list, I hope it all works out for you xx

GlasweJen

Any tips? Should I get it all over with at once or should I tell him about how bad the illness is tomorrow and leave everything else for another day?

And if i'm leaving it, how long should I give him?

yvonne13_2

GlasweJen wrote: »

Any tips? Should I get it all over with at once or should I tell him about how bad the illness is tomorrow and leave everything else for another day?

And if i'm leaving it, how long should I give him?

Hun, tell him everything all at once. Let him know that you love him, you have nothing to lose. I think (even though I don't know him) he loves you too and as more than a just friend. Enjoy your time together before you go back home. Knowing that you were truly happy before going should also give your family and friends and yourself strength in this difficult time.

Gillyx

I think it's a case of all or nothing

You will need to come back and let us know how it goes!

youluckypanda

Another vote for everything at once. Difficult, but definitely the right thing to do. Hope your heart finds you soon.x

louise3965

Sit him down and tell him everything, he's a friend and you need him so just take a deep breath and do it xxxxxxx

DueMarch11

Tell him all at once, best of luck. Do come back and update us xxxxxxxxxxxxx

System

I think you should tell him, it will be a shock for him but either he'll feel the same way about you or he'll hopefully contiune to be a good friend. I hope you do get a transplant hun. And i hope you can have some happiness from this relationship.

Decluttering

My sympathies, this must be a difficult situation for you. I think you should tell him. He's going to be upset either way if you do and he might then face the same dilemma of wanting to tell you how he feels.

I've just confirmed with my boyfriend that this makes sense, we were in a similar situation before we started going out, except I wasn't ill. He's actually very worried now that there's something seriously wrong with me, despite me stressing it's a hypothetical situation!

DVardysShadow

Every one of us has a lot to give, but by and large complacency gets in the way. GlasweJen, I cannot imagine that you are complacent now. Go for it. You have weighed up the issues, you know what the risks are and the possible downsides. Go for it gently and kindly, I know you will not coerce - but don't hold back on going for it. It is going to require a lot of courage from him. If your judgement about him is right, he will have that courage.

He may not have the courage - in which case you will not have lost anything. But if he has the courage, you will both gain everything.