301k in debt and morbidly obese - things aren't great!

MrBloater

Am not in a good place at the moment. The shed is, I am starting to realise, not just an annoyance, but a real issue. Finally got myself ready to tackle it by 4.30pm - dithering is not usually a big part of my life - but having emptied some of it, sifted through a number of boxes and got seven bin liners full of trash to be taken to the tip, and then had to put everything back into the shed cos the kids were roaming around the garden doing exactly what kids do - i.e. picking up anything and everything that was dangerous - I still find myself with no standing room whatsoever in there. So it feels like a wasted effort. And as for ebaying stuff - that particular ship is going to have to pass, I just haven't got the spirit left. But I am really starting to think that the difficulties in shifting the rubbish in the shed, in shifting the weight, and in shifting the debt are all somehow symptomatic of some other issues that maybe I need to sort out. I am an avid fan of all the hoarding shows on Discovery and Bio, and my shed is definitely my own little hoard.

miggy

I know that when I don't get round to something in a reasonable time, with no good reason, there's definitely something going on in my subconscious! Kids underfoot don't help of course but I still think seven bags to the tip is not to be sneezed at (unless they were very dusty, of course). In fact: :T:T:T

I hope you can get to the bottom of it Mr B: you might be onto something with linking weight, shed and debt. Is it a going-back-to-childhood thing, where you get treats if you are upset? Or feel you need treats which you didn't get? Or something. Alternatively, are you building a protective wall that keeps people out or stops you having to deal with something that might happen if you were the skinny, wealthy owner of a capacious shed/mansion? I know I collect clutter and a certain amount of waistline and those act very effectively to stop me having to cope with unexpected guests, unwanted attention, invitations I'd rather not accept etc.

I suppose the answer is in there somewhere, but maybe not in the shed. I don't doubt that if you can find it you will have a power tool for not going there again.

Anyway, I'm due in work inside the hour so I had better leave you in peace for now. Don't beat yourself up, because you really have done a fair old amount today and if it doesn't go to Ebay, that's all right. Maybe that's just too high a mountain with all the other things you have on your mind, so choose your battles.

patman99

Btw, MrB I forgot to wish you well with your trip to the Dr for a diabetes test. I had to have a blood and urine test 3 weeks back for the same thing. Test came back borderline, so yet another blod test (a fasting one this time), and all came back well.
Considering the fact I was showing at least 3 signs of diabetes, I was mighty relieved.

Also, whilst updating my DFD, I added a link to a credit checking site I found on another thread. As it was free, I used it to check my credit history. I found out that 2 C/Cs I had cancelled were still showing as active a year on.

Hopelessly_Hopeful

MrBloater wrote: »

Am not in a good place at the moment. The shed is, I am starting to realise, not just an annoyance, but a real issue. Finally got myself ready to tackle it by 4.30pm - dithering is not usually a big part of my life - but having emptied some of it, sifted through a number of boxes and got seven bin liners full of trash to be taken to the tip, and then had to put everything back into the shed cos the kids were roaming around the garden doing exactly what kids do - i.e. picking up anything and everything that was dangerous - I still find myself with no standing room whatsoever in there. So it feels like a wasted effort. And as for ebaying stuff - that particular ship is going to have to pass, I just haven't got the spirit left. But I am really starting to think that the difficulties in shifting the rubbish in the shed, in shifting the weight, and in shifting the debt are all somehow symptomatic of some other issues that maybe I need to sort out. I am an avid fan of all the hoarding shows on Discovery and Bio, and my shed is definitely my own little hoard.

I love hoarder next door and life laundry!

I think what is important is to recognise what you have done and have far you have come just as much as what you want to achieve in the future.

Please don't beat yourself up. Celebrate the positives too.

HHx

amber03

I'll come round and sort you out, one thing i'm not is a hoarder and i can be ruthless. Just cleaned out the loft, took no prisoners if it had'nt been used, played with or seen the light of day this year then out it went and it went that day to the tip. Love having days like that and at the end i celebrate with a glass of wine.

You have alot going on at the moment, weight, debt and cleaning. if poss try and focus on one till you have that under control then deal with another otherwise as you say its seems impossible and overwhelming.

keep up the good work and remember we are here if you want to let off steam and will never judge you.x

MrBloater

Been shedding since 6.30am - managed to get a corridor through to the back of the shed, cleared out a whole lot more junk and in a box in the corner found something that I think will help me put some of the pieces of the jigsaw together - my complete collection of DIY Pro-File which I collected from the age of 13 - one of those Free Binder with Part One set of magazines. I have carried them around with me to all the various houses I have lived in since mostly unread but I remember at the time thinking that one day I would be able to fix anything - plumbing, electrics, building, decorating and would be able to renovate houses. Obviously my life turned out wildly different - engineering and IT became my strengths - but I think in all the haording of cables, paintbrushes, tiles, rollers etc there was still a teenage part of me that was clinging on the dream that I would one day be able to utilise these things - it would also explain the sheer rage I feel with myself when unable to complete a DIY task - it's all bound up with my adolescent perception (unhindered by role models or siblings) of what being a man was all about. Needless to say I have now binned the magazines and maybe a weight will lift from me. I now have enough space in the shed to do a spot of riverdancing.

Annie021063

MrBloater wrote: »

Been shedding since 6.30am - managed to get a corridor through to the back of the shed, cleared out a whole lot more junk and in a box in the corner found something that I think will help me put some of the pieces of the jigsaw together - my complete collection of DIY Pro-File which I collected from the age of 13 - one of those Free Binder with Part One set of magazines. I have carried them around with me to all the various houses I have lived in since mostly unread but I remember at the time thinking that one day I would be able to fix anything - plumbing, electrics, building, decorating and would be able to renovate houses. Obviously my life turned out wildly different - engineering and IT became my strengths - but I think in all the haording of cables, paintbrushes, tiles, rollers etc there was still a teenage part of me that was clinging on the dream that I would one day be able to utilise these things - it would also explain the sheer rage I feel with myself when unable to complete a DIY task - it's all bound up with my adolescent perception (unhindered by role models or siblings) of what being a man was all about. Needless to say I have now binned the magazines and maybe a weight will lift from me. I now have enough space in the shed to do a spot of riverdancing.

lol if you see the image in my head, you, a tiny space in a dusty shed with green tights and big grin, dancing away lol

gallygirl

MrBloater wrote: »

I now have enough space in the shed to do a spot of riverdancing.

From 50 Sheds:
"She sighed as my right hand moved slowly in & out and gasped as I thrust it in one more time. It isn't easy doing the hokey cokey in a shed."

Should have been in your shed Mr B :T.

tryingtobegood

gallygirl wrote: »

From 50 Sheds:
"She sighed as my right hand moved slowly in & out and gasped as I thrust it in one more time. It isn't easy doing the hokey cokey in a shed."

Should have been in your shed Mr B :T.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Will need to read 50 SHEDS then.....haven't bothered with the shades yet

Igamogam

Got back from the 'games' feeling inspired to do something not least get back on that DFW cart but finding excues not to and what do I find .............. Mr B is back My inspiration is now complete and I will get back to my diary and update. Glad to hear Mount Boden hasnt grown - thats an achievement in itself - I write from experence on that one;) The Matrixettes have just 'moved on' they still exist but in other forms........ Now the whole shifting debt weight clutter thing...........I think you are right that the 3 are often related and link back to something else and sometimes when that 'something else' is sorted the rest becomes easier to deal with.......well I am pretty sure that true in my case.

Good luck Mr B with the next chapter and I will be following again.......never really stopped TBH