Christmas Escape from Mother in Law & Stepson

richardw

ska_lover wrote: »

What is so wrong with doing whatever you want at xmas? What is wrong with being completely and totally selfish and doing whatever the heck you like? Nothing.

Exactly. Nothing wrong with doing what you want at all.

shop-to-drop

Aren't Christmas day flights fairly cheap?

Also 'last minute' package deals for Xmas week can be pretty cheap. We went to Slovenia skiing for a week one Xmas and it was a bargain. I think we flew out on the 20th. Booked it a few months ahead so not that lst minute either.

Jerryjerryjerry

lurvlyloz wrote: »

jerryjerryjerry can i come with you? i'll bring my xmas pie and chips

Oh, go on then!

Jerryjerryjerry

ska_lover wrote: »

Wow, I am amazed that people get so aggressive and riled up by what a complete stranger wants to do at xmas!!

I completely understand not wanting to spend xmas with your mil. I have been there, and sitting in someone elses house, eating what they like, playing games that they like, watching whatever they like on tele,opening presents when they like. You cant even have a cuppa or drink without an offer, or asking if they mind you making one. You have to do xmas their way!! Spending time in someone elses crowded house with other relations you don't see from one end of the year to the next, and xmas day is always a long day - so a longer than normal visit, hours on end of it. Cooped up on someone elses settee with four other people for six hours is not even bearable, never mind ''anyone having a good time?''

I have spent a couple of xmas with the inlaws, and I really really hate it. I haven't told my hubby. It is really crap - and I feel like I havent really had a christmas when we have spent it elsewhere.

What is so wrong with doing whatever you want at xmas? What is wrong with being completely and totally selfish and doing whatever the heck you like? Nothing. Other family members will just have to suck it up.

OP if you want to spend xmas day on holiday with your hubby then good luck to ya. Most of the haters are just jealous cos they know they will be sat round grumpy relatives eating brussel sprouts that most people hate and haven't got the guts to do what you are doing!!!!

Even If you want to spend xmas day running up and down the beach covered with green jelly, (which is what I am going to be doing) you shouldn't have to justify yourself to a bunch of (what sound like) bitter-old-women-who-have-never-done-anything-they-wanted-with-their-own-lives-and-are-trying-to-make-you-feel-guilty-for-enjoying-your-one-precious-life in a forum. Sod um!

Hey! thank you.. loving your work here. I especially like the idea of running up and down the beach covered in green jelly!

Jerryjerryjerry

shop-to-drop wrote: »

Aren't Christmas day flights fairly cheap?

Also 'last minute' package deals for Xmas week can be pretty cheap. We went to Slovenia skiing for a week one Xmas and it was a bargain. I think we flew out on the 20th. Booked it a few months ahead so not that lst minute either.

I have found a couple of flights going out on Christmas day to be relatively cheap.

I'm wondering whether to leave it really late.. but then we would risk having nowhere to go. If that happened, I'd suddenly acquire women's problems and send him to MIL's on his own..

margaretclare

We have a small airport within walking distance of where we live, or a cheap taxi-ride. Wonder what they have on offer at Christmas. I mentioned Tenerife (Los Cristianos) to DH and he immediately mentioned 'hours queuing in an airport..' http://www.echo-news.co.uk/news/9094621.Southend_Airport__More_routes_lined_up/

The OP mentioned MIL 'hiding behind religion'. Well, there is no mention of the exact date in the Bible. One year I'd had hip surgery and was still on crutches. We felt sorry for a woman DH knew from the computer club and we asked her to lunch. She then went all pathetic on us and said 'you're not going to throw me out for the rest of the day, are you?' I was watching the Royal Ballet, she said the prima ballerina had 'no boobs'. And so on. And her little dog, which p***ed. She eventually went about 8 pm when she realised she wasn't going to see the soaps she wanted, I wanted a film. I almost thought we were going to have her overnight because she 'couldn't go out in the dark'. I said to DH 'Never ever do that to me again, no matter if you think it's the "Christian" thing to do!'

lurvlyloz

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Jerryjerryjerry wrote: »

Oh, go on then!

yay. now i can open a post "omg i'm going on holiday with a person who wants to run on a beach with green Jelly...what about the MIL"

Jerryjerryjerry

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Egypt is a good bet for a fun-filled week, but bear in mind there are plenty of annoying people there though.

Really? You seem comfortable enough conveying your feelings behind the anonymity of a pseudonym.


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I don't think informing you MIL of your feelings towards her and your SS will help at all. Go ahead and book that break, and then tell your MIL straight away. She'll then have 4 months to get used to it, and your actions will speak louder than words. If she invites you over again, just refuse politely. But if she asks you for a reason, then tell the truth, and keep it neutral. Try not to hurt her feelings, but do convey the fact that you have little in common and you can't believe that she actually enjoys spending the day with you anyway.

Really? You seem comfortable enough conveying your feelings behind the anonymity of a pseudonym.

Do you realise how daft this line is?

Its like me saying, "i find early monday mornings at work really hard". and then you saying, really? you seem to find saturday nights, out in a nice restaurant quite rewarding though don't you?

Jerryjerryjerry

lurvlyloz wrote: »

:money:


yay. now i can open a post "omg i'm going on holiday with a person who wants to run on a beach with green Jelly...what about the MIL"

Stop it! i'm falling about on the floor now! AND i've got a white cardi on!

Jerryjerryjerry

margaretclare wrote: »

We have a small airport within walking distance of where we live, or a cheap taxi-ride. Wonder what they have on offer at Christmas. I mentioned Tenerife (Los Cristianos) to DH and he immediately mentioned 'hours queuing in an airport..' http://www.echo-news.co.uk/news/9094621.Southend_Airport__More_routes_lined_up/

The OP mentioned MIL 'hiding behind religion'. Well, there is no mention of the exact date in the Bible. One year I'd had hip surgery and was still on crutches. We felt sorry for a woman DH knew from the computer club and we asked her to lunch. She then went all pathetic on us and said 'you're not going to throw me out for the rest of the day, are you?' I was watching the Royal Ballet, she said the prima ballerina had 'no boobs'. And so on. And her little dog, which p***ed. She eventually went about 8 pm when she realised she wasn't going to see the soaps she wanted, I wanted a film. I almost thought we were going to have her overnight because she 'couldn't go out in the dark'. I said to DH 'Never ever do that to me again, no matter if you think it's the "Christian" thing to do!'

Hahahaha. lovely story. By the way, I can't bear long queues at airports.. so thanks for that tip.