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dipsy

I have basically decided that when i see him later its over if he doesn't sort his !!!! out final..... as I said previously I said:

I won't be playing second fiddle to anyone, made to feel like I am a mistress waiting in the background, if you want me you sort it and if you dont we are over.

balletshoes

dipsy wrote: »

I won't be waiting around for him to call me not at all, and we haven't split up ever, we get along great, no issues but the ex is the issue, I am going to walk away if he is too weak to make a decision and that will be that, I haven't said it is fine at all I have told him it is totally unfine and I won't be hanging around at all

sorry Dipsy, I misread your first post - it was the ex he split up with twice.

make_me_wise

dipsy wrote: »

I have basically decided that when i see him later its over if he doesn't sort his !!!! out final..... as I said previously I said:

I won't be playing second fiddle to anyone, made to feel like I am a mistress waiting in the background, if you want me you sort it and if you dont we are over.

You are doing exactly the right thing. Im sure it must hurt like hell right now but think of it as saving yourself from alot of anxiety and upset in the long run. He'd be pure daft to give up on you two for a suicidal, manipulative type.

balletshoes

dipsy wrote: »

I replied

Ha ha, how funny me depressed, sod that that sounds too much like hard work…. Never gonna happen, sometimes !!!! happens and it throws us off kilter that’s all, and over active mind and lack of sleep certainly doesn’t help.

Anyway who says I didn’t have my roof down lol… but your right I didn’t, bit too grey for even me this morningJ

As for your assistance, thanks for the offer, you are 100% correct it is something out of my control and as such makes it more difficult to reach a right and proper solution, but I will, it’s my job J although I am not getting paid for this sadly lol

Cool, calm, collected, nothing can phase me, hmmmmmmmmmmm, well 97% of the time this would be true J but I am a human not a robot J


I am not sure the reference to Margaret Thatcher is at all helpful really lol

see an email like that would have absolutely infuriated me after everything that you went through last night - I'd have just replied telling him its not fe**ing funny and he's a knob!

dipsy

balletshoes wrote: »

sorry Dipsy, I misread your first post - it was the ex he split up with twice.

Yes lol no need to apologise x

dipsy

balletshoes wrote: »

see an email like that would have absolutely infuriated me after everything that you went through last night - I'd have just replied telling him its not fe**ing funny and he's a knob!

To be fair its the normal banter we would have in our emails, I haven't actually told him at this point the reason for my not sleeping etc..... although I am sure he can work it out, even being a bloke, he can't fail to work it out lol

anyway he has one last shot later to tell me its sorted and she has been told in no uncertain terms, if not I walk and thats it, I have more self respect, I will walk away knowing I was the innocent party in all of this, I did nothing wrong except be kept in the dark about a crazy ex .......

but what I won't be doing is allowing it to roll on now I know

pimento

You two need to actually talk to each other. Both your emails are full of nervous "lol" and smiley faces, when I suspect that's the last thing you both mean.

The jokey banter has to stop long enough for you to say what you need to say to each other.

For what it's worth, he sounds like a prize and you sound like you're worth more.

Good luck.

DVardysShadow

dipsy wrote: »

Its all so bloody confusing he has just emailed me at work to say

You’re just depressed because you couldn’t drive to work with ya roof down, poser, lol.

2 hours kip is not good. Did the strangling of the pillow not work then, lol.

If i can assist with your !!!!, i’d be glad to help, but i must warn you i’m no expert. I usually get people in the !!!!, no out of it, lol.
What’s happened to that cool, calm, collected, nothing can phase me kind of woman with strong hands. It must be something to do with outside factors that are out of your control, or you’d have it all sorted. You remind me of Margret Thatcher, Miss Iron Lady, lol.


He can't possibly not know its all about his situation, no man is that dumb or is he just using avoidance tactics.... I am going to remove his man parts when i see him later lol

I would say you are attracting the wrong kind of man.

lurvlyloz

i think you need to stay strong & do exactly what you have planned in telling him that your off. it would def be best to get out now than stay "on hold".you're either together or you're not. you shouldn't be made to wait for him.

Good luck dipsy x

fannyanna

Dipsy - I don't think you're helping yourself here.

One minute you're fuming in yoru messages to us and saying that you're going to split with him and the next your replying to his email in a fun and flirtatious manner.

When you have a go at him later he's going to act all confused and not really know what's hit him. And to be honest I can understand why. You need to be consistent with him. You're angry (quite rightly) with him so let him know. Don't let him think he's off the hook by being nicey, nicey to him on email.