Possibly over-reacting but MY HOUSE, MY RULES

meer53

Rain_is_Insane wrote: »

No, I cook for both of us and plate it up earlier...not ideal I know, but it's either that or start cooking at 8pm When I get home from work:o.

Not many 17 year olds die from starvation these days. Let him find his own food, it's amazing how fast they learn where the oven is. My son was amazed when he found out how easy it is to cook frozen pizza. Cold beans never killed anyone either. If he's hungry he'll eat.

ska_lover

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

id expect a teenager as intelligent as the ops one to realise where his bread is buttered and stop smoking. you seem to think hes too stupid to do that for some reason.;)

but if that fails we do have an overly generous welfare state (one that currently supplies his cigs to the tune of £25 each week for nothing!) so i dont think hed find himself homeless.

You really do not know what you are talking about, do you?:rotfl:

I am 100% sure that the OP has more abition for her son than for him to end up on the dole.

Please don't bother to reply, you are boring me now, repeating yourself. I said repeating yourself.

dirtysexymonkey

Blue_Elephant wrote: »

Same as police officers confiscate alcohol from minors, but actually it's perfectly legal to give a child under 18 alochol. They just can't buy it.

Secondly, what makes you think that the child would not simply hide it from the parent? You can't keep a 17 year old in your sight 24/7. As long as smoking remains legal, people will smoke.


We don't know that the smoking HAS gone unchallenged, we just know that the OP knows he smokes, I believe that that in itself is a massive difference.

Do you also believe that children who drink should be thrown out of their homes too? Alcohol is a big killer too. And these children who were part of all the riots, they put themselves and others in big danger, so they should all be thrown out. We could have special hostels for these kids, what do you think? And call them workhouses...

you can drink alcohol responsibly, you can't smoke responsibly. smoking smells too.;)

and do note that i said threaten to throw them out (ska lover doesn't seem to be able to read). whos gonna choose a filthy habit over a safe and free home?;)

dirtysexymonkey

ska_lover wrote: »

You really do not know what you are talking about, do you?:rotfl:

I am 100% sure that the OP has more abition for her son than for him to end up on the dole.

Please don't bother to reply, you are boring me now, repeating yourself. I said repeating yourself.

she might but you dont seem to think he has the intelligence to give up smoking. what a low opinion you must have of her child.

then again your someone who cant differentiate a threat to an action.:rotfl:

peachyprice

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

and do note that i said threaten to throw them out (ska lover doesn't seem to be able to read). whos gonna choose a filthy habit over a safe and free home?;)

Erm, a teenager who thinks they know it all perhaps?

ska_lover

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

she might but you dont seem to think he has the intelligence to give up smoking. what a low opinion you must have of her child.

then again your someone who cant differentiate a threat to an action.:rotfl:

In fact he seems a bright child given the fact he gets such good grades. I have never met him or had any correspondance with him to know any different - have you?

ska_lover

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

you can drink alcohol responsibly, you can't smoke responsibly. smoking smells too.;)

and do note that i said threaten to throw them out (ska lover doesn't seem to be able to read). whos gonna choose a filthy habit over a safe and free home?;)

Yes I can read thanks. If we are going to be patronising, you might want to go to an adult education class to learn use of capital letters and puntuation.

What is the point of 'threatening' anything with kids and teenagers? There is none.

They have got to know you are going to follow up on any kind of 'threat', or you are quite literally wasting your breath saying the words. If I say to my son that if he does not do something, or he will loose his internet for a week, if the job is not done, the internet is revoked without further discussion. You must only threaten punishments of which you will 100% carry out and not back down on, cos teenagers will always push the boundaries if they think they can.

If they think you are saying empty words you will get no respect whatsoever and nothing will change.

I get the feeling from your posts that you have never been the parent of a teenager or you you would know this already without a stranger in a chatroom having to spell it out for you.

pickledonionspaceraider

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

she might but you dont seem to think he has the intelligence to give up smoking. what a low opinion you must have of her child.

then again your someone who cant differentiate a threat to an action.:rotfl:

The rest of us = Earth

This person = World of their own.

yvonne13_2

Your son is being an adult about the situation. He told you what his plans were and he respected you to follow that rule that you gave him. But is this really about him Telling you what he is doing or is it about him growing up and leaving the nest???

Sometimes if you hold on to tight you can end up losing out in the end. Time is the master and communication is the key, you have a great son so don't get to bothered on simple things, as I said communication is the key just tell him how you feel.

ska_lover

Absolutely, Blue Elephant.

I also speak from experience of having this happen to me. I was kicked out of the family home at 15 years old, I gave my parents the two fingered salute and went on my merry way..until I got as far as the bus stop and realised I had no idea where I was going to be sleeping that night. I was one of them that thought I knew it all...

I never went back, nor was offered to go back home, but I would honestly say it did ruin my early life.

I've got a 19 year old lad, and there is nothing on earth he could do that would make me want to punish him enough by ruining his life.