Possibly over-reacting but MY HOUSE, MY RULES

Rain_is_Insane

FairnessForAll wrote: »

I had 6 on the go at the same time when I was his age.:o:D

Ha Ha!! not helping love x

mishkanorman

I think you are being harsh too, at 17 he will be being told on one side of things he is a grown up and should act like one (college, peers, etc) and from the other he is treated like a child until he reaches that magical 18 !

Late teens are bloody tough on so many levels I think it would be better to let minor things go, but have a word next time you are face to face and tell him how you feel about his lack of thought towards you.

Jinx

I think you are over-reacting. You set the rules, he followed them and you still arent happy.... All because he told you rather than asked. Hes 17, not a child and it sounds like in the main that hes a decent person so IMO cut him some slack...

By 16 I was working and staying at my boyfriends flat every weekend - my mum used to tear her hair out but I was used to my independence and was cutting the apron strings She used to get irate and most of it was because I refused to ask permission and she was losing control.

Sambucus_Nigra

OP. You said you asked him to let you know....not you asked him to ask you if it was ok to stay out.

Rain_is_Insane

Jinx wrote: »

I think you are over-reacting. You set the rules, he followed them and you still arent happy.... All because he told you rather than asked.

I'm 36 and still "ask" my mum rather than "telling" her anything. (different era i think)

I do appreciate all the comments and I will ask my DS to just take a peek at this thread and maybe we can come to a compromise.

Thank you again x

Jinx

Rain_is_Insane wrote: »

I'm 36 and still "ask" my mum rather than "telling" her anything. (different era i think)

I do appreciate all the comments and I will ask my DS to just take a peek at this thread and maybe we can come to a compromise.

Thank you again x

LOL not a different era, I'm 37.

ETA - different families perhaps lol All stubborn, bossy and I know best in my family

Rain_is_Insane

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

OP. You said you asked him to let you know....not you asked him to ask you if it was ok to stay out.

Ok I'll give you that one x

whitewing

Is it just you and DS at home?

Is some of the problem that he is being inconsiderate of the fact that you have devoted your life to him and now he's off without so much as a backward glance? (which actually means you've done a superb job).

I saw a programme on dwarfism recently with the daughter being the same age as your son, and mother. They went to Marrakech. Would be worth watching that if anyone knows what I'm talking about and can link it in. It was good as it showed how hard it was for both to adjust to the teen becoming independent.

CFC

At the end of the day, you're keeping him, it is your house, your rules, but you need to make absolutely clear exactly what 'your rules' are, because it isn't clear.

Rain_is_Insane

Jinx wrote: »

LOL not a different era, I'm 37.

ETA - different families perhaps lol All stubborn, bossy and I know best in my family

LOL...meant different era between my DS and me...not me and you x