Did anyone Used to Get Smacked as a Child?

Lotus-eater

I've smacked my toddler a couple of time when he was really naughty and wouldn't take any notice of me. I never had to smack my older DD.
He thought it was a joke and now we have a problem with him going round hitting other people all the time. That made me realise that there is no point teaching him to not hit other people, by hitting him! Was does that tell him? Stronger and bigger is better....
So now I don't believe in it, I don't believe it works well and I don't like it. Boring them, is a much better alternative.

kawasaki_dave

sparrer wrote: »

I apologise sincerely for my son's remarks and intervention in the thread (how embarrassing some children can be ), he obviously didn't have enough good hidings as a child .

On a slightly more serious note, yes I was smacked and no it never did me any harm. Unless my dad got up to do the smacking - then I ran.

I have 3 step children now and whilst smacking is an option, it's one very rarely used. They know the boundaries and despite my 14 year old wanting to test them daily, he's never quite brave enough to step over the line. I hope it's because under the teenage angst he's a bit more respectful than that, though I sometimes fear it's because he fears the consequences, knowing full well at 14 he's not too old to get a hiding.

busiscoming2

I haven't read all the posts but I was smacked as a child, usually with a damp tea towel round the top of the arm or leg (well that's what I remember) maybe I was a pain while they were drying up.

My kids were smacked when they were little, I warned them first and then did it if there behaviour didn't improve. Have to say it was only a few times for each of them and the threat was usually enough to make them change their mind!

I think I have grown up to be an all right person and so have my kids so far.

kat74

I was smacked occasionally as a child (late 70's / early 80's).
If I'd some something to warrent a smack i was sent up to my room to wait for 5 minutes before my dad would come up and smack me.

The waiting for the smack was probably worse than the smack itself, and it also meant I was never smacked in anger.

ETanny

I used to get the odd swipe of the legs and hand/arm by mum - pretty much always leaving a red mark. I was maybe smacked once as a child by my dad. I cant remember what for now but by george it bloomin' hurt! (Im now 23) and never crossed him again. He had this look though that scared the creeps outta me!

I have only hit my DD a couple of times and realised it wasnt having a good effect so stopped it. She started hitting out. Once that stopped and we started the naughty chair/step/corner (depending where we are!) her behaviour improved ten fold. Im one of these parents who will sit my child in a corner while we are out if they are misbehaving - stare at me all you like I dont care haha.

I imagine just as smacking is frownd upon now - there will be some 'research' in 20 years time saying the naughty step is hurting children psycologically and the next way of disciplining children will be in force.

Remember many moons ago smoking was Great for your health... We know otherwise now. So just because it was good for us, doesnt mean it acutally is

MrsAtobe

I used to get smacked across the face by my mother (child of the 70's), she stopped after I blacked out once.

I was warned however, and the third time was a smack. I count myself luckier than my older siblings mind you, they got the wooden spoon!

The only time I have ever hit another person was my older niece when she was a toddler. We'd been out for a walk, and she'd got tired, so I was carrying her. She decided to grab my hair and pull my head back so that I couldn't see where we were going while we were crossing the road. I asked her to let go, nothing. I tried to disentagle her fingers - nothing doing, she just laughed. So I smacked her nappy. Result? She let go. Do I feel guilty about it? Hell, yes. Does she remember it? No. Would I do it again in the same circumstances? Yes, but I'd still feel guilty about it.

Not sure what this contributes!

ska_lover

Plenty of times!

We are reaping the benefits of this softly softly parenting and teaching approach now - just look at the recent riots, mostly teenagers from what i saw

Torry_Quine

ska_lover wrote: »

Plenty of times!

We are reaping the benefits of this softly softly parenting and teaching approach now - just look at the recent riots, mostly teenagers from what i saw

It's too simplistic to say that if the children and youths involved had been hit by parents they wouldn't have rioted, in fact the opposite is more likely. Those involved may not have been subject to proper discipline and moral guidance though but that is completely different and shouldn't need to involve violence

pixiedust88_2

I was smacked if naughty. I didn't like being smacked, so I was seldom naughty. It works! Not a full on beating of course, but a smack and the punishment of taking away privileges makes a difference to children’s behaviour. Kids today are so rude to their parents and teachers, its shocking.

We are going to see a generation of the most spoilt ridiculous adults the world has ever seen, it will be the end. :rotfl:

billybluehat_2

I got smacked for burning a hole in my bedroom carpet. I tried to hide it by covering it with my lego. 1st i got told off for not tidying my room. then i got really told off when i did tidy my room and my parents saw a foot wide burn hole in my carpet. imo i deserved it I've never burnt a hole in my bedroom carpet since either. does that mean the punishment was effective? ;-0

I couldn't imagine smacking my little girl tho, would just break my heart.