Trying for a Baby Part 7

2ba3c

Secretdebts wrote: »

Thanks Nikki. I might have accidentally bought some so I'll let you know what they're like.

I just bought some of the CBFM digital thingymabobwhatsits... that were out of their outta wrapping, and they seem OK.

xx

Pistachio

Hi 2ba3c, I am up the duff and have decided not to do anything on FB at all. I am so aware that I could upset others or seem insensitive so I thought it was best not to bother at all. I called or emailed the people we wanted to know, a few have written "congrats" etc on my Wall, but there has been no specific allusion to my uptheduffness otherwise.

walby1993

Hugs for a rubbish weekend Tink

Glad the surgery for your dad went well BigZ

QQ, when you do tomorrow's list can you put me down as 3DPO please? (2DPO today I think).

bigzippy

2ba3c wrote: »

Just flying by to share this with you all and ask what your thoughts were: http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/nov/22/facebook-status-update-im-pregnant

xx

Pistachio wrote: »

Hi 2ba3c, I am up the duff and have decided not to do anything on FB at all. I am so aware that I could upset others or seem insensitive so I thought it was best not to bother at all. I called or emailed the people we wanted to know, a few have written "congrats" etc on my Wall, but there has been no specific allusion to my uptheduffness otherwise.

I think I'd be like you pistachio. I don't want to broadcast scan pictures other than to those who want to/ask to see them, don't want to bang on about every symptom etc, and most importantly, wouldn't change my profile pic to a scan pic - that's the one that gets to me most with people, because it's there on every comment you put on anyone's status - so even if your own posts are hidden, your profile pic still isn't - iyswim?

I've found myself withdrawing from fb a lot more lately though, and actually deleted a couple of years worth of posts systematically, because I don't like how much fb has/has on show, especially when the new timeline view comes out - in doing that it made me realise how much of statuses are just self indulgent rubbish, so have cut down a lot of what I post now too - if that makes sense? I won't mind if people say stuff on there - it's not a secrecy thing, but I won't want to make a big thing of going on about it all the time, because for some it's not interesting and/or is painful for them to see. Plus it's private (in a way) to us, and the folk I'd talk to about it I'd talk to outside of fb anyway...

Just my thoughts (not so eloquently put!)

Waiting on DH getting home from visiting MIL so we can have some tasty hotpot for tea that I've got in the oven... mmmmm

emsbet

2ba3c wrote: »

Just flying by to share this with you all and ask what your thoughts were: http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/nov/22/facebook-status-update-im-pregnant

xx

I think it's a personal decision.

We announced that I was pg on fb as we live 80miles from our home town so it was the quickest way to tell our friends. The downside was that we had to tell everyone when Alex died:(. I didn't have any of those weekly updates on my page and I didn't put my scan pictures on there.

I do find it hard seeing people's announcements but I did the same so can't complain. If it gets a bit much with people constantly updating about their baby I just temporarily hide them from my news feed.

xx

Nicki

I put a short announcement on when I passed the 3 month mark with DS2 but no pictures/scans/updates or comments about the pregnancy, then nothing again until he was born, when we again posted a newborn picture of him with his birth details. Since then, we have posted no more or less about him than any of our other children. I think having experienced both extended infertility and a miscarriage before DS2 came along, on some level we were aware that anything more could be hard for others to read. With DD and DS1 facebook hadn't been invented I don't think!

Secretdebts

2ba3c wrote: »

Just flying by to share this with you all and ask what your thoughts were: http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/nov/22/facebook-status-update-im-pregnant

xx

A quote from the article .... I find it all rather - dare I say it? - boring, and a bit yuck. I don't feel the need to know what your uterus is doing this week, thank you.......

She'd be alright on here finding out about our cm updates :rotfl::rotfl:

I'm kind of torn about it. I love to see people's pregnancy updates and whilst it can upset me at times I like to know what's happening with my friends (although I have removed an acquaintance who is not happy about her pregnancy). If I get a Bfp though I am very undecided about what will be on my Facebook. I have relatives that have been trying to ttc for years and I wouldn't like to think that my updates would upset them even though some of their posts I find quite insensitive. Confused!

Kitten_Pie

Secretdebts wrote: »

Thanks Nikki. I might have accidentally bought some so I'll let you know what they're like.

Think I might invest in a couple, have loads of IC's (accidently over ordered and have about 25)

Flee wrote: »

Glad your Dad is out of surgery bigz.

TMI alert: Ohhh I need some advice. My period started last week on Wednesday and the bleeding has been fresh with no period pains, and I have been in a very good mood (opposite of how I normally am).
Last three days have been lighter and the blood is very pink mixed in with clear CM. There is no dark blood to suggest that it is drying up. Should I be worried? In the past my period would be red for a few days and bad pain and the period blood would go darker.
Only thing is I have cramping especially on the lower left side which I have constantly atm.
I think I should go to the doctors and am going to make an appointment for tomorrow. I am worried. :S

Glad things are going better for your dad and Mil BZ (Thinking of you all)

Flee if you are worried, there is no harm in getting it checked out. Better to be thought of as a worrier than ignore something.

2ba3c wrote: »

Just flying by to share this with you all and ask what your thoughts were: http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/nov/22/facebook-status-update-im-pregnant

xx

We shared our pregnancy on fb after 12weeks and had all the scans etc on there. We did however set up a group so those who were interested in knowing how things were going could, where as those who weren;t interested didn't have to be subjected to it all.

When they were still born we put up a link to our just giving page:
http://www.justgiving.com/Lincoln-and-Nathan-Boyd
(don't read if easily upset) this meant we had a place to share it with everyone without having to keep going over what had happened.

I am not sure if we would share it on fb again however it is nice knowing that all our friends know our boys and have been along with all the scans. It has made it feel like they had a life with us.

Sorry to bring the PMA down, we had our consultant appointment today to talk about the future so it feels like a line has been drawn under everything. Health wise there is nothing wrong with me or the placenta so this shouldn't happen again. Our consultant had only come across this once before 6 years ago (showing how rare it is)

Discussed trying again and mentioned what you had mentioned Emsbet about the body being ready for it, and he agreed stating they just advise waiting so that they can date it and periods settle. Was a little concerned that after 7 weeks I haven't had a period so has asked me to test (I did and got a BFN - wasn't expecting anything different) so we have to wait 2 weeks and test again before going to the doctors to check all is well.

Big Hugs to QQ - Hope your OH can talk to you soon.

Wasn't expecting such an epic post.

emsbet

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

When they were still born we put up a link to our just giving page:
http://www.justgiving.com/Lincoln-and-Nathan-Boyd
(don't read if easily upset) this meant we had a place to share it with everyone without having to keep going over what had happened.

Such a lovely idea to raise money in your boys' memory and the post is beautifully written.

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

Discussed trying again and mentioned what you had mentioned Emsbet about the body being ready for it, and he agreed stating they just advise waiting so that they can date it and periods settle. Was a little concerned that after 7 weeks I haven't had a period so has asked me to test (I did and got a BFN - wasn't expecting anything different) so we have to wait 2 weeks and test again before going to the doctors to check all is well.

That's good to know that I haven't just made that up and that it won't do any harm trying again straight away

xx

bigzippy

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

Glad things are going better for your dad and Mil BZ (Thinking of you all)

Thanks

We shared our pregnancy on fb after 12weeks and had all the scans etc on there. We did however set up a group so those who were interested in knowing how things were going could, where as those who weren;t interested didn't have to be subjected to it all.

I know others that have done the same, it seems to work quite well I think I'd probably have a select friends list that could see something like a scan or what have you.

When they were still born we put up a link to our just giving page:
http://www.justgiving.com/Lincoln-and-Nathan-Boyd
(don't read if easily upset) this meant we had a place to share it with everyone without having to keep going over what had happened.

Beautifully written. :') Lovely idea and great to see so much was raised.

Sorry to bring the PMA down

Not at all! Don't be daft

we had our consultant appointment today to talk about the future so it feels like a line has been drawn under everything. Health wise there is nothing wrong with me or the placenta so this shouldn't happen again. Our consultant had only come across this once before 6 years ago (showing how rare it is)
Discussed trying again and mentioned what you had mentioned Emsbet about the body being ready for it, and he agreed stating they just advise waiting so that they can date it and periods settle.

Good news Good luck