Trying for a Baby Part 7

BB1984

((Hugs)) to 2ba3c and QQ, I hope you both feel more upbeat soon

More ((hugs)) to anyone else that wants one.

Glad MIL and Dad are looking better, BigZ, you can start to de-stress a bit now, hopefully! You've had a lot going on, you deserve a break.

KittenPie, thanks for posting that link. It made me cry my eyes out but it was lovely to read about your boys :A I hope that your body gets back to normal asap

emsbet, I'm a bit behind the times now but I think you're right not to go back to that counselling place. When you're supposed to be talking about your deepest darkest feelings, the last thing you want is to feel uncomfortable or vulnerable. I hope you can get some help through your workplace, it will do you a world of good I'm sure. ((hugs)) to you and your lovely DH, he is being such a sweetie through all of this

2ba3c, that article made me smile because DH and I were talking along the same lines recently. We have no intention of announcing our pregnancy on FB. It won't be a secret, so if people comment on my wall or whatever, that's fine. But I want to tell my "real" friends either face to face or on the phone, facebook is a bit...faceless! Also, having TTC for longer than expected, I know how upsetting it is to see those kinds of announcements/updates/photos. We still haven't even told our families(!), got our scan on friday though.

Flee - I would go to the docs if you're worried. You know your body better than anyone, so if you're uneasy about something, then best go get checked out, it'll put your mind at rest.

Tinkwings - glad your DD is ok now. Next birthday will be much better I'm sure!

:wave: hello to anyone I haven't given a special mention to, it's nothing personal, I just can't remember any more - it's late and I'm tired! ((hugs)) to those in need of one, or if you even just enjoy hugs!

Nighty night

BB x

Kitten_Pie

Whattodonow wrote: »

Nothing to report here, still waiting on OV... had a bit of a drama with a piano brought off ebay for OH's bday. BIG MISTAKE. Delivery men caused massive scratches to my floor so now having a nightmare trying to sort it out!

Loving christmas build-up its nice to have plans to make the time pass quicker.

Hope the scratches aren't too deep, do you have a wooden floor, is it possible to fill it with bees wax or sand it?

time2deal wrote: »

Sitting at home tonight trying to avoid thinking about SS'ing. DH is working late, so I am at home trying not to imagine sore boobs etc, and wish that the days moved faster!

Have a similar thing, keep feeling up my boobs to see if they are sore. Remember it being the only symptom last time, but can't remember if I get sore boobs near AF anyway.:o

Difference being, I haven't had OV yet according to FF.

DibDabb wrote: »

Hi everyone! Just popping in to stay I'm still here! It just takes me so long to catch up on everyone else's posts that I don't have time to post myself!
According to the phone app I use to track my cycle if I am lucky enough this month testing day will be Boxing Day, which is really Xmas Day for us as DH is working real Xmas Day... I am eagerly awaiting ov

That would be a lovely xmas present for you both.:D

time2deal

Dreamer_me wrote: »

We're going through a phase where everyone around us seems to be pregnant just now and to top it all off, a friend, who by the way is currently single, announced her pregnancy tonight. I know I shouldn't let it bother me but it does. I guess I'm just jealous :mad:

It does feel like that sometimes. We have having some friends over next week, with 5 kids between them, and one with a second on the way. One other couple is gay, and the last I suppose may be in the same boat as us - but I've never asked.

I never ask people, because I HATE HATE HATE people asking me! Especially when they say 'oh well, I guess some people just aren't maternal'. Which really hurts if I'm honest. It's because I am lucky to have an excellent 'high powered' job, and people assume I therefore don't want kids. Honestly though, what do people expect you to say?

I am 35, newly married... what do people think might be going on!?

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time2deal

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

Have a similar thing, keep feeling up my boobs to see if they are sore. Remember it being the only symptom last time, but can't remember if I get sore boobs near AF anyway.:o

I get sore boobs before AF for sure. I have a strange lump on the side of my left book that gets very sore and hard before period. I've had it checked out, and it's not a worry, but certainly a good marker for the upcoming arrival of AF!

Today is CD17, and if it's a short period (25 days or so) then I could be getting sore 1 week in advance. Oh dear - stop me doing this silly imagining! Time to be cool. :cool2:

Dreamer_me

time2deal wrote: »

It does feel like that sometimes. We have having 7 couples over next week, with 5 kids between them, and one with a second on the way. One other couple is gay, and the last I suppose may be in the same boat as us - but I've never asked.

I never ask people, because I HATE HATE HATE people asking me! Especially when they say 'oh well, I guess some people just aren't maternal'. Which really hurts if I'm honest. It's because I am lucky to have an excellent 'high powered' job, and people assume I therefore don't want kids. Honestly though, what do people expect you to say?

I am 35, newly married... what do people think might be going on!?

(end rant)

edit: yikes, it is 5 babies, plus the two guys, plus two without baby, plus the two singles... plus us. I have miscounted! That is 18 people isn't it! D'oh.. time to go find some more seats.

It's so hard isn't it. We are in the same boat (recently married) and we get asked almost daily when we're going to have a baby! I've taken to telling people that I dont want kids yet cos we're happy spending all our money on us at the moment. That couldn't be further from the truth and while I hate lying to people, I couldnt stand the pressure of all our family & friends just waiting for us to successfully conceive. I just worry that some day someone will ask me and I will burst in to tears or something!

time2deal

p.s. Although I should note that there is no reason that the gay couple should be assumed to not want kids, I just know that they don't for sure at the moment!

time2deal

Dreamer_me wrote: »

It's so hard isn't it. We are in the same boat (recently married) and we get asked almost daily when we're going to have a baby! I've taken to telling people that I dont want kids yet cos we're happy spending all our money on us at the moment. That couldn't be further from the truth and while I hate lying to people, I couldnt stand the pressure of all our family & friends just waiting for us to successfully conceive. I just worry that some day someone will ask me and I will burst in to tears or something!

Sometimes you can just sense that the conversation is going there... there's a pause, you've talked about the wedding, about the honeymoon, and then they say 'so, what is planned next?'.

I um and ahh - say we are thinking about x or y, and then you get the sort of sly smile. And I just want the world to swallow up! I can't lie either, I just say, well, you never know... why can't people just think a fraction out of the box! Everyone knows its not always easy, and random work acquaintances are not going to be the people you confide in first.

Kitten_Pie

Dreamer_me wrote: »

It's so hard isn't it. We are in the same boat (recently married) and we get asked almost daily when we're going to have a baby! I've taken to telling people that I dont want kids yet cos we're happy spending all our money on us at the moment. That couldn't be further from the truth and while I hate lying to people, I couldnt stand the pressure of all our family & friends just waiting for us to successfully conceive. I just worry that some day someone will ask me and I will burst in to tears or something!

We told close family and friends what the consultant told us, that it was unlikely that we would ever conceive naturally. This seemed to stop them asking constantly about babies however I did get a few offers of surrogacy which wasn't what I was after.

Going to be different now that they know we can conceive naturally (although the consultant has told us if we don't conceive within 6 months then they will take things further) The questions have already started and although you guys know that we are trying no one else does and I do feel like yelling at them that I only gave birth to two children less than 2 months ago.

Definitely_blonde

Sorry I haven’t posted much since I plucked up the courage to join in at the end of last week. Not really got a lot to say but :wave:
Not sure when I will/have ovulated as I am not testing (yet). OH and I have decided to just wait and see for the first few months , following ikkle 87 on trying the chilled out approach. I have been tracking my AF using an ap for a year which indicates that I should ovulate later this week but given my cycles are all different lengths I am not too sure how accurate this is.
DJ – belated happy birthday and many congratulation I hope the next 9 months are healthy for you
Sexymouse – love the idea of thanking as you go along if you don’t have time to reply, think I may follow your idea

Dreamer_me wrote: »

It's so hard isn't it. We are in the same boat (recently married) and we get asked almost daily when we're going to have a baby!


We have been married a while and have been getting the “when are you going to have kids” comment for a whiley, don’t you just love the fact that your womb seems to become public property!
Hugs to all that need them

skintchick

Hi again

Well I'm back. My bleeding from my miscarriage has stopped, I seemed to get some EWCM on Friday and Saturday, we were stopped from DTD on Friday cos we were so tired, and on Saturday cos DD wopke up as we went to bed and only settled once in our bed grrrrr!

So. OH, ahem, refreshed his sperm on Sunday morning and we DTD last night. I still had lots of CM, but not EWCM, so who knows if I caught the egg or not? I do tend to get PG quickly so if we did then I probably will be but of course, we all know my problem is keeping them, so...

I guess this kinda puts me in the 2WW but I'm not holding my breath, I think we missed it, we will have to SMEP next month which will be easier once I know which CD I am on.

Add me to the list anyway. Skinty, age 36, TTC #2 (3 MCs), CD17 (probably. 17 if counting first day of mc as CD1 anyway).

Haven;t read back so no idea what's happening with everyone, sorry.