Trying for a Baby Part 7

Flee_2

emsbet wrote: »

How long will his placement be for? DH has to travel 1.5hours each way to work each day so is out of the house from 7:30am to 7pm. I do worry that it will be tough being on my own in the day for so long with no family (both families live in our hometown, 80miles away) but after recent events I've decided I don't care

There are lots of mother and baby groups about where you can meet lots of new friends so you can have some adult conversation

Hope you get it sorted soon.

xx

His placement is for a year. So he will be away similar hours to your DH. My family and OH live 100 miles in different directions. I will have my 2 kids to help, but I want them to have time with me too. I suppose it will work out. Going to try and see anyway.

emsbet

Flee wrote: »

His placement is for a year. So he will be away similar hours to your DH. My family and OH live 100 miles in different directions. I will have my 2 kids to help, but I want them to have time with me too. I suppose it will work out. Going to try and see anyway.

These things often have a way of working themselves out in the end

xx

Metranil_Vavin

Good news that you have had the all clear Emsbet. I remember feeling such releif too when I was scanned after my mc to check all had gone. It was totally opposite to what I'd wanted to see/hear after the previous 3 scans

You don't have to wait for 3 cycles at all if you feel ready to try again. I waited 1 just so I could get a handle on my cycle again and work out when my next AF was due.

Being at home all day with a baby can be tough at times. I have just made the decision to quit my job as it does not make sense financially or time-wise to go back in Jan (I have a 1.5 hr commute each way too!), so have had to get my head round the fact that all my friends with babies are going back to work so I have to get out there and find new ones!

It can be done though, and as you say there are lots of mother and baby groups and generally I have found most other mums lovely and exactly the same as me..wanting to chat to other adults in the same situation!

Good vibes for some BFP's going out to everyone. I think I am ov'ing today (according to my last 3 AF's), but not quite ready to start trying again yet!

mishkanorman

just got back from my blood test where the women doing it asked what I was being tested for - I explained that I was under the care of the antenatal clinic for my thyroid but as I am no longer pregnant I need to start back with my surgery. She then said " So you've had baby and now everything is fine, did you have a boy or a girl"

Its not her fault as she really wasnt to know but still. Its the first time talking about it that Ive burst into tears - havent stopped yet so looks like a day spent bawling for me

Its only been 3 weeks when it feels like a lifetime ago, think ive moved on a little too quickly and my emotions are catching up. I so envy men at a time like this, oh to have no hormones in the mix !

Mishka

Metranil_Vavin

Hugs Mishka. My advice is to cry as much as you need to.
Grief can creep up on you after the event, even when you think you are moving on.

It does get better x

Flee_2

Hugs Mishka.

Dovetail

Good luck to you emsbet


Hugs Mishka, must be a real mix of emotions for you at the moment.



I know I shouldn't moan but one of the work babies was born this morning. They announced they were expecting the day after OH and I ‘officially’ decided to try. Obviously I’m happy for them because they’re lovely people, but I thought I’d be pg by now.
I still have hope as in TWW, but I’m soooo jealous.

Nicki

mishkanorman wrote: »

just got back from my blood test where the women doing it asked what I was being tested for - I explained that I was under the care of the antenatal clinic for my thyroid but as I am no longer pregnant I need to start back with my surgery. She then said " So you've had baby and now everything is fine, did you have a boy or a girl"

Its not her fault as she really wasnt to know but still. Its the first time talking about it that Ive burst into tears - havent stopped yet so looks like a day spent bawling for me

Its only been 3 weeks when it feels like a lifetime ago, think ive moved on a little too quickly and my emotions are catching up. I so envy men at a time like this, oh to have no hormones in the mix !

Mishka

I am sorry you are having a bad day and I hope you feel better soon. I was in that bad place last week so I understand how it feels. I hope that everyone will be kind to you today, and that no one speaks to you today in the way you spoke to me last weekend . Everyone else on this thread is pretty supportive of the hard times

There are some good miscarriage forums around where you can go to offload, or just to lurk and know that others are feeling the same way that you do, and that you aren't going mad, nor are you a bad person for feeling the way you do. I was pretty constantly on them last weekend and it did help me. Ultimately though only time will make it more bearable and less painful and I am afraid there will be many more times like this to weather. I was asked only yesterday whether my plan was to have another child or go back to work now that my youngest has turned two, and it did take my breath away with the pain for a few seconds.

mishkanorman

Nicki wrote: »

I am sorry you are having a bad day and I hope you feel better soon. I was in that bad place last week so I understand how it feels. I hope that everyone will be kind to you today, and that no one speaks to you today in the way you spoke to me last weekend . Everyone else on this thread is pretty supportive of the hard times

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You called me a "torch bearing villager" and today thought it was appropriate to put a snidy boot in. It clearly makes you feel better to attack others when you are upset - I dont work that way.

If you took offense to what I had posted perhaps you could have raised that with me then, in a grown up manner, rather than waiting for your chance to get revenge ?

Nicki

In a situation where what happened was completely out of my control and the grief is sometimes overwhelming, it does help me, though not necessarily everyone, to tell someone if they have said something which has upset me.

I am not proposing to get into an argument or debate with you when you are so clearly upset. If you felt that my post was snide and made in revenge, then so be it. I made it to offer some suggestions as to what had helped me very recently in similar circumstances to you, and to share that others have felt, and are feeling the same as you are right at this minute. I'm not proposing to delete it, as we are not the only two who are in the aftermath of miscarriage.

I am however going to pop you on ignore, first because I don't want the thread to descend into a slanging match over this, and second because your only two posts which relate to anything I have posted on this thread have been very unpleasant, for reasons I don't completely understand as I am not aware I have ever upset you on another thread, and I'd rather not read them here.

I hope you feel better soon, and that you get your BFP quickly when you are ready to start trying again.