Trying for a Baby Part 7

lemonmelon_2

Massive hugs time2deal. Its a very difficult thing and one of the hardest to talk about at ov time. Can you maybe agree to talk about it later when you're both calmer and less exhausted and its less likely to be an argument? Thinking of you. Don't be too hard on yourself x

claretsgirl

Good morning. Thanks for the responses.
applepie, AF was due at 28 days as usual - still nothing, and I didnt test early.
TeamLowe, I have been no more stressed than usual. Eighteen months ago I was close to a breakdown and had lost a stone and a half yet AF was still as regular as clockwork so I dont think it's that. The only thing I did have was possibly a touch of a virus where I felt a bit off colour for a couple of days, yet again this has never made a difference before. My weight is fine. Also I really dont think its PCOS. No other symptoms, and I was MUCH younger when I had the long cyles. LOL. I will make a doctors appointment to see what they say.
Thank you again for the responses.
Time2deal - (((((HUGS))))) XX

TTC40

lemonmelon wrote: »

Massive hugs time2deal. Its a very difficult thing and one of the hardest to talk about at ov time. Can you maybe agree to talk about it later when you're both calmer and less exhausted and its less likely to be an argument? Thinking of you. Don't be too hard on yourself x

Hugs T2D, even if the effort was around ov, you wouldn't be alone.

We have talked on the thread before about some of us (me included), not being too bothered about BDing & therefore when we do make more of an effort (& suggest it a few times in a week), it's different to the norm.

Absolutely agree with LM, now is not the time to talk about it.

Would it help to write down what you are thinking & feeling. You could then either give this to OH or just use the notes to remember what you want to (calmly) say. Hope you can then agree on a TTC plan which you both want.

Hope today is a better day.

lilymay1

T2D - massive hugs for you. I don't know what to say but I am sending some love your way xxxx

On a side note, I need some advice. Firstly, ignore my temps because I don't know !!!!!! is going on with them. Anyway, my CBFM started asking for sticks yestersay, so i oblidged, and this morning it has given me a peak. On CD10! But I did a CB digi OPK as well which was negative. I've had loads of watery/EWCM the last 5 days (since AF stopped).

We BD'd this morning, but can anyone advise? Why would 1 CB product give me a peak but the other be negative (no smiley face)?

And WHY AM I POTENTIALLY OV'ing ON CD10/CD11!!! It's been bloody CD 21 the last 3 cycles!!!

tea_lover

mogwai wrote: »

TTC40 - I know you mean well, but I think its reaching a bit to question a couples relationship based on this. Rows happen anytime, and I think the added stress around ov time of trying to make sure you BD at the right time despite being tired/not in the mood etc contributes to it.

For e.g not being upfront with your OH about when you need to BD and missing the opportunity cos of that might be seen as a sign that your relationship isnt right, thats why its best not to judge on these things..

Totally!! This is all difficult enough, and having this place to sound off is so useful. But now it feels a bit like those of us that have admitted to arguments with OH around ov time are being judged. One more thing to worry about.

twigglet35

Hope everyone is ok x

Im CD2 today QQ
is now thinking its never going to happen

My youngest was 19 yesterday so thats not helping :eek:

Big hugs to everyone xx

Birdie85

Huge hugs time2deal, hope you're feeling better this morning

Hugs for AF Twigglet

I have to agree with tealover and Mogwai about arguing and it being a bit too much to judge anyone's relationship by it. TTC is stressful and I think that the hormones that are running riot at OV time (sometimes even my OH's breathing makes me want to throttle him yet I adore him 99% of the time!) on top of the knowledge that you *must* perform can get a bit much and naturally lead to arguments, especially if your OH doesn't get how important the timing is so doesn't immediately comply. I suppose I'm trying to say that if you do argue with your OH, don't sweat it. The more you worry about the fact that you've argued will just make you more stressed and prone to argue more. And that it does not mean that Mother Nature is telling you that you shouldn't be making a baby together!

I had dinner with a friend from work on Friday night and she's got 2 young daughters and chatting with her has made me appreciate what I've got with my OH. She got PG very early in her relationship with her OH by accident (she thought she couldn't get PG after trying and failing for 3 years with a previous partner) and she's sad that she's never had drunken nights out with him (apart from the one when they concieved DD1!), they've never been on holiday just the 2 of them, or dirty weekends etc and she really envies all the time I've had with my OH. Made me look at things in a new light so I'm going to enjoy this time we have together before our lives get turned upside down by a baby as we'll never be as carefree and stupid as we are now!

lilymay1

Birdie - The second part of your post couldn't be more true. I did exactly what your friend did and although I wouldn't change it for the world, I do sometimes wonder what it would have been like without children so early. DS is at nursery today, OH is off work and I will be finishing at 1pm. I am REALLY looking forward to spending some time alone with OH when I get in

niknok_2

Morning ladies.

Feeling rather down today. Had a busy weekend and ended up going out to watch the football last night and drank a fair bit of wine.

Need to stop drinking to help ttc!!

Xx

tea_lover

Everyone at work is proper doing my head in today. They are all f*ckwits.

That is all.