Trying for a Baby Part 7

lemonmelon_2

Why cross? Because they don't even know how lucky they are? It just makes me jealous and i don't like feeling that :-(

codemonkey

I'll admit to an element of jealousy. And some fear cause it looks ouchy.

Tonight it was an 18 year old having a baby with a 31 (33?) year old smackhead. She got pregnant after 2 months together and she went in to have the baby and had to phone him - he wasn't there cause he needed to get his methadone!!

I don't know. I'm finding it increasingly hard to watch tv, read a book or so on in which someone has a baby. It's like in loads of books I've read recently, they've got pregnant accidentally, or on the first attempt, and in soaps and stuff they have sex once, and it seems like everyone I know gets pregnant really quickly - Worried I'm becoming a bit bitter about it all. Just been on Holland and Barrett website spending a small fortune on supplements, bought blackout curtains for the bedroom so I can try lunaception, bought opks, when apparently all I should do is have sex once, or shag some random druggie.

vesper

Kind of know what you mean Codemonkey. Jeremy Kyle is the worst show for it. 'I've had a baby after being together 2 seconds, but the baby's father is one of 100 men'.
Even facebook seems to be conspiring against me tonight and is coming up with loads of baby adverts at the side.

Never was successful with OH. So no sex=no baby this month. I'm more gutted than if we had tried and got a negative. How on earth can I go to the doctors about not being successful when it's at the back of my mind that we aren't successful this month because hubby couldn't be arsed.

squ1rrel5

Morning all, congrats to the last few BFP's :j

Can I share one of my fears on here please? Its always something I think about since we are struggling to get pg. No matter how much we both want a baby, OH and I have said if there are problems and we cant have children then we would cope with that together but what we couldnt deal with would be was loss of friends because we'd be a childless couple!
I have experienced this already with 2 or 3 girlfriends already, who I have been friends with for YEARS - now they have babies they just dont speak to me anymore. They hang around with other women who have children and even though I call them, send cards and presents to their kids on special occasions and try on a monthly basis to arrange to meet them, I feel shunned because I dont have a child!!! Has this happened to anyone else???

One of my best friends made me godmother of her child 2 years ago along with another friend. The three of us all got on like a house on fire but the other girl also had a baby shortly afterwards and the two of them are now inseparable whereas I hardly get to see my goddaughter anymore. It gets to me as I see pictures of them and their kids all over facebook, going on holiday together etc but none of them ever make an effort to contact me, its always me chasing after them and I just feel like giving up!

I am worried that the same will happen with my closest group of amazing friends who I see on a regular basis - one of whom is pg at the moment, the others arent yet but they are all married and pretty much at the same stage as me as wanting one (we are all NTNP, some of us for different reasons) I havent told them yet about my PCOS and us trying for a year but I am worried that if they all fall pg really easier and I am the only one without a baby then this will end our friendship!

I'd love to say they arent like that, but its easy to say that now without children. I know this is quite an irrational fear to have but its something I do think about and it makes me quite upset.

Sorry for the long post - sometimes I really just feel like I should delete facebook altogether, as it just winds me up so much.:eek:

lemonmelon_2

Hugs vesper, sorry you're not having a good month. Maybe you could have a really honest chat with your dh about it, might make you feel better if nothing else. I would say its still worth going to the docs, it will at least get the ball rolling and will mean you can either say to hubby that there's nothing wrong and you just have to have better timed bd or you won't waste well timed bd if it wouldn't work anyway?
Hugs for codemonkey too I really know that feeling, it feels like for the rest of the world getting preggo means having a baby...where's mine?
pma for today is one of my oldest friends is coming for dinner and its almost the weekend and the rain is a great excuse to wear my new wellies which I love

lemonmelon_2

Oh squirrel, big hugs for you, you're not alone in this but sadly I don't know how to stop it happening either :-(

TTC40

vesper wrote: »

Never was successful with OH. So no sex=no baby this month. I'm more gutted than if we had tried and got a negative. How on earth can I go to the doctors about not being successful when it's at the back of my mind that we aren't successful this month because hubby couldn't be arsed.

Vesper - what's OH saying about it? Have you had a frank discussion about it?

QQuaver

:j:j:jCongratulations JoJoB!:j:j:j
BFP BFP BFP BFP BFP!

tea_lover

morning ladies

3DPO for me. I love the crosshairs!! Still feel awful, the endo pain hasn't been this bad for ages. Was ok for a bit last night and even managed an unscheduled BD, but then by bedtime I could hardly move. Ended up with the tens machine, hot water bottle and a lot of drugs. Feel better than that this morning but still not brilliant. Got meetings today so couldn't even work from home. Am definitely feeling sorry for myself

Congratulations to maire and jojo. Here's to happy and healthy pregnancies for you both.

After moaning about OH not getting how much we need to BD he surprised me last night with a quickie as I was on my way out. He said we needed to as it has to be every other day. I didn't have the heart to tell him I ovulated 3 days ago :rotfl:

Big hugs to vesper, codemonkey and squ1rrel5. Here's a dodgy group hug for us all xx :grouphug:

Birdie85

Lots of hugs needed here this morning! Sorry you feel like you've missed out this month Vesper, it must be so frustrating knowing that no matter how much effort you're putting in, if your OH doesn't put out then it's all for nothing! I've felt like that a couple of times, trying not to get too snappy with OH when he's sulking about AF arriving as if it's my fault when all I want to say is 'if you'd DTD when I asked you we might be looking at a BFP right now!' I wish there was a way to make our OHs understand how important their role is without coming across as nagging or accusatory!

Hugs for you too Squirrel, I can't really speak from experience as we're the first of our friends to TTC, but I can imagine how tempting it is as a new mum to spend all your time with other new mums who'll put up with your constant baby talk who don't bat an eyelid about having to leave early to get little Johnny down for a nap etc. My fear is that as our friends don't want kids for a few years they'll find us really boring because we won't be as stupid as we are now and they won't really 'get' why we can't just drop everything last minute to go out and get drunk with them! All we can do is make sure that we keep up our side of the friendships and hope the others do the same

Hugs for Codemonkey too! Know what you mean about TV, films, books etc make getting PG look soooo easy! Very frustrating to watch. The book I'm on currently is set in the 1870s and the lead character is barren (what a lovely word, not!) and I'm putting money on her miraculously getting PG after one BD with her new man by the end of the book. I should go back to reading crime! I haven't watched OBEM for ages because it makes me feel sad.

Hugs for Tea Lover, endo pain sounds awful Hope you feel better soon Hooray for surprise BD though!