Families, grrrr!

Torry_Quine

Strapped wrote: »

Not in our family - it would bankrupt everyone! :eek: (My husband's parents are both from very, very large families).

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

In our case it's really according to how close you are to the cousin getting married. You're not invited by routine but you might be either if you're particularly close to them or if it's recognised that in order for your parents to go you need to be invited as well (illness etc). I had an aunt get remarried lately and she didn't invite any nieces and nephews at all except for the ones who lived closest to her who had played a lot with her own children and who she had babysat etc. No one took offence. In contrast DH had a cousin get married and all of the first cousins were invited and everyone thought it was a bit odd, indeed only the cousins who were close to the bride attended in any case. And they are a very close family. It's just accepted that you can't afford to invite everyone. Then again this is Irish families where they are big and people don't always make a big distinction between first and second cousins for example.

I did say everyone is different though. When I was married all aunts and uncles and cousins were invited although many were unable to attend as they don't live in this country. Personally I wuld be upset if I wasn't invited to a cousin's wedding but I can appreciate that not all families work the same way.

POPPYOSCAR

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I did say everyone is different though. When I was married all aunts and uncles and cousins were invited although many were unable to attend as they don't live in this country. Personally I wuld be upset if I wasn't invited to a cousin's wedding but I can appreciate that not all families work the same way.

Yes.

Perhaps maybe things are changing in that way.At one time it was a way of families keeping in touch I suppose.

I very recently found the guest list of a family member most bizzare with the emphasis on work colleagues and friends over that of family, some of which were invited, but only in the evening, and it would have meant them traveling half way across the country just for a few hours. I ,personally, thought that being as they had to come such a long way they should have been invited to the whole thing as a matter of courtesy.