Help ... could do with some good honest advice

globetraveller

It might be wise to delete company names.

pmlindyloo

OK don't all shout me down but if it were me I would go! All I would make sure was that I had the money in my bank in case things went wrong ad I needed to get back.

Everyone has given you lots of advice about visas etc etc and, of course, this all needs to be sorted

But honestly, everyone is full of doom and gloom. Life is full of ups and downs. Relationships go wrong wherever you are. Why wouldn't this work?

Your man is full of enthusiasm and is grasping life in both hands. He wants you with him. Why would he being saying this if he didn't want you to go?

You have a place to stay if you have to come back - you have a job stll open (have I read that or am I imagining it?) if things go belly up.

You only have one life and that will be full of 'I wish... if you don't take any risks.

Yes I know you have a child but children are very resilient if everything is approached the right way. What an opportunity for your child.

Everyone is treating this as if the USA was the end of the earth.

I'm with your friends here. Go for it!

scooterpig

If you really want to do this, have a look at the British Expats website. It has an excellent link called Pulaski's Ways which deals with the various ways to get a visa. Don't underestimate how long things take. From the proposal first being suggested to us, to actually moving, was over a year. It can be done quicker but only in certain circumstances. The fact you're not married is probably the biggest stumbling block.

If you're not both 100% committed to each other, and to making such a move work, DO NOT DO IT. The stresses and upheaval put immense pressure on even the strongest relationship.

CH27

He sounds like a nomadic dreamer.
Are you happy for you & your daughter to follow this man's whims & fancies forever?

Errata

on 13th May he came back. He moved in with me as he had nowhere else to live

I'd be very chary of someone who moved in because it was convenient and for no other reason. I'd also be very chary of someone with wonderful plans for a highly paid job who's been out of work for almost a year.

Pee

I think getting away from a Dad who says no about a six week holiday might be a good idea...