Why do I even bother with internet dating.

Kernel_Sanders

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Delete him and move on! You have to virtually kiss alot of frogs when dating

Why are you assuming it's the guy who's the 'frog' and not the OP?

charlie-chan wrote: »

I find it quite worrying that he had to go pick up his friend's girlfriend from work. How would you know that it is not his girlfriend?

Don't be ridiculous! If he was actually picking up his own girlfriend, do you really think he would say he was picking up a girl? I wouldn't; I know how spitefully suspicious women can be!

This guy spent three whole hours of his time talking to this woman and then got turned down just for a coffee. He has obviously moved on to greener pastures and now wants to avoid her. Can't fault him; I'd do exactly the same.

Tammy86

Like some of the people on here, I did online dating for a while and loved it. Although you do have to be careful! I found out on one date that a guy was married!!!! No ring, nothing on his profile, it just came out in conversation. Needless to say we didn't have another date.
I also met a guy who was funny, charming, good-looking, but unfortunately there was no "spark".
Anyway I decided to continue to play the field and met a guy after a week of talking (we also shared pictures and talked on the phone). 4 years on, we are living together (despite 220mile difference while dating), he was living with his ex (yes really!!) and we're engaged to be married.
Believe me, I know online dating seems hard but it is actually really fun once you know how to be careful etc.
As some of the other people have said, definitely go for coffee, make sure it's somewhere nice and public (Starbcks etc) and just relax!!
Have fun!

twinklee

I on-line dated via various sites and can honestly say I loved it! Had such good fun, meeting people from all walks of life. I think the key is to just enjoy it for what it is and dont look on it as wanting to meet a life partner. I had dates with guys who were absolutely nothing like their profile picture - to the extent that I didnt even recognise one as he had apparently grown 5 stone and 10 years older! I had a date with another guy who suffered tourettes - i kid you not!! Was a bit of a nightmare but the thing is its just a date and you dont have to see them again! I did fall foul of the married man unfortunately - more fool me though really. I met my partner via a free dating site, i actually wasn't overly struck on his profile picture but we hit it off online and he lived fairly locally so i decided to go and see and was pleasantly surprised and we have been living together for 3 years now so it can work out. As others have said, stay safe, tell someone where you are and have fun x

loobs40

I met my husband through the internet, but not an internet dating site. I joined a football forum back in 2000 and he was a member also. We chatted on the forum and via instant messenger for about 18 months before we both finally had the courage to meet up at a football match. To cut a long story short he took redundancy and moved 200 miles to move in with me in 2006, we got married in 2010 and we are very happily married

Neither of us had joined the forum looking for a partner, it just happened. The point of the story is that a shared interest was the catalyst.

seafarers_wife

I met my husband through online dating, and was the best thing i ever did. my membership was ending and i wasnt renewing and he just joined so was ment to be.

there are alot of nice guys out there and there are a shed load more timewasters, but he could be thinking that your a timewaster if your not willing to meet for a coffee, its just coffee theres nothing to loose providing you meet in a public place and friends know where you are and what you are doing and who you are meeting up with.


if your not comfortable meeting up that soon, then be honest and say so, and if he is genuine he will move at your pace and if he ignores you well then its his loss not yours!

ETanny

Get over him and move on, keep looking!
Chances are he was after a bit of hows your father anyway! At least you didnt meet up 'get it on' and then he scarpered.

I met my Dh online 5yrs ago and still couldnt be happier!

yvonne13_2

Oh dear, I was right about this chap the guy does have a girlfriend and the girl he was picking up was his girlfriend. I logged on last night just before going to bed and she PM me and told all. She was not nasty or anything she just apologised if I have fallen for his lies apparently he does it all the time when ever they have a fight. At least I know the truth now.

Lotus-eater

yvonne13 wrote: »

Oh dear, I was right about this chap the guy does have a girlfriend and the girl he was picking up was his girlfriend. I logged on last night just before going to bed and she PM me and told all. She was not nasty or anything she just apologised if I have fallen for his lies apparently he does it all the time when ever they have a fight. At least I know the truth now.

His girlfriend pm'd you through the dating site?
This sounds very odd.

newcook

For those of you who have had success, could you please give the name of the free site you used? Im on about 5 or 6 different sites but don’t seem to be having much joy!

Gavin83

I dont understand why people put up a really old photo or one that isn't even of them. It just sets up a massive negative response before the 'date' has even started, I certainly wouldn't want to date someone who lies and is that unconfident in themselves. If your that ashamed of the way you look you have to put up an inaccurate photo do something about it.