Why do I even bother with internet dating.

yvonne13_2

I joined up with an internet dating site on Monday and within 10 minutes I got a message from a nice man.
Anyway we talked for about an hour and we talked again on Tuesday.He asked me if I would like to meet up on Friday for a coffee. I declined saying lets talk and get to know each other more as two days is not long enough.
We talked again for an hour when he said he had to go and pick up his friends girlfriend from work!!!!
Ok well yesterday I went online at dinnertime and he logged off as soon as I went on.
I didn't think much of it at the time but when I logged on when I got home he did it again three times.

Am I being a fool to myself? He seemed really nice until I said no. Why didn't he want to get to know me a little more before meeting? I didn't know anything about him we only talked about the riots.

jamespir

yvonne13 wrote: »

I joined up with an internet dating site on Monday and within 10 minutes I got a message from a nice man.
Anyway we talked for about an hour and we talked again on Tuesday.He asked me if I would like to meet up on Friday for a coffee. I declined saying lets talk and get to know each other more as two days is not long enough.
We talked again for an hour when he said he had to go and pick up his friends girlfriend from work!!!!
Ok well yesterday I went online at dinnertime and he logged off as soon as I went on.
I didn't think much of it at the time but when I logged on when I got home he did it again three times.

Am I being a fool to myself? He seemed really nice until I said no. Why didn't he want to get to know me a little more before meeting? I didn't know anything about him we only talked about the riots.

some people on these internet dating sites are after one thing ... hope you find someone better

charlie-chan

I find it quite worrying that he had to go pick up his friend's girlfriend from work. How would you know that it is not his girlfriend?

I tend to be quite sceptical sometimes with internet dating but saying that, I met my current OH of 7 years online.

Barneysmom

It might not work for you though it does for some?

Maybe you could pick your favourite activity and join a club?

Hiking, fishing, reading, canoeing, computers....

Whichever you like, find something you enjoy so you can meet someone with at least one common interest?

Even if you don't meet someone you'll still enjoy yourself.:)

yvonne13_2

I tried not to think negative and think all people are after one thing, I was clearly wrong.
And as for picking up his friends girlfriend, I did think why is it his responsibility.

I feel so sad, I just kept looking at his photo feeling sorry for myself.

3v3

OP, you 'met' on man on Monday, today is only Thursday If it was as easy as getting it right on the first day, first attempt - there wouldn't be a need to "date"

Be patient, try not to over analyse things. You chatted, he wanted to meet, you didn't; he goes offline at a similar time you log in (maybe he's 'met' someone else online he's chatting to now?). Maybe it was more a "speed dating" scenario for him? Bottom line seems to be, he's moved on. Perhaps you should do the same?

charlie-chan wrote: »

I find it quite worrying that he had to go pick up his friend's girlfriend from work. How would you know that it is not his girlfriend?

Well, a clue might be that he didn't need to say anything about where he was going or why :rotfl:

3v3

yvonne13 wrote: »

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I feel so sad, I just kept looking at his photo feeling sorry for myself.

Why? Why are you gazing at his photo if it makes you feel sad? You don't know this man Leave it and move on to the next one!

I totally agree with Barneysmom, you are more likely to meet a like-minded other if you join a club/society/organisation close to your heart.

yvonne13_2

I keep looking because I feel like a fool because after looking at the photo I saw a guitar in the background and I asked him if he played it and he said it's his friends girlfriends.

I feel like a donkey is on my head.

3v3

yvonne13 wrote: »

I keep looking because I feel like a fool because after looking at the photo I saw a guitar in the background and I asked him if he played it and he said it's his friends girlfriends.

I feel like a donkey is on my head.

Then give yourself a shake You haven't been a donkey/fool.

He may have been legit, insofar as he could be housesharing (times are hard ).

Having 'known' him for such a short time, I just think you are reading too much into this and are too sensitive to what has happened.

Just as you don't know for sure if it is a friend's g/f, or his own, the fact is, it doesn't matter because you are not in a relationship with him and it really is just a blip not a landslide.

Put it down to experience and enjoy life! It's far too inconsequential in the grand scheme of things to be making yourself feel sad over.

Sambucus_Nigra

Delete him and move on! You have to virtually kiss alot of frogs when dating [online or IRL] before you find your prince - they are out there it just takes some sifting. 7 years and counting for me and the OH

RichGold

Internet dating is full of horror stories (some successes, but mainly horror stories), a female friend of mine recently met a man online, met him a week later for coffee and all seemed to be going well. After the 2nd meeting for coffee they happened to chat online a few days later, after he'd been out for a pint or two with his friends. The conversation quickly turned inappropriate and ended with this guy admitting he was bisexual (and had only 2 days ago physically confirmed this) and asking her if she would involve herself in some very dubious practices, involving something she was required to "strap-on".

What I'm trying to say is forget this chap. Having a boyfriend isn't the answer to any problems. One thing you may need to be aware of, is that you sound quite clingy, and if you do meet someone then that can be quite off-putting. Who cares who the guitar belongs to in the picture? Lots of people online aren't who they say they are and do it for a bit of fun while the missus is at work. Don't feel bad, move on, but always be a little sceptical until you have gotten to know them.