Why do I even bother with internet dating.

Icey77

VestanPance wrote: »

That was quick!

It beats mine - I met, moved in and married my DH all within 11 months :rotfl:

Lotus-eater

sashadesade wrote: »

The guy wanted to get in your pants, then gave up when he realised it was going to be more work than he anticipated. Sorry to be blunt, but there it is. Oh, and his 'friend's girlfriend'? Yeah, right.

There are a hell of a lot of men like this on online dating sites, so you should be careful. The fact you had pinned so many hopes on a guy you talked to online once or twice is worrying to me. You need to guard your heart a bit more or you're going to get hurt a lot.

That ^ a hundred times.

Lotus-eater

Icey77 wrote: »

It beats mine - I met, moved in and married my DH all within 11 months :rotfl:

I told my OH on our first date that we were going to live together forever. Sounds a bit corny and possibly a bit worrying, now I think about it clearly, but it did the job.

zcrat41

VestanPance wrote: »

That was quick!

I did go out with hime for 2 and a half years first!!

yvonne13_2

Teddy_KGB wrote: »

Why didn't you meet for a coffee? When I was single if I asked a girl out and she said 'lets get to know each other better' I would take it as she's not that interested and I was wasting my time!

It's only a coffee for god sake! If he's a complete weirdo then make an excuse and get the hell out of there! What's the worst that could happen?

Because for all I know it could have been a fake picture, he didn't even tell me his name. I only have one life and if I would have met a man in the supermarket at least I know what he looks like. I cannot judge someone of one photo. I am just being careful like a lot of people have said already.

SailorSam

If you wanted to stay safe couldn't you move on from a bit of email ping pong and open a Skype a/c, if you hear someone voice and they need to give you 'instant' replies you'll get a better feel if he's genuine.

becs

I started Internet dating about 8 years ago. I mainly just chatted to a few men and never rushed into meeting them. I found this was a good way to sort out the dodgy ones. Those that would happily chat for more than a month without pressurising into meeting were genuine. I met about 5 in total over a year. One of them was 5 years younger than me and decided he wasn't up for anything serious so we kept in touch by email but didn't meet up. About a year later he split from his girlfriend and I was just on the verge of meeting another Internet guy and he suggested we meet up again. Anyway 6 months later we were engaged and 18 months after that we got married. We've been married 5 years in April.
I agree with the others about easing up on investing your emotions, I think you do appear that you need to e a bit more mature on that front. Take things steady and the dodgy ones will fall by the wayside.

yvonne13_2

SailorSam wrote: »

If you wanted to stay safe couldn't you move on from a bit of email ping pong and open a Skype a/c, if you hear someone voice and they need to give you 'instant' replies you'll get a better feel if he's genuine.

That's a good idea but the conversation didn't get to that stage. Anyway his loss

FBaby

3v3 wrote: »

OP, you 'met' on man on Monday, today is only Thursday If it was as easy as getting it right on the first day, first attempt - there wouldn't be a need to "date"

Be patient, try not to over analyse things. You chatted, he wanted to meet, you didn't; he goes offline at a similar time you log in (maybe he's 'met' someone else online he's chatting to now?). Maybe it was more a "speed dating" scenario for him? Bottom line seems to be, he's moved on. Perhaps you should do the same?

I totally agree with this. I did the internet dating for over 4 years until I met my partner. At first I got quite excited but quickly realised that it isn't worth doing so until you've reached the stage of getting to know the person and then seeing them in the flesh. You will see everything on this site, and even after you've been through your own selection, it is likely, depending on how picky you are!, that the vast majority will still turn out not to meet your expectations. I was disappointed many times through my experience...the chats that started full of promises for the guy to then disappear for no reasons, the guy who sounded great on email and even on the phone, looked ok on the pictures, but who turned out totally different when I met them face to face, the guy who seemed perfect, but then who decided to get back with his ex....

When my now partner contacted me, I knew right away that he would be different. I actually wrote to a friend soon after reading his message and profile that he was The one. We clicked through our profiles, clicked through our emails and then through our phone conversations. I knew I would like him, but was just worried meeting him because I didn't find him attractive on his pictures. I had been disappointed many times the other way around, but this time was the opposite, he turned much better looking in flesh than in picture and after walking next too him for 10 minutes, I deeply hoped he felt the way I did. It was 2 1/2 years ago...

yvonne13_2

FBaby,

your story is so nice and i'm glad it worked out for you, I hope I get some of your luck.