Why do I even bother with internet dating.

Mrs_P_Pincher

It is a fact that most people meet their partners through work, mutual friends or a shared interest. So, if you have a job, a good circle of friends and an interest or two that is broadly based (you don't meet the right sort of men doing embroidery for example), you will eventually meet someone. Even if your friends are all couples, couples have their own single friends and of course, not all couples stay together.

My DD1 met her partner when she changed jobs. He's not office based, but he's in a couple of days a week. DD2's partner was at school with one of her flatmates and I met Mr P when we were both involved in a local heritage campaign. It turned out we had never lived more than 15 minutes walk away from each other for 20 plus years and knew some of the same people, but we had never previously met.

Good luck

Mrs P P

podperson

Hun, I think you're being a little oversensitive. I know it can be easy to take things personally but at the end of the day you spoke online to this guy for a few hours, you don't know him - unfortunately it's very rare for people to find that the first person they talk to when they start dating is someone they can have a good relationship with. I agree with the posters above about maybe joining a group or club that you have an interest in - you might find that relieves some of the pressure you seem to be putting on yourself and you could just enjoy meeting new people.

Magicboo

As others above have said-learn and move on! It was only a few days, look at it as positive that it wasn't a few weeks or months down the line that it went Pete Tong!
Don't give up on the internet dating totally though, there are some horror stories out there, but there are some very happy stories out there too, just as it is when people meet each other face-to-face.
Just remember to treat the person as you would if you had met them in any other circumstances, with a little caution at the begining and with respect for yourself.
Good luck!
Love an internet dating success story (my DH first "winked" at me on match.com 2 yrs ago tomorrow!) x

Emmzi

My mate has had a few nice partners through internet dating (obv not a marriagebale one yet).

She says if you click ok after a bit just get right on and meet for coffee, then if it doesn't feel right, straight on to the next one. You can spend weeks chatting round the houses and in person, it's just not the right one for you. She'd do 2 or 3 coffee dates at lunch some weeks!

affordmylife

im not even sure you are being serious. if you are then you really need to get a grip my love.

you have never met the guy. you had a conversation about the riots.

you are behaving like a silly schoolgirl.

grow up and get back on there and find someone decent.

good luck x

scheming_gypsy

you should have met me for a [STRIKE]shag [/STRIKE]coffee then shouldn't you :whistle:



(my mates bird went for a 'coffee' with me instead)

southoftheriver

I think you're investing far to much emotion in someone who you don't know. One of the perks of internet dating is that if you see something you don't like you move on to the next. You weren't in a relationship with him so bin him, put it down to experience and move on!

VestanPance

I've read success stories of online dating, but in real life only ever heard horror stories from both sides.

My sister gave up on it as she coined the term 'serial daters'. Lot's of people on the site for a long time, who seem to be on a constant lookout for the next best thing. That and getting an inbox full of 'pervy messages'.

A lad at work gave up on it after a year of trying. He said it ended up making him feel depressed, as very few messages he sent ever got a reply. That and people that did send a message that would just go awol all of a sudden. I think the poor bloke only managed to get two dates from it in a year and near £120 worth of subscriptions later! He felt it made him very cynical about everyone on there and that's why he quit.

Teddy_KGB

Why didn't you meet for a coffee? When I was single if I asked a girl out and she said 'lets get to know each other better' I would take it as she's not that interested and I was wasting my time!

It's only a coffee for god sake! If he's a complete weirdo then make an excuse and get the hell out of there! What's the worst that could happen?

SailorSam

Maybe he thinks you're not really interested when you turned down the coffee, people on the internet are looking for all sorts of different things some more serious than others. Perhaps he thought you were only looking for a pen-pal and would rather invest his time elsewhere.
I don't think you're wrong in wanting to be cautious before meeting, after all not eveyrone is as they seem. But i don't think you should expect him to stop chatting to others while he's talking to you. Ok if you met a few times and decided you wanted to move on together, i'd expect that was the time to pull your profiles and stop talking to others.
Why don't you just leave him another message ...... "sorry i've not had chance to chat, how are you, speak soon"