his wedding, my son is barely invited.

Gigervamp

*max* wrote: »

I can see 2 options:
1/ OP organises for her mother (would would have been looking after the boy from 7pm anyway) to pick up the child from the wedding at 7pm. Have a friend drive her if she can't? Taxi? Train? Surely there is a way. This would ensure the child gets to participate in his father's wedding.

The OP has said her dad is a taxi driver! Why can't he pick up his grandson from the wedding at 7?

JodyBPM

Gigervamp wrote: »

The OP has said her dad is a taxi driver! Why can't he pick up his grandson from the wedding at 7?

I'm sure the OP will come up with a "good" reason as to why not!

More and more this is sounding to me simply that the OP's nose is out of joint because on this ONE occasion, on HIS WEDDING DAY, her ex is not prepared to stick rigidly to their normal access agreements of the ex having the child until 7 and then dropping him home. I don't, personally, think it is at all unreasonable of the ex to expect OP to do him a favour of making arrangements for their son to be picked up rather than him dropping him back on this ONE occasion, on his WEDDING DAY.

OP seems to think there is no reason why she should be flexible at all to accomodate the ex on this special day. The sad thing is that the person who will end up being hurt by her inflexibility is not the ex, but her son. What kind of mother really isn't prepared to make sacrifices or be inconvenienced in order for her son to be able to experience such an important day? Poor little boy:(

*max*

Gigervamp wrote: »

The OP has said her dad is a taxi driver! Why can't he pick up his grandson from the wedding at 7?

Oh. I missed that bit!

STOCKWIRE

Reverbe wrote: »

END of Sept ish when I went.. it's all starting to whiff of windup a bit..we are in August now...

200 posts later I still stand by my early "offensive post" . Pity we cant hear the fathers side of the story.

Regardless of what's right or wrong its clear the op will do what suits her. Perhaps if she takes time to read the other forums and postings by childless couples desperate to have children she might appreciate her son a bit more.

tiamai_d

STOCKWIRE wrote: »

200 posts later I still stand by my early "offensive post" . Pity we cant hear the fathers side of the story.

Regardless of what's right or wrong its clear the op will do what suits her. Perhaps if she takes time to read the other forums and postings by childless couples desperate to have children she might appreciate her son a bit more.

When has she suggested she does not appreciate her son? What a stupid thing to say.

LolaLemon

Update.
Said to sons father that I am struggling to get child care for son at the times he has suggested, he has said he will see what he can do at his end.
An ex employee was in the pub tonight, who has said she might be able to come in at 10pm and work til closing, she will let me know. It's not the best but at the moment its the only option available, and if it is, the I'll ask the new guy to take me in his car.


The allergies is not an issue, we have previously stayed in hotels and son is fine. most hotels use the sensitive type washing powders to suit everyone.
Son asks before he eats anything that I haven't given him if it contains milk and does not touch it unless the answer is no. So very proud of him that at his age he realises that a yummy looking cake can put him in pain.

kitty_cat_2

Marisco wrote: »

That's a rubbish argument anyway!! I travelled all over the country a few years ago in a very elderly Beetle! I lived down south and used to go to Wales to see family at least once a month. And traveled up to Tyne & Wear from the south coast a number of times, before I moved here. And it wasn't a "done up" one either!! Rust and goodwill was keeping it together!:) I couldn't go faster than 70 anyway, as the poor thing used to shake and rattle over that!!!:D

Aww bless u. I had a new beetle & it was fab! :j You need to upgrade

13Kent

However I think the dad should do all the facilitating when it comes to contact, its up to him to collect & deliver. I guess for his wedding you could ask him for petrol money or a train fare for you to help out.


Why should the dad take the responsibility for ths?

Sambucus_Nigra

13Kent wrote: »

However I think the dad should do all the facilitating when it comes to contact, its up to him to collect & deliver. I guess for his wedding you could ask him for petrol money or a train fare for you to help out.


Why should the dad take the responsibility for ths?

Presumably, he is the one getting married and it's his son?

MrsE_2

13Kent wrote: »

Why should the dad take the responsibility for ths?

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Presumably, he is the one getting married and it's his son?

Because the father wants to see him, visit him, take him out.

My ex never gave me any child support, but he collected my DD & dropped her back.