his wedding, my son is barely invited.

13Kent

elisebutt65 wrote: »

If you bothered to read earlier, the OP has to go in to catch up on assignments missed due to sickness etc, or she has to re-take the year. Makes sense as I had to re-do my HR exam in late August after I missed it due to an operation.

Also we use Trimestering, where I work - it's just a fancy/latin name for 3 terms! Most Uni's use semesters (i.i. 2 terms) but some, like ours, stick to traditional 3 to align with schools as it allows students and staff to sync their childcare arrangements.

But presumably going in to catch up would be on a voluntary basis, so one day missed or rearranged wouldn't be a problem.

princessdreamer

Zoetoes wrote: »

I didn't even know they did that, god I feel your anger! :eek:

I don't think princessdreamer meant cases like yours, I think she was referring to when the husband deliberately doesn't work to avoid paying cs.

Thanks spot on. My children have more now than they ever did when ex was living here and I provide it on my own. The ex sits on his bum looking after her child while she works and they laugh at me for paying my bills.
How is it fair that he saves her money on childcare and saves himself money in CSA. I still have to provide a roof over the kids heads, feed, clothe and entertain them on one income.

Zoetoes

13Kent wrote: »

As he discovered only too late paying money into the PWC's bank does not prove you have paid maintenance - unless money is specifically designated and marked as "maintainance for child x and y" they the CSA don't count it as such and the onus is on the NRP to prove that the money was paid for that purpose.

In our case they took the PWC's word for it.

I didn't mention the debts she left him with either, a loan repayment, household bills that she left him with that were in his sole name as she didn't work, that after he left she didn't pay, (for a time when he wasn't even living in the house too) that bounced back with some via debt collectors later to my unsuspecting husband, so he had the expense of that on top of his other living expenses.

His credit rating was shot to pieces on top of everything else - he couldn't even change his mobile phone for a cheaper one to try and save himself some money.

That's shocking really, I thought that paying it into a bank account would be covering it all if anything like this happened.

13Kent

It's not fair I agree, in a similar way to our situation being unfair. Sadly separated families have it hard enough without the added complication of an unfair CSA system.

But at least my husband can look his children in the face when they are older and honestly say he always supported them and paid what he was asked to pay.

13Kent

Zoetoes wrote: »

That's shocking really, I thought that paying it into a bank account would be covering it all if anything like this happened.

Sadly no. - hindsight is a wonderful thing!!

Marisco

13Kent wrote: »

As he discovered only too late paying money into the PWC's bank does not prove you have paid maintenance - unless money is specifically designated and marked as "maintainance for child x and y" they the CSA don't count it as such and the onus is on the NRP to prove that the money was paid for that purpose.

In our case they took the PWC's word for it.

I didn't mention the debts she left him with either, a loan repayment, household bills that she left him with that were in his sole name as she didn't work, that after he left she didn't pay, (for a time when he wasn't even living in the house too) that bounced back with some via debt collectors later to my unsuspecting husband, so he had the expense of that on top of his other living expenses.

His credit rating was shot to pieces on top of everything else - he couldn't even change his mobile phone for a cheaper one to try and save himself some money.

Good god, he wasn't married to my oh's ex was he???:eek: His ex and oh's ex sound like two peas in a pod!!!:mad:

fannyanna

Zoetoes wrote: »

he should have made more effort.

Why? By the sounds of things he never wanted the child in the first place.

FatVonD

Zoetoes wrote: »

I didn't even know they did that, god I feel your anger! :eek:

I don't think they do take the new spouse's earnings into consideration (we've managed to avoid getting CSA involved) but that is what Princess Dreamer was advocating!

Zoetoes

princessdreamer wrote: »

Thanks spot on. My children have more now than they ever did when ex was living here and I provide it on my own. The ex sits on his bum looking after her child while she works and they laugh at me for paying my bills.
How is it fair that he saves her money on childcare and saves himself money in CSA. I still have to provide a roof over the kids heads, feed, clothe and entertain them on one income.

Some men don't see it as making sure their children are looked after, they see it as 'giving all my money to her'.

13Kent

Marisco wrote: »

Good god, he wasn't married to my oh's ex was he???:eek: His ex and oh's ex sound like two peas in a pod!!!:mad:

:rotfl:

You have to laugh or else you'll cry but it's not funny really is it?