Just how bad can parents get?

Sally_A

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Originally Posted by Sally A
Well put me down as a crap parent - my faux pas:-

2) Health visitor came, daughter asleep on the settee, legs akimbo, with the dog snuggled up resting her nose (the dogs) on the babies nappy. Health visitor dumbfounded, asked it I trusted the dog - yep totally. About 2 years later, the Dog snapped and growled at my daughter, daughter ran in telling tales, I watched through the crack in the door and saw her tormenting the dog mercilessly - daughter got a telling off, dog got fuss.

You stood there spying? While your daughter was at risk of getting bitten when "tormenting the dog mercilessly"
You took a chance didn't you?

Yes I took one heck of a chance, dog was primarily lab which would have been a mouther rather a biter, when I saw what daughter was doing I was in there straight away, there was a major risk - thankfully there was no harm done, and daughter respects pets and their foibles from then until present date. A good lesson learnt in my opinion.

barbiedoll

Oh, people drive me mad when they see fit to comment on a toddler's tantrum. Surely some of them were parents once? My friend's son was very tall for his age and so looked older than he was. We were at a country fair when he had a major tantrum, he was only 2 at the time. There was actually a circle of bystanders around her as she dealt with him, one of whom I heard say ""Well, I certainly wouldn't put up with that behaviour if he were my child"
To which I replied...... "Well, he's not your child so why are you standing here gawping at him? F*** off!"

(I must have been loud, it shut him up almost immediately! :rotfl:)

What a cheek though, no-one wants their kids to misbehave on a day out, why do people feel the need to pass judgement on parents who are probably tired, stressed out and embarassed anyway? :mad::mad:

birkee

Before I sign off on this one, I thought I would say, due to the hostility of many.

No, I don't consider the child was being abused, and worthy of referal to social services. In fact I wouldn't dream of doing so.
And yes, there are many children siuffering abuse that would bring tears to your eyes, or even a physical intervention in the extreme cases. Children starved, or beaten to death for instance.

The OP was just an invitation to pass an opinion on just how thoughtless and selfish some parents can be, but the number of contributers prepared to leap to the defence of a women prepared to get such a young baby soaking wet (warm weather or not) in the rain, more or less makes my point.
Would they also leap to the defence of 'entitled to behave how they want' parents when they ARE beating and starving a child? Just what would, trigger a need to do or say something in them. Anything?

A child of three or four that wants to play in the rain? Great. let them do so, and enjoy it as much as they want, just stand by for when they come in, and dry them down. The point IS, they can come inside when they want!
Don't you think a 6 - 9 month old baby has a right to be protected from the rain though, especially when her mother is wearing protection.
(who was the drippy that said it was maybe to stop the baby pulling her hair, and not as rain protection? Cummon.....! )

Addendum:
The incident in my original post, would NOT have provoked me into making a comment to the mother, so being told to mind my own business doesn't arise. Also the comment about the child getting a wet head at a christening as comparison. Dried immediately? And how does this compare to a baby getting soaking wet clothes early in the morning, (not in the noonday sun as some seem to believe) and for all we know, spending the whole day in soaking wet clothes because they were going somewhere?

lostinrates

birkee wrote: »

(who was the drippy that said it was maybe to stop the baby pulling her hair, and not as rain protection? Cummon.....! )

That was me, thank you for the charming description! (I offered it as a possibility, along with others)

I wore a hat almost the whole time I held niece number two (who lived with me) because she was a hair puller while thumb sucking. Now my friends kid does the same....and when he visits me, which I adore BTW, My hair gets tied up under a scarf if I'm going out later in the day.

FBaby

Are you confident enough to say that you have never ever done something to your kids that others might consider selfish? My view is that as long as the baby wasn't crying, he clearly wasn't so bothered that the action of his mum can be considered selfish. I personally think that parents who let their kids cry in bed are selfish, those who don't let their children involved in decision selfish, those who buy cigarettes and booze instead of paying for their kids to do a sport, selfish.... would I start a thread because of my view on the matter? NO

warehouse

Nice thread title, "Just how bad can parents get".

Thanks for lumping us all in together, appreciated :whistle:.

birkee

warehouse wrote: »

Nice thread title, "Just how bad can parents get".

Thanks for lumping us all in together, appreciated :whistle:.

:rotfl:

Meant to stop at my last post, but yours made me laugh.
Who said ALL parents are thoughtless and selfish?
There are many out there who would put me to shame, but then again, there are those who would go too far the other way, and not let a child develop it's own character and personality with their 'smother love' methods.

Jewel_2

birkee wrote: »

:rotfl:

Meant to stop at my last post, but yours made me laugh.
Who said ALL parents are thoughtless and selfish?
There are many out there who would put me to shame, but then again, there are those who would go too far the other way, and not let a child develop it's own character and personality with their 'smother love' methods.

You can't stop because you want to have the last word Thing is, I don't agree that rain is bad for you, or for a 6-9 month old baby. That was my specific point. To me it's like saying you've seen a baby out in the fresh air. You obviously just have an issue with rain. The baby will probably be toddling in a few months, which means they will get wet all the time, they won't stay under an umbrella, they'll want to splash in puddles, do angels in the snow and general experience all kinds of weather.

Its really about what you do afterwards, and there's nothing a warm shower can't put right. And you have absolutely no idea who this person is, and what they were going to do next. The fact that she had a hat on is absolutely immaterial. I'll remember to sit in a costume to watch my daughter go swimming next time.

emsywoo123

birkee wrote: »

:rotfl:

Meant to stop at my last post, but yours made me laugh.
Who said ALL parents are thoughtless and selfish?
There are many out there who would put me to shame, but then again, there are those who would go too far the other way, and not let a child develop it's own character and personality with their 'smother love' methods.

Are you a parent OP?

ramblinghaggis

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