How to sack a bridesmaid?

roswell

Id say wait till the speeches to sack her .... I would just like to say X is a money pinching git, thank you for her attendance today and I hope she never darkens my door again ...


that should do the trick

welshcakes

I would either

explain that you've found a great ebay bridesmaid's dress but would she mind giving you a written guarantee that she can lose x amount of lbs before you commit to buying it;

or

apologise that you can't see her anymore as your other half is not happy about that 'special way' she kept looking at you last time she was over;

or

ask her if she could lend you a couple of thousand for the wedding (you are able to pay her back £10 a month).

Alternatively just don't bother telling when the wedding is, have a nice day and email her some pics with a note saying what a shame it is she didn't manage to be there in person.

roswell

You could wait till the day of the wedding (sounds like she has a long way to travel) phone her up

"Where are you .. i cant believe your not here you have ruined the best day of my life !"

just an idea

*Louise*

welshcakes wrote:

Alternatively just don't bother telling when the wedding is, have a nice day and email her some pics with a note saying what a shame it is she didn't manage to be there in person.

Haha......well, invites and things do often get 'lost in the post'


Pretty mean though:rotfl:

carolbee

could you suggest hiring the dresses -then she can't keep it!

honeypop

Sportbeth - have you managed to get the courage to speak to her about it yet? I've been on the edge of my seat for a week now...

chrispyphillips

Bargain_Rzl wrote:

I reckon you got point (1) from Friends too Didn't Monica and Chandler use that one TWICE on Janice? (once to stop her coming to the wedding, and once to stop her buying the house next door to them?) :rotfl:

Frightening how well one ends up knowing that show when there are repeats on several times a day

You know what BR, I probably did! Thinking about it now you're right, subconsciously thats where that came from i expect, although I didnt think directly of it when posting! It is on at least 6 times a day!

Yeah c'mon Beth, we're all dying here. Have you done the dirty deed yet?

sportbeth

honeypop wrote:

Sportbeth - have you managed to get the courage to speak to her about it yet? I've been on the edge of my seat for a week now...

No! She e-mailed me yesterday and i sat staring at the screen for about half an hour just pondering the whole thing and not knowing what to say. It's even harder because we live a bit far away from each other and have to arrange to see each other.

Last weekend we were at the venue tying up all the loose ends before we booked it. My parents have absolutely put their foot down and said they are not paying for anything. We weren't expecting them to but the gesture or offer would have been nice. Although that was after we had spent time showing them the venue, making sure they were happy, saying I wanted their input and advice, blah, blah, oh... and after the £100 lunch bill that we picked up at the restaurant.

Now my thoughts are that if they are not paying for anything then I shall be doing all the fun shopping on my own or with my SIL!!

But god knows what to do with the Bridesmaid. Is it acceptable to compose myself on e-mail seeing that I don't see her that often that might be the way for me to say it without it coming out wrong.

I think a good way is to put it to her that we're only having family in the line up and thats that. And of course that we're really grovellingly sorry. She has been a bridesmaid about 8 times so I think she should be OK apart from the fact that she thought she was going to get a one off Vera Wang dress and Gina shoes out of it!

I'm shocking with things like this though, anything uncomfortable and I run like the wind to get away from dealing with it!

welshcakes

why not say that in light of recently discovering that your parents not in a position to contribute (say they've booked themselves cruise or something so it doesn't sound like their being tight or have money problems), that you've had to completely rethink the whole thing and YOU'RE disappointed that it has forced a lot of cutbacks..... nice polite, believable lead into it and tbh, not lying so you can sleep at night

elona

Could you say that as your parents are not able to help you out that you have to scale things down?

Then either say you are having less bridesmaids or that you can only afford to put £50 towards her dress, shoes etc. so that rather than wear something "cheap" she may prefer to be a guest?