Pregnant as a result of rape

shelley_crow

Don't worry about what other people would think, whatever you decide to do. You are the most important person in this equation, not your family, not the baby but YOU.

If you don't feel that your family would be supportive then don't tell then until you have spoken to health professionals and know what you are going to do. Whatever they may think or say, they majority of people on this planet will have no experience of what you have gone through, don't be bullied into anything.

Don't feel pressured into anything. It's your decision to make.

Elle7

Can you talk to him?

If you told him about the rape, you'd probably tell him about a termination...so you could tell him you've found out your pregnant and see what he says? Obviously you still need to make the decision for yourself, but it'll answer your questions with regards to him, at least.

I don't know much about abortions...glancing over the info on the NHS site, it appears that up to 9 weeks you can take two tablets to end the pregnancy, between 9 and 16 weeks it's a surgical abortion. You should be offered plenty of counselling to get yourself through this.

Whatever you choose, I think you'll need someone to talk too. If a counsellor could help you disassociate the baby from the events that lead to it's conception, would you keep it then?

I wish I could help you more - All the best x

[Deleted User]

How awful, sending lots of love and support. I don't have much advice other than to take some time, speak to different organisations, and look after yourself. Take care, whatever you decide, I wish you the strength to get through this.

bylromarha

Just wanted to echo the advice about rape crisis - ring them and talk through the problem with a specialist experienced counsellor.

Sending big hugs to you, and whatever you decide, it will be the right one for you.

All the best.

Whattodo??_2

newcook wrote: »

also get yourself checked out to make sure this excuse for a human hasnt given you anything. do you know the person (sorry if thats too personal to answer)
please try and find the courage to report this - he may do it again or have done it before

I don't know who it was. I already have an appointment to get checked because although I have no symptoms I wanted to be 100% sure I was clear. That's later this week.

flutterby_lil wrote: »

How close are you to your mum?

If she knew you was going through this I am sure she would be upset that she isn't there to help you through a difficult and heart rendering decision.

Book a doctors appointment, they will be able to talk to you as well.

x

We are close, but although she would support me I know she would push her anti abortion views on to me even more so i'm reluctant to tell her anything until i've made a decision.

flutterby_lil

Do you know the man who raped you? Would you go to the police now? Sorry if you have mentioned something already I have only skimmed through x

Mupette

This should be reported to the police.

Right now this person is walking around without a care, and thinks they can do it again.... lets hope it is none of us or our daughters, mothers etc

Whattodo??_2

My boyfriend will be over tonight so I will be talking to him about it, even if it's just to cry and get a hug! I've had to hold everything in at work this morning when all i've wanted to do is curl up and sob.

I've found a number for a local rape crisis centre so i'm going to give them a call now to see if I can drop in and see them this evening. Now that I know I have to tell someone about this whatever my decision I want to get it over and done with asap to get help with both making a decision and moving on

Part_Mouse

:grouphug:I really feel for you, what a terrible situation to find yourself in. I don't have any words of advise im afraid apart from be as kind to yourself as possible and weigh up all your options and see how they sit with you.

Sounds like you could do with lots of these:grouphug:

In terms of the rape its self, trying to shut it out will cause you more pain further down the road. Your so young, i would hate for you to carry the effects of what that monster did around with you.

Thinking of you xx

flutterby_lil

Yes I agree with part mouse, it may cause PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) - if you can talk about it asap i am sure it will help you, although never been through rape myself. Hope your boyfriend is supportive of you and can hug you tight and help to ease your pain a little.