Pregnant as a result of rape

Gingham_R

I'm so sorry you're going through all this. I wanted to say that I'm glad you have the support of your mum and boyfriend. They sound wonderful. I wanted to add how strong I think you sound and I hope that you will be able to move on in strength and good health.

Fly_Baby

fannyanna wrote: »

Thankfully I have never been raped however I imagine after such a traumatic event your in a state of shell shock and emotional turmoil for a while. Whilst these may seem logical things to think about in hindsight I'm not sure they are the first things that spring to mind to a woman who has just been raped.

I think the reason the morning after pill hasn't been mentioned in this specific case is because the OP is already pregnant.

I did not mean to imply that the OP is in any way guilty by not taking the pill - OP, sorry if it looked like that! The only purpose of my post was to bring up the subject of it and remind of how important it is to remember to take care of yourself.

I wasn't going to admit it but I was once raped too, at 21. My attacker used a condom and I was on the pill anyway so I didn't need to think about unwanted pregnancy. Yet, I had always been very careful not to fall pregnant accidentally and I remember that I was able to think clearly after the attack and assess whether I needed to take precautions, for my own sake. No amount of shock gets in the way of that.

Taking a morning-after pill after unprotected sex should become an automatic reflex and a basic instinct for any girl who isn't planning to get pregnant. I know it has for me.

Whattodo??_2

Fly_Baby wrote: »

May I add something which I don't beleive has been mentioned before - morning-after pill.

Every girl that has experienced rape, must know that she must take precautions - even if she doesn't want to report the attack to the police she must find the way to a)get herself examined for STI and b) ensure she doesn't fall pregnant by taking the morning after pill. These pills are expensive and I don't know if there is way to have STI tests without having to explain the circumstances to your GP - but these are too important to ignore.

At least the unfortunate consequences are minimised as much as possible.

OP, hugs and best of luck to you!

fannyanna wrote: »

Thankfully I have never been raped however I imagine after such a traumatic event your in a state of shell shock and emotional turmoil for a while. Whilst these may seem logical things to think about in hindsight I'm not sure they are the first things that spring to mind to a woman who has just been raped.

I think the reason the morning after pill hasn't been mentioned in this specific case is because the OP is already pregnant.

Like fannyanna says, when it happened I was in so much shock things like pregnancy didn't even cross my mind. I blocked out the whole event as much as possible. Until a few days ago the thought of "I could be pregnant" hadn't even entered my head despite all the symptoms I have.

Yes, I was stupid not to go and get the MAP pill but when it happened I went home, had countless showers and curled up in bed feeling dirty, disgusting and used and didn't move for days. I was in shock. By the time I 'snapped out of it' it would have been too late anyway.

In hindsight of course i'd be hammering down the pharmacy door first thing the next day, but at the time it didn't even enter my head.

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I have decided 100% on a termination. I have managed to change my GP appointment to tomorrow to set the ball rolling so to speak. Now i've decided I just want it out of me asap

Thanks again for all the support x

fannyanna

I'm so happy for you that you've come to a firm decision. I hope everything moves quickly for you and that you are soon physically recovered so that you can move onto concentrating on healing emotionally.

I am presuming that your Mum is still supporting you and I'm very, very happy to hear that. It sound like between your Mum, your boyfriend and the centre you now have a wonderful support network - something which will obviously be crucial in coming to terms with what has happened and getting through it.

I hope you take some kind of solice in reading the posts from the ladies who have unfortunately been through a similar situation to you but have been able to continue with their lives and put the event behind them as best they can.

I'm fortunate enough to have never had to deal with anything like what you're going through. I do however know that the hard times in my life have made me stronger and I believe that you too will find strength in what you have to overcome.

Right, I'm starting to sound like a hippy now :rotfl:but I wish you all the best x x x

Hovel_lady

((Hugs)) and all the best for the future.

Part_Mouse

Just wanted to let you know im thinking of you. Your such a brave strong young women and im so pleased you've got support around you. Please make sure you take all the help you can get.

Misstress

Whattodo?? wrote: »

Like fannyanna says, when it happened I was in so much shock things like pregnancy didn't even cross my mind. I blocked out the whole event as much as possible. Until a few days ago the thought of "I could be pregnant" hadn't even entered my head despite all the symptoms I have.

Yes, I was stupid not to go and get the MAP pill but when it happened I went home, had countless showers and curled up in bed feeling dirty, disgusting and used and didn't move for days. I was in shock. By the time I 'snapped out of it' it would have been too late anyway.

In hindsight of course i'd be hammering down the pharmacy door first thing the next day, but at the time it didn't even enter my head.

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I have decided 100% on a termination. I have managed to change my GP appointment to tomorrow to set the ball rolling so to speak. Now i've decided I just want it out of me asap

Thanks again for all the support x

Hi, I haven't posted before because I seem to be one of the few lucky ones who hasn't gone through a rape, (I'm shocked at the amount of people who have posted that they have! ) so didn't feel qualified to comment. But I do think you have made the right decision even though I don't favour terminations.


Have you thought any further about reporting the crime to the police?

I only ask because maybe the police could get your attackers DNA from the fetal tissue, I'm am very sorry if this upsets or offends anyone I just feel it is important for the attacker to be identified. His DNA may already be on the police database for previous attacks and he could be easily identified.


As I said I hope I haven't upset you or anyone with the above.

Best wishes x

lolseh

Misstress wrote: »

Hi, I haven't posted before because I seem to be one of the few lucky ones who hasn't gone through a rape, (I'm shocked at the amount of people who have posted that they have! ) so didn't feel qualified to comment. But I do think you have made the right decision even though I don't favour terminations.


Have you thought any further about reporting the crime to the police?

I only ask because maybe the police could get your attackers DNA from the fetal tissue, I'm am very sorry if this upsets or offends anyone I just feel it is important for the attacker to be identified. His DNA may already on the police database for previous attacks and he could be easily identified.


As I said I hope I haven't upset you or anyone with the above.

Best wishes x

I hadn't even thought they would beable to do that! The OP has enough to deal with without the police getting involved I suppose but if she finds the strength to report it then it's good to know there is a way to identify the animal that done it.

ceridwen

I think - indeed am sure - that you made the right decision to go for termination. I hope this will happen as soon as possible and I am sure if you tell your GP the full facts about this that they will make sure this is how it will be for you.

I am seriously impressed by what a Diamond your mother is being. With a mother like that behind you and such a supportive boyfriend you will come through this MUCH MUCH better than many other people would. You are very very lucky to have two such supportive people in your life. I think that was wonderful of your mother to literally not waste a second - she just literally raced straight to your side. With a mother like that - you can take on the world gal and win and whenever you count your blessings - then put her top of the list.:T

Obviously I hope that when things "clear" a bit for you and you have dealt with the most immediate priority (ie getting that termination) that you will indeed report this man to the police. I fully understand why its not uppermost in your mind right now and you are entitled to make sure you come out of this with that termination done and your life back on track - but just a thought to bear in mind for once that has been settled - in order to try and prevent any other woman going through this with him in the future.

louise3965

So, so many women have been raped. I just cannot get my head round why these awful crimes are continually swept under the carpet. I was raped at 14 and never told as I was too scaredslashashamed but nothing has changed. The abuse is still happening.

You poor woman, and I am sure that with the support of your bf and family, you will come through this ok xxxx