The Matrix - Re-Evolution!!

ClootiesMum

When the going gets really tough we need loads of support; I have noticed that this board gave me more of that than my 'real' life friend. Frankly you are all real - some of you I met others I hope to meet in the future.

We are an emanatikon of the power of women and we will stay together; we will not simply survuve, we will thrive through all this mess that has been and that will be.

That is brilliant FW **scuttles off to look up emanatikon **

hex2

ClootiesMum wrote: »

That is brilliant FW **scuttles off to look up emanatikon **

ditto - on both counts

Huge hugs for you Greenbee. Can you take up a craft or something?

Lara44

Dear Friends

Sorry to read of the turbulence on the thread. I agree that it is very difficult to communicate through message posts the difference between having a bad day, and feeling really on the edge of coping. I absolutely feel for you Thrifty, you have been through such a lot and I am so sorry to hear of the problems in your DH's company. Huge *huge* (((((HUGS)))))

Misunderstandings are a part of life too, and they always crop up at the most stressful of times. I am sure Sunflower's intentions were only the best. Things flare up and also flare down again. Thrifty, if you feel you can, do stay in touch. We are all here and have proved that real, good tangible things have come through the Matrix. I know I have benefitted so much myself.

Hugs to all.

Memory_Girl

Well - B****y Nora ladies!!!

I go off playing at Bob the Builder and you all fall out n fall back in again. Reading from start to finish, well,my tuppence for what its worth .............:cool:

Thrifty hon - I kind of "knew" you were finding life hard at the mo, but TBH I had no idea how frustrated and tired of it all you are. Our looking back and pondering where our brave selves went to, pushed a huge horrible button for you - and that must suck.

But (well you knew there would be a but didn't you??), now is the time that the Matrix exists for - to step in, step up and support you in finding some way of living with all of this. I don't know how to help you - but I know that if you have any thought of how we can help you can rest assured that we will be there to do it.

Remember our "together we can do anything" ? Well that means taking support as well as giving it - and you give in spades.

So think about what is it you really need to do and lets see how we can make it happen.

BTW this lesson took me a long long time to learn - do you remember the Mentors insisting I had to say "yes" to all offers of help a while back? Yeah, well FW will tell you I am still a work in progress.:o

And Clootie -Dora can't come to help you clean your house cos I got first dibs:D The sawdust is everywhere!!

MG

Today I did something either very brave or very foolish (jury is still out) but it was something that the "old me" would have done so I'm still a bit shocked that I picked up the phone and did it. Just for a second the old me raised her head and roared ............ I haven't heard her in such a long time.

Horace

Sorry not been about much. I spent the weekend in 15 minute bursts - cleaning:eek: So far 2 bags of rubbish has been cleared from the living room and I probably have another 2 bags full in there. My washing basket has been part emptied (all the clothes on it were clean), some has been neatly folded and put in a drawer others have been neatly folded and packed for the charity shop (I can only keep so much:() I am keeping loads of t-shirts - never realised I had so many.

My bathroom floor had a shock this morning too - I mopped it and it smelled divine after I put a glug of Zoflora Springtime into a bucket with some hot water.

The weekend was another NSD weekend:j

The reason for this mad cleaning (an ongoing thing), I have decided to tell my parents where I live. You might think this odd but I wanted to strike out on my own and felt that I would do better without the baggage of parents and soon to be ex hubby - depression was also the reason. I am gradually becoming the person I used to be - the funloving vivacious person that I lost along the way. I know that my parents will be uber critical about where I live too - in some ex council flats opposite my grandparents' old house (flats that I used to watch as a little kid from the front room because it was like keystone cops with all the shenanigans). Mum has a huge downer on these flats even though they are quite spacious, high ceilinged and they look quite nice (mother is a snob).

I had a chit chat on the bus this morning with an old lady - she used to live in Northfield but moved to Wolverhampton but sometimes she gets the train and the bus to come and mooch around the shops. She gave me a recipe for Pineapple Vodka, we were talking about sloes and how she used to make sloe gin and how she wanted a blackthorn bush for her garden so that she could make it again. She told me about Pineapple Vodka and how divine it is - basically use fresh pineapple chunks that you have cut yourself, add sugar and use a bottle of vodka, shake until the sugar has dissolved (and treat it how you treat sloe vodka when you make it).

I am 50 next week - I don't feel like 50, I don't look like 50 - I am not celebrating and have decided that I am going to grow old disgracefully:rotfl:

Hello to all folks new and old. Hope you will stick around Thrifty too, your input is invaluable.

tellmeitsfriday

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Today I did something either very brave or very foolish (jury is still out) but it was something that the "old me" would have done so I'm still a bit shocked that I picked up the phone and did it. Just for a second the old me raised her head and roared ............ I haven't heard her in such a long time.

Well don't keep us in suspenders - what was it x

MrsMoo2U

I, like Fantasia, am lurking in the background. Much for the same reasons as Thrifty at the moment. Thrifty, hang in there you are almost at the bottom of the curve, hopefully you wont make to the bottom. I dont have anything to contribute at the moment but I lurk and see how everybody is getting on, if that helps you right now then just hover around the edges, take the support from wherever you find it.You have been a fantastic support for many so its your time to suck up as much as you can. You dont even have to tell us you are around but I am sure that we will be thinking of you. You can jump back in if, and when you feel ready. Take care of you. I hope that you find help from somewhere. It sounds to me like that burden on your shoulders just got a little too heavy to carry so shed a little of the weight and I bet somebody will pick it up.

fantasia322

Sometimes its hard to post, there's been a zillion times, I've started and then deleted it and just carried on reading what everyone else has been upto. There's also times when I just can't seem to find the right words to express what I'd like to say, and rather than say the wrong thing, say nothing at all.

oceanspirit

fantasia322 wrote: »

Sometimes its hard to post, there's been a zillion times, I've started and then deleted it and just carried on reading what everyone else has been upto. There's also times when I just can't seem to find the right words to express what I'd like to say, and rather than say the wrong thing, say nothing at all.

Fantasia, this is exactly why there aren't many posts from me.

Memory_Girl wrote: »

But (well you knew there would be a but didn't you??), now is the time that the Matrix exists for - to step in, step up and support you in finding some way of living with all of this. I don't know how to help you - but I know that if you have any thought of how we can help you can rest assured that we will be there to do it.

Remember our "together we can do anything" ? Well that means taking support as well as giving it - and you give in spades.

So think about what is it you really need to do and lets see how we can make it happen.

BTW this lesson took me a long long time to learn - do you remember the Mentors insisting I had to say "yes" to all offers of help a while back? Yeah, well FW will tell you I am still a work in progress.:o

Thrifty, as MG has said your friends and family are here in the matrix so please let us know how we can help you. Unfortunately we can't make the problems all go away, but we can give you support whilst you deal with them.

So, there are loads of us here with 15 mins (or more) to give, so get in touch and we'll get cracking!

And if you prefer to pm people rather than ask out loud on the thread, then please put me on the list of people willing to help and get in touch as and when.

SunFlower

Thrifty: I am truly sorry to hear of the redundancies where your husband works: I sincerely hope that his job is not one of those affected.
Also, it would truly be a shame for you to step away from the Matrix, particularly under these new circumstances. I genuinely hope you stay for all the help and support that is on offer.