The Matrix - Re-Evolution!!

SunFlower

Gee, greenbee, I have no answers to the above: I wish I did. But I'm happy to hear your internal debate about it.

And the rest of you, you are sounding a bit too near to old hags feeling sorry for themselves for my liking: yes, like ain't quite how we would like it for most of us at the minute (me included!), but heads can't turn two ways at once and if they are looking backwards, they sure as hell can't be looking forwards.

Now don't try to make me me bahookie-kick Firewalker stylee as I have roots, and it's going to be hard to get them out, find boots that fit and clean up all the soil I leave in the process before administering said bahookie-kicks, so all that will make me doubly mad.

Lecture over. Matrix re-boot to normal service resumed.

short_bird

Greenbee: what a decision to have to make after prolonged illness. If you want children, would surrogacy with your eggs be a possibility in the future? And is there anything that can be carried out to have that option, given your current condition?

greenbee

Thanks guys. Off to massage now (ouch) then hospital, then back for reflexology. Need to take a book...

SunFlower... You know about oils... The landlord at the B&B in Barcelona suggested bitter orange oil for intellectual stress. Any thoughts?

Memory_Girl

Well I have officially started my Christmas shopping - £1.50 for a pair of roller skates for DS2 - I may just live to regret this decision.

I now need to go and get the 1000w flood light from the attic so that I can light up the spanking new door on DS2's new room - it fits and everything. The energy saving light is not quite bright enough for me to take a photie - now onto the rest of the wardrobes.

MG

thriftyscotslass

SunFlower wrote: »

And the rest of you, you are sounding a bit too near to old hags feeling sorry for themselves for my liking:

An old hag feeling sorry for myself - gee thanks Sunflower. Let's see:

An adult son diagnosed with Autism who will more than likely never leave home.
No help in any shape or form from anyone leaving me to care for him 24/7, 365 days a year.
Our family income halved with another reduction of 25% looming.
A house that takes 2/3 of our income and that we stand to lose if we can't maintain payments.
An oh whose work has just made yet another fresh round of redundancies with more on the cards.
A daughter who is officially being raised in poverty.
Me on antidepressants trying desperately to keep everything together.

Please forgive me if I am struggling and looking at the past me who could cope and wondering where she has gone.

I have been a member of the matrix for a year and I hope in that time I have provided support and empathy to others, rather than call someone an old hag who feels sorry for themselves. I think it is time for me to leave the Matrix and will let MrF know on the other side.

Thankyou to everyone who has kept me going over the past year, Thriftyxxx

maryb

Thrifty I can see how hurt you are but I wanted to catch you before you log off - I just wanted to say that on a fast moving thread it's easy just to respond a bit flippantly to the most recent post on the thread, where it could be entirely appropriate, and not see how it could be interpreted as aimed at them by someone who posted earlier. I think that is what has happened here. Please don't go

Helen105

Can I second that?

I think Sunflower was just trying to gee everyone up in a joking way, I don't think she meant the kick you when your down feeling you got.

I can see things are tough at yours at the moment. All I can say is hang in there, all things will pass.

Helen105

I was feeling a bit let down by life a year or two ago. The wonderful feeling that I had in my youth that anything was possible had gone and I was left with the prospect of working in the same dull job until I retired with my only ambitions being to pay off the mortgage and pay more into my pension.

This thread shook me up a bit and this was before Mr Big got involved. Firstly MG with her 100 day challenge which meant identifying what I could do in 100 days to make things better and then doing it, no excuses. Then we tried visualising the perfect day and the perfect life, that is realistic life, not when I win the pools sort of life, this helped me realise what I want.

In the last year I've been on courses for creative writing and screen printing and got bees and chickens and am now in the process of buying my SSSI. Life has interesting possibiliities again and who knows where it might go in a year or two?

Don't give up hope ladies.

Tescodealqueen

Me too. Thrifty, you have provided so much support to everyone on this thread and we are here for you too. We may not be able to offer much in practical terms, but you need to know that you can vent here or by pm if you prefer when you need to get something off your chest.

If you read this please have a rethink and stay, or come back when you need to. :A

groatie_queen

Thrifty you're not the only one who felt that Sunflower's flippant words were a bit harsh.... and ageist to those of us who are not in our first flush of youth! It's rather sad that age (and the experience which goes with it) is disparaged and scorned rather than celebrated, women have suffered so much down the centuries as being called hags and past it instead of wisdom figures... not that I consider myself terribly wise, still got my L plates on when it comes to this thing called life.