The Matrix - Re-Evolution!!

Memory_Girl

I make soap too - olive oil and goats milk. It is so lovely that it pains me to give any away. Compared to actually buying a quality soap you can make it for peanuts.

Maybe I could do some for Christmas pressies - although I am know for my Christmas cookies too.

MG

ETA Just caught your post Souk - GO GO GO!!!!!

hypno06

Good news on the 2nd interview souk :j

groatie_queen

My friend's no-cook Christmas chutney recipe has gone awol and I can't get hold of her, but from memory this recipe is very close:

http://www.edibleplaygrounds.co.uk/sow-it-grow-it-eat-it-projects/eat-it/no-cook-apple-and-date-chutney

but I would scale up the quantities. There are some lovely "sow it, grow it" projects on the above site which look great fun for kids, and environment friendly too.

Found another chutney recipe which uses less ingredients - no sultanas:

http://www.cottagesmallholder.com/no-cook-apple-date-and-onion-recipe-79



MG please can we have your soap recipe?:p

Cheery_Daff

Bleurgh, forgot to subscribe - should have known you lot wouldn't have been that quiet for that long! :rotfl: :rotfl:

I'm NOT going to read back (sorry!) - just noticed groatie queen and her soap making - it's fairly straightforward, but don't do it with lots of kids and pets running around, and BE CAREFUL with the caustic soda!

I use this tutorial (which has just been updated with moredetails I think)

Fingers crossed for you souk!

Eager_Elephant

Hi All

Have not had a chance to do the last two challenges but will catch up today.

(((Thrifty))) I am in exactly the same place and have been for at least 10 years :eek::mad:

My DH has depression and at times it has been very severe, I have been offered carer's groups etc and also DH has read books on depression and asked me to read them but I sold them before I could

I think the reason I have avoided it is denial, while I know a lot about how depression works and how it affects people I have never read a personal account of someone's life with depression as I think it is too close to home.

I get quite upset just thinking about it and also if I have ever spoken to someone about DH's depression I end up sobbing my heart out for hours

Anyway we were in the library last week and DH has found a book on a personal experience of depression and has asked me to read it, he did it so nicely that I feel that I should as I know he thinks I will understand it better but ................. I just know that I will get upset and end up in tears and then I have to face the reality of his illness

While I am in denial I do not have to admit to people that sometimes my life is crap and I am the one holding my family together

How do I pluck up the courage to read the book?
(I know it probably sounds pathetic because surely people pluck up the courage to do bigger things than this such as interviews, moving abroad etc but I can do all that without a backwards glance but this is just too much for me)

EE

greenbee

Great news Souk

Ok... I finally decided that I needed to set up access to the other side on my iPad instead of judt the work laptop (so I can check there first and not here and not get side tracked) and now can't find all the original emails I know I haven't deleted them as I haven't cleared out either mail programme on the laptop I was using when they arrived, so I'm clearly looking for the wrong thing.

My mother has gone home, and there are no workmen here today, so I'm tempted to spend the whole day in bed... although I do have to pick up my prescription at lunchtime.

Dustykitten

Memory_Girl wrote: »

.................. and after all that waffle Matrixettes!!!

The first daily challenge has been posted over on the Matrix by a friendly mentor - so get yourself over there for a lookie.

TTFN

MG

I need to get to the otherside but have no idea how, please somebody give me a hand.


Morning all

Today I shall start the challenge of operation moth removal and hopefully declutter and tidy at the same time. I am giving myself 3 weeks (until we go to Wales) to get this done so that when September comes I do not fall into my usual habit of spending a month 'getting the house back together' once the kids are at school, then start thinking of Christmas and generally procrastinating for 3 months. This year shall be different.:D

I'll start with a cuppa and 15 minutes of paperwork, shower and then I shall start (and the lucky children can help)

greenbee

Dusty - you need to PM MrF to ask for access. It may take a bit of time as he may not have Internet access right now.

And don't let the money/library book issue spoil your holiday. Sometimes you just have to accept things and move on - learning to do it with this kind of thing might make it easier to do with the big stuff.

Eager_Elephant

greenbee wrote: »

Dusty - you need to PM MrF to ask for access. It may take a bit of time as he may Nottingham have Internet access right now.

:rotfl::rotfl:

Have you got autocorrect on?

I found this great website all about autocorrect and when it goes wrong - I can spend hours on here and it really cheers me up.

EE

MrsMoo2U

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

Hi All

Have not had a chance to do the last two challenges but will catch up today.

(((Thrifty))) I am in exactly the same place and have been for at least 10 years :eek::mad:

My DH has depression and at times it has been very severe, I have been offered carer's groups etc and also DH has read books on depression and asked me to read them but I sold them before I could

I think the reason I have avoided it is denial, while I know a lot about how depression works and how it affects people I have never read a personal account of someone's life with depression as I think it is too close to home.

I get quite upset just thinking about it and also if I have ever spoken to someone about DH's depression I end up sobbing my heart out for hours Accept this as a good thing. A release of emotion can help you to move forward. By talking to people all of your deep seated emotions and worries can surface and then you cna start dealing with them as a way forward for you.

Anyway we were in the library last week and DH has found a book on a personal experience of depression and has asked me to read it, he did it so nicely that I feel that I should as I know he thinks I will understand it better but ................. I just know that I will get upset and end up in tears and then I have to face the reality of his illness

While I am in denial I do not have to admit to people that sometimes my life is crap and I am the one holding my family together

Grief can’t be hurried or it festers away and may come out in unexpected ways and at inappropriate times. Again, it’s baby steps. The wound forms a scab, scab dries up, falls off, another forms. Each time the wound heals a little more.

Tricia says this so eloquently and I do believe this is what you are experiencing EE.
How do I pluck up the courage to read the book?
(I know it probably sounds pathetic because surely people pluck up the courage to do bigger things than this such as interviews, moving abroad etc but I can do all that without a backwards glance but this is just too much for me)

EE

Not pathetic at all. We all have different demons to face and each of those are as valid as any other.

Have you thought about talking to the Dr or speaking to a counsellor who might be able to help you through your emotions and then and only then might you be ready to join carers groups etc. In all of this I would say that you need to talk to somebody about how you are feeling. You have a right to be angry, upset, worried, and all of those other emotions. You dont have to be the strong one all of the time, it is ok to have down days yourself, the trick is to learn how to deal with them without feeling that you are adding any stress to your OH. Then again, he probably notices and would love to help you through too. I suspect that him wanting you to read that book is because there is something in there about how the family have dealt with things and maybe he doesnt know how to tell you some things.

Whatever happens you can talk to us lot and we will usually have a way of seeing through the fog somehow.