Diary of a (hopefully)reformed shopaholic

LivvyLoo_2

Hi Mummy,

Yes, there are droppings & the little s0ds have eaten through all my cushion covers for garden furniture, there is sponge all over the place.


I can't wait until I can sort my money out properly, just got to be a bit sly for a while. Probably a good thing I have it in a secret account as its harder to get at so has stopped me spending it on anything and everything.


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LivvyLoo_2

Afternoon Diary,

Well today I will mostly be waiting for my payslip to arrive! I have tried to under estimate salary so that I am not dissapointed as its the first month with cost of living rise.

I got a bit excited with the 15% Designers offer at Debenhams, filled my basket with lots of Ted Baker clothes for DD and then the code wouldn't work. The bloke on the phone said that it has to be one of Debenhams Designers and Ted Baker is not eh??????? So spent my whole lunch hour shopping for nothing.

I'm almost ready for Dad coming, have washed and dried the sheets and just need to get the bed prepared tonight and wash the towels.

Mr T coming tonight with shopping, but I'm having last nights chilli again for tea so won't be eating it all in one night for a change.

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LivvyLoo_2

Right, am sorted with beds for Dad and friend visiting. Feel a bit drained as I haven't stopped again so I have come to bed with laptop.

Got a busy day at work tomorrow and payslip didn't turn up so won't even have time to scrutinise it tomorrow, I have got a visitor coming so booked meetings all day.

I don't know why I feel so tired all the time, surely it can't be coz I am getting up earlier every morning, its only 30 mins earlier so not like I am getting up in the middle of the night.

I have £90 left in current account and £90 left in food and petrol budget this month so I will save that somewhere otherwise it will just mingle in with next months spends.

No sign of the rat\mouse and poison is still in tact. Hopefully the little gits have vacated the shed.

2 more weeks until I am off work for a week YEY!

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LivvyLoo_2

Hi Diary,

It feels like ages since I updated. Having a horrible time at the moment, exOH has turned into a very nasty man.
He has stopped his payments and says he is going to default on the joint loan or else he moves back in to the house. He came round to my house making a big scene infront of my mum and dad on Sunday and then Monday came back for more.

I have been to a solicitor and they are going to do all they can to help, I just have to do my best to keep him out of the house and at the front door until he receives the letter off my solicitor. I have a couple of options with the house and payments etc so will see what comes next.

I can't believe I could have married such a horrible man!

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mummytogirls

OMG Livvy, cant believe hes turned like this. Well actually I can cos the same thing happened to my friend. Its shocking that you never really know a person isnt it!
Hope he didnt cause too many problems in front of your parents. (hugs) xx

MrsNotAPenny

Oh LL, I'm so sorry I haven't been around to offer any support. You have been such a great help for me in my diary and I really hope your ex gets agrip and grows up.

I hope you're alright. Have you started with your divorce? Could he just be acting this way because he now knows it's over? I hope he doesn't default, it's a very childish thing to do and speaks volumes about him :mad:

((big hugs))xx

LivvyLoo_2

Hi everyone,
Aw thanks for all your support. Its been so difficult over the last week, I just want to crawl into a dark room.

Last week just went from bad to worse, exOH demanded he came into the house even though I asked him not to, he pushed past me with a stupid grin on his face and went round the house rifling through drawers (whilst whistling). It wasn't until I couldn't get on the internet I realised he had pulled my wireless apart and stolen the aerial.

Thursday I had his mother on the phone telling me I was giving him a bad name so he couldn't move back in, and then Friday I called the police.
I had changed the locks and he tried to get in, so after 20 mins of him demanding to be in for some papers, when I finally let him in he decided to intimidate me by running round the house taking all the keys out of the locks inside...he soon dropped them and ran when he saw me dialling 999.

This week I've been trying to sort the bills out, SKY is the only one in his name and they won't let me change it into my name. I can't afford to pay £68 for Sports and HD so need to reduce the package. Anyway after 40 mins on the phone to them begging them to change it into my name they realised it was pending cancellation anyway (funny how he wouldn't do it before), only he had only cancelled the tv and not the phone. So because he is the account holder for my address I can not take SKY TV in my name because the phone is still active.

Time for lightbulb moment!!!!! I have instructed another provider to take over the line rental...yey! One small victory (well for now if they let me do it).

Have a feeling things are just going to get worse, but for today I don't feel so ill.

Thanks for my hugs Mummy and MrsP x

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DebtFree2012

Hi Livvy

Just catching up - what a time you are having of late and how can men turn into such idiots!!!

I hope you are bearing up, you seem very strong and organised but I know how we can all find it hard underneath.

Your new life isn't far away, stick with it lass - it will be SO worth it when it's you and DD all the way.

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mummytogirls

Awww Livvy what an absolute !!!!!! this man is being! Im actually furious for you :mad:. Who the bloody hell does he think he is behaving in such a way, was DD about when all this was going on? Please dont let him into the house again, just call the police and have it all down on record. Lol at his mother saying you are giving him a bad name, think hes doing a good enough job of that himself.

Hopefully the telephone thing will work and show him you mean business!! I totally agree with DF2012, this will soon all be over and you will only have to speak to him about DD. Stay strong xx

Keeping_Motivated

Gosh! He's really turned a nasty streak hasn't he! What do you think has sent him this way? Is it because its definitely over and no going back?

How's your DD coping with his mood swings?

Remember the saying 'And this too shall pass' hopefully will keep you calm in times of stress...It will pass and hopefully he'll move on from his anger and or denial phase QUICK...

Take care