I am absolutely fuming relationships!

JimmyTheWig

Why not find a campsite close to where you live and go there for a couple of nights mid-way between this holiday ending and him going away with his brother? It means you get some more time away from home without (a) costing too much money as you seem able to afford a few nights camping and (b) being away from home too long at one stretch.

But I also think you need to find out what went wrong in the planning of the trip just gone. Was it...
(a) You just assumed it would be a long break and he just assumed it would be a short break. In which case you need better communication next time.
(b) You talked about it beforehand being a long break and he changed his mind last minute. In which case you need to find out why he changed his mind.
(c) You talked about it beforehand being a long break which he wasn't happy about but didn't know how to tell you until it was last minute. In which case we're back to communication again.

euronorris

Also, if you want to go out, then arrange something that you and little one can do alone. Ask your OH if he would like to join you, and if he says no, just go out and do the activity without him.

If he wants to stay in that's fine, but he shouldn't expect everyone else to do that also, so I don't feel he would have anything to complain about if you did that.

annie12

euronorris wrote: »

Also, if you want to go out, then arrange something that you and little one can do alone. Ask your OH if he would like to join you, and if he says no, just go out and do the activity without him.

If he wants to stay in that's fine, but he shouldn't expect everyone else to do that also, so I don't feel he would have anything to complain about if you did that.

OP is disabled, she can't drive now, so I'm assuming she is worse than me.
I'm not sure how dependant she is on her OH, if she would need him to be with her if she goes out for the day with the little one.

victory

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JimmyTheWig

victory wrote: »

I have proposed a campsite 1 hour car drive from the house for a few days midweek and he seems keen, nothing has been booked or sorted but he says yes.

This is great news.

Note that a few days to him probably means two days. And two days means one night. If that's ok with you then fine. If you are wanting more then bring it up with him now and see what he thinks.


But I still think you need to find out why he changed his mind at the last minute last time. You could really do with this not happening again in the future and by knowing the problem you can try to avoid it.

victory

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JimmyTheWig

victory wrote: »

now he feels vindicated by returning home because it is lashing out there with rain and he keeps muttering if we had stayed longer this would have been us etc, good job we came home etc

That is out of order. If he'd said he didn't want to stay until Thursday because of the weather then at least he'd be allowed to say "I told you so" if he wanted to be so childish. But when that wasn't even a factor that's just wrong of him.

How old is he, out of interest? He doesn't sound old enough to have a child, let alone one old enough to play xbox!

victory

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CH27

I think you both need to lt it go now.
Keeping it festering will cause damage.

victory

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