daughter traumatised after op

meeps

My son was given a sedative for a procedure when he was 3, I did get distressed in front of him as I didn't realise what it would be like- but now all he remembers is that he asked me for a carry over and over and over and OVER again, and he tells it like a little anecdote.

savingmummy

I asked about a sedation got no answer to that, i`m assuming it would have to be arranged and then could make it even more difficult to do if she was sleepy - no idea why it wasn`t done so assuming it wasn`t possible!

LadyMorticia - My DH had quinsy he gets it almost every other month his awaiting a date for a tonsilectomy too!
He too can`t bear to be examined when his tonsils are bad and has said he wouldnt of been able to let them do what they did to DD and his 35!!!

No more questiond form her today so i`m assuming she is OK and now knows the `incident` wasn`t an operation!:j

savingmummy

meeps wrote: »

My son was given a sedative for a procedure when he was 3, I did get distressed in front of him as I didn't realise what it would be like- but now all he remembers is that he asked me for a carry over and over and over and OVER again, and he tells it like a little anecdote.

Its so hard not too be!
I started tearing up as soon as i heard the dr say `erm nurse she has a blood clot, this needs sorting now can you call for the consultant and registrar on call and bleep theatre!`
SO then when i was called to go down i was by then a wreck :eek:

It may well have sorted me out though, i`m sure if i can watch that and witness that level of distress caused i can cope with anything!

LadyMorticia

savingmummy wrote: »

I asked about a sedation got no answer to that, i`m assuming it would have to be arranged and then could make it even more difficult to do if she was sleepy - no idea why it wasn`t done so assuming it wasn`t possible!

LadyMorticia - My DH had quinsy he gets it almost every other month his awaiting a date for a tonsilectomy too!
He too can`t bear to be examined when his tonsils are bad and has said he wouldnt of been able to let them do what they did to DD and his 35!!!

No more questiond form her today so i`m assuming she is OK and now knows the `incident` wasn`t an operation!:j

The quinsy was one of the most painful things I have ever endured! I was tested for Glandular Fever in the hospital as I had a tender spleen and that came back positive. The quinsy was a result of severe tonsillitis that antibiotics didn't touch and I couldn't eat or drink anything which is why I was sent straight to the hospital for an IV.

I'm really sorry that your husbands is re-occurring. I know how utterly painful they are. I can't have a tonsillectomy until I have so many bouts of tonsillitis. I get alot of sore throats and swollen glands as I have M.E.

savingmummy

Have you asked to be referred to a ENT clinic to see a consultant?

My DH has never suffered with his tonsils until our DD kept getting tonsiltis.
Now his tonsils are always enlarged and he has an infection every other week. The quinsy his had 4 times this year and hospitalised the last time on iv antibiotics which worked well - took 2 days for him to beable to open his mouth enough to sip water.

The GP was very against him having it done due to his age BUT he was referred and they said yes straightaway.

His on the waiting list for his op shouldnt be much longer now, as is my DS of 3yrs who also takes after his sister and daddy and has HUGE tonsils

Mrs_Imp

meritaten wrote: »

I am saying that her DAD shouldnt have held her down - every pediatric nurse, doctor etc knows to get the parents out of the way and NOT to involved them in any procedure! Because the child remembers that Mum or Dad held them down and LET people hurt them! you have to realise that a child sees things very simply - If Mum or Dad let people hurt them then the child will remember that.

My Dad held me down while I had stitches when I was younger. I still love my Dad and don't hold it against him at all. They believed that a familiar, comforting face was very important to help keep me calm. Certainly I appreciated having my Dad there to look after me. How much worse to be abandoned by mum and dad, in a strange room, to people who hurt them, than to be there to comfort them.

OP, it's still early days, as many have said. She will get over it. Just make sure you make it something exciting that has happened to her, rather than something worrying that has happened to her. 'I bet your brother won't be as brave as you were and have his special plaster put on while he's awake'

Molly41

savingmummy wrote: »

Have you asked to be referred to a ENT clinic to see a consultant?

My DH has never suffered with his tonsils until our DD kept getting tonsiltis.
Now his tonsils are always enlarged and he has an infection every other week. The quinsy his had 4 times this year and hospitalised the last time on iv antibiotics which worked well - took 2 days for him to beable to open his mouth enough to sip water.

The GP was very against him having it done due to his age BUT he was referred and they said yes straightaway.

His on the waiting list for his op shouldnt be much longer now, as is my DS of 3yrs who also takes after his sister and daddy and has HUGE tonsils

Your husband will feel so much better once he has recovered from the operation. I had mine out when I was 38 after years of toxic tonsils. However it took me ages to get over it - for a start you have low immunity because of the tonsils and age is against you as it is a much more painful recovery. But the upside is much better health and the worry that a sore throat will morph into tonsillitis has vanished.

pinkcheshirecat

I haven't read the whole thread, so forgive me OP if I've missed something which relates. My dd was the same age when she had grommets, tonsils and adenoids out. No matter how much you explain with books, teddies etc, they still can't really imagine what you're talking about, they have in general never had or seen anything similar.

My dd is now 7 and doesn't remember seeing a member of our family who works on the children's ward and took her temp etc. That said, this is a different thing. I think you probably need to let her talk about it as much as she needs, if she doesn't accept what you say, perhaps when you go for her check up you could ask the doctor to tell her you are telling the truth.

I do remember the consultant telling us before he did the op, that day 4/5 were usually the worst for them and my dd was more distressed on those days than she had been previously. You may find that she's less distressed as she recovers physically. Hope your dd is fighting fit and happy v. Soon OP.xx