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SusanCarter

Becles wrote: »

Was impressed this morning with my 8 year old son. I was asleep, but woke up when I heard Charlotte cry. By the time I got out of bed and into her room, my 8 year old had her out the cot and on the changing mat and was busy dealing with her nappy. I just let him get on with it, and he managed to do the whole nappy change all by himself

:T Very impressive.

Becles wrote: »

Got some good news too - I'm an Auntie! My SIL had a baby girl on Sat night. She's called Lauren Nicole and weighed 9lb 2oz. SIL was in the second stage of labour for over 2 hours, so she's worn out - poor thing!

Congratulations! I had a long second stage. Midwife told me to push then after half an hour told me to stop and disappeared. I'd been up all night and had an epidural so fell asleep. About 2 hours later she came back.

Snaggles

Blimey Susan, that was a strange thing for the midwife to do! :eek: Bet you were glad of the sleep though...

I'm not really sure how long my 'second stage' was - it was all such a blur, I had my first contraction at 2am and gave birth at 3.24am (almost in the hospital corridor!), I think I only pushed 3 times, and then was told I had to have an episiotomy (baby had to be born quickly as was in distress), then one last push and out she came!

It's weird how experiences of childbirth can be so different isn't it.

heather38

i asked the midwife how long i would have to push for and she told me most women push for an hour, f*** that i shouted and had her out in 20 minutes, i have never felt pain like it.
i don't believe it when people tell you you're a bad mum, unless they live with you 24/7 and see what you go through then how can they say that? ignore them, chin up and remember that you are the best mum that your baby can have.

clarissa_D

HI YA LADIES,
AWW THANKS FOR ALL YOUR KIND WORDS MEANS ALOT,
i NOW HAVE A NEW SCENARIO AND I AM THAT UN HAPPY I COULD BEAT THEM UP FOR IT !!
OK RIGHT I HAVE KNOWN THIS GIRL SINCE I WAS 11, AND I REMET UP WITH HER 4 YEARS AGO NOW, WE WAS REALLY CLOSE FRIENDS I WAS WORKING AND EVERYTHING AND SHE WAS ON BENEFITS..
OK SHE HAS BEEN WITH MANY MEN TO PUT IT NICELY SHE CAN'T COMMIT AND ALWAYS CHEATS ON THE GUYS SHE IS WITH, I THINK ITS NEAR 20 MEN NOW AND SHE HAS NEVER HAD A STI TEST :rolleyes:
OK RIGHT SHE IS ALSO A MUMMY HER BABY IS 1 MONTH YOUNGER THEN MY BABY, AND LIKE I SAID EVERY THING HAS TO BE A COMPETITION ANYWAY I WOKE UP AND REALISED THAT SHE WASN'T A TRUE FRIEND AND HAVE HER BLOCKED ON MY MSN, WELL ITS BEEN 5 MONTHS I HAVEN'T MADE EFFORT TO TALK BUT SHE HAS UNBLOCKED ME AND SHE HAS TOLD ME HER NEW BLOKE CALLED TEEJAY, OK ANYWAY YESTERDAY SHE HAD UP I LOVE YOU TEEJAY RING, NOW I FROZE IN HORROR FOR THE FACT "RING" ISN'T A COMMON NAME, AND THE FACT MY CUZIN IS MARRIED TO A RING..
I CALLED HER YESTERDAY AND ASKED HER IF HER HUBBY HAPPENS TO HAVE A TEEJAY IN HIS FAMILY AND SHOCK HORROR HE DOES... WORST OF IT IS MY CUZIN GOING ON HOLIDAY AND TEEJAY HAS BEEN LEFT TO LOOK AFTER HER HOUSE FOR 2WEEKS.. WHICH MEANS THE !!!!! WILL BE INVITED OVER OMG IT MAKES ME FEEL SICK TO KNOW SHES BEEN IN MY CUZINS HOUSE DOING WHAT SHE WANTS I HAVE NEVER BEEN THIS WOUND UP I AM AT THE POINT OF THREATENING THIS GIRL TO END WIT TEEJAY AS I DONT WANT HER TO TRAP HIM INTO THINKING "SHE'S PREGNANT" AND USE HIM FOR HIS MONEY !!!!!! I COULDN'T SLEEP MUCH LAST NITE THROUGH PANICKING PLEASE IF YOU GUYS TRULEY KNEW WHAT A DIRTY TRAMP IT IS EVEN MY MUM WHO NEVER PASSES JUDGMENT ON ANY1 SAYS SHE MAKES HER FEEL ILL INFACT I WAS SEXUALLY ATTACKED 2 YRS AGO, I TOLD HER AND SHE TOLD ME "SHUT UP AND STOP BEING AN ATTENTION SEEKING DIV" THATS WHEN YOU NEED YOUR FRINDS I HAD NO1..
I HAVE EMAILED MY CUZIN SAYING WHAT SHE IS LIKE AND STUFF I FEEL PHYSICALLY SICK !!
THANK YOU
NEEDED TO VENT
FROM CLARISSA

Becles

Crumbs - that sounds like a mess. Can you talk to your cousin about it?

Update for Snaggles on mixed feeding:

Started giving Charlotte a bottle feed after her bath around 11pm. She goes straight in her cot afterwards and sleeps through till around 6am.

As a test, she only had breastmilk on Sat night, but she woke up at 3am, then 6am.

Definitely keeping the bottle at bedtime as it makes her sleep longer, and I'm not as knackered!

All the other feeds are breastmilk, but it's handy to know she'll take a bottle if I want to go out anywhere.

Snaggles

Becles, that's brilliant that's she's taking to it so well and that it's made such a big difference to her sleeping. If Natasha starts waking at night, I'll probably try doing the same. I think if you give yourself a bit of freedom to have a break and a good nights sleep, or the occasional night out, you're likely to carry on breastfeeding longer anyway - everyone wins lol!

Snaggles

Clarissa, sorry you are so upset by all of the stuff that's going on. Have I understood right, your friend is seeing one of your cousins husbands family?

Unfortunately, much as you might (quite understandably, from the sound of things) hate the girl, I don't think there's much you can do to stop her going out with him - you could ask your cousins hubby to have a quiet word with Teejay maybe, to see if he is aware of this girl's reputation, but ultimately we all choose who we want to go out with, and we all have to make our own mistakes in life.

By the way, I would block her again and tell her quite clearly you don't want anything more to do with her - anyone that would speak to someone like that when they have been assaulted as you were is not worthy of your friendship. And feel free to vent a much as you want - much better to get it off your chest. Take care xxx

Curious_George_2

Clarissa - i think you need to take a step back and let them all get on with it,
it all sounds a bit like playground crap to me,
ignore your "friends" calling you a bad mum, all your baby can expect is for you to do the best you can... if you are, then who gives a monkeys what anyone else says?

i would also ignore the local slappers, im not sure i understood your last post but if someone is having an affair with one of your cousins then it is their problem, you dont have to get involved....
but if you decide too then just give the information and then step out of it.

everyone else - i pushed for 2 hours and after all that DD still had to be tugged out with salad tongs! (she got stuck!)

Lu_T

I never got to push :sad: It's the one thing I wish I had been able to experience before they whipped me off for a c-section. But after 4 nights of contractions and 17 hours of established labour - and at only 9.5cm dilated - they decided there was no way I could do it on my own.

Apparently the stats for having a vaginal birth after cesearean (VBAC) are quite high so I'm hoping to get that far next time!

Is anyone else TTC? Me and the mummies were talking about it this weekend and some are planning to start after Xmas, most of us thinking about next autumn. Some of the mums with younger babies (4+ months) just looked on in horror as we talked about no 2!! :rotfl: :rotfl:

Becles

Lu_T wrote: »

Some of the mums with younger babies (4+ months) just looked on in horror as we talked about no 2!! :rotfl: :rotfl:

That's nothing to the looks you get when you talk about possibly having number 4 :eek: :rotfl: