MSE Parent Club

spinning_hamster_wheel

Hello!

Just wondering if I can join you guys? I had my 2nd baby, Amelie (Amy for short, because DS can't say Amelie) on the 20th june. Am also mum to a *ahem* lovely wee boy who's two and his main aim in life is currently to search and destroy.x

Snaggles

Hi Spinning Hamster Wheel - I remember your thread about being induced and have been wondering how you got on (I'm appallingly nosey, sorry! ).

Congratulations, Amelie is a lovely name. Welcome to the parent club! :hello:

Chef1980uk

Hi all, 2 months have now passed since my wife gave birth. Our boy is ace he was weighed monday and came in at 10.10 (birthweight 8.1).

My wife has been brilliant. She breastfeeds him for all his feeds, no need to express any milk, shes quite happy to feed him straight off when he needs it. Quite how she fits everything else in i dont know. That said, i do try to help out where i can. Being a chef by trade i do most of the cooking, if im on earlies at work, i'll bring lunch home with me basically to try and keep bex out of the kitchen (somewhere she doesn't like to be lol).

Even though we haven't had much of a summer, i am truely grateful for having a baby during said months. It must be really hard to do so in the winter with the long dark nights etc.

All in all we're coping very well. Our friend is expecting their first in 10 days time so all the attention can now be focused on them

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hi Chef1980uk, well done to your wife re the feeding, its something I really wante to do but just couldn't. I admire those who can.

Your right about the having a baby in the winter. My son was born last November and I'm sure that didn't help my PND. I remember by about 3pm I was getting quite panicky as I knew it would be dark by 4pm and I felt stuck in the house with a newborn, too scared to take him out as I couldn't see his face in the pram and it felt like the the evenings went on forever.

My next one is due this february and I dont think I will feel quite the same, only a month of so of dark nights and I wouldn't be apprehensive to take them out. I didn't know what I was doing with my first and I remember the first 12 weeks were just awful, he didn't sleep properly, wouldn't feed properly and was very unsettled and had chronic reflux. Once diagnosed and he was given prescription milk he improved overnight.

I will be much more vigilant with my second and be pushing to get any problem sorted sooner, rather than thinking it is because I am a new mum. It certainly wont take two of us to change its first nappy like it did with Jack. We laugh now, but i remember thinking I can't do this on my own and getting him dressed, just changing a sleepsuit and vest used to take ages. We were so gentle with him, now its whip it off and throw on some new. With a tickle in the middle!

Today my friend is having her baby.........I am waiting for a text to reveal all.

Snaggles

Oh Bailey, your description of changing time when your baby was newborn really made me chuckle - I was EXACTLY like that! Mind you, I seem to have babies that can wriggle for England, and nappy times are still a bit of a battle of wills lol!

Edit - Or perhaps it's just me that's a bit rubbish at it!

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Snaggles your not the only one. Since Jack has been rolling, nappy times are boring "Mum I don't want to lie on my back when I've discovered I can do so much more". As he's on the verge of crawling now, I can see him wriggling off the mat and hop footing it with a nappy around his ankles.

As friend of mine is lucky to get nappy cream on and often has to do the nappy whilst he's trying to escape and crawl away.

i've given up getting Jack dressed in a lying position. If I sit him up and work around him he's happier and moans less. Nappies though unfortunately have to be done back down bum up!

Agutka

If I may just quietly sneak in for a moment...
Hubby keeps asking me if we're going to his company Xmas party this year (I keep having to check it is still July!!).
What do you parents think.
Baby due 2nd october, party 8th december. Will I be up for it? Or will it be too early for me to leave the baby? First time parents, so no idea whatsoever.

rchddap1

In all honesty I'd say go for it. You will probably be thinking about baby all night, but getting a break is so nice. Have a quick word with grandparents or aunts/uncles and get them to babysit for a bit. You can always pop round and collect baby on the way home.

However, whoever takes on the job must remember that baby won't necessarily be sleeping through the night. Our is getting towards 8 months old and wasn't sleeping through until around 6 months.

Just because you're going to be a mum it doesn't mean that you have to be connected to it for the first few years of its life. It is okay to leave it with someone that you trust and have some fun. It makes up for those days when you get horrid nappies coming out of your ears, bottles/milk and sick up to your eyeballs, and a serious headache thanks to the screaming.

Right now mine is dozing. We've learnt to sit up (has to be placed though)...still can't crawl. However, we do a neat little indian trick....(you know...the noise with the hand over the mouth). Dad taught her how she can do it herself. Bless

Agutka

Thank you rchddap. The only obstacle I can think of, without a maternal bone in my body is that I can't imagine what I could wear!! Priorities eh?
The hotel is near the house, taxi will be paid for, so all that remains is dragging the grandparents over.

Snaggles

If it's not too far from home Agutka, I would go for it. Mine is 9 weeks and I'm *just about* at the stage where I can bear to be away from her for a couple of hours (and I'm a really anxious Mum....I'm sure you'll be much more calm and laid back than me lol!). You will deserve a break by then, and you will be leaving the baby with someone you trust, so I'm sure you will be fine.

Maybe try and have a practice run the week before (couple of hours away from the baby), because I don't know about anyone else but the first time I leave them, I cry and feel like my right arm has been chopped off, but it gets easier after that.