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cha97michelle

scrambled egg
cooked veg batons
cheese cubes

i gave charlie home made pizza the other day with tomato puree, shredded chicken and cheese and he loved it, but was messy

he also ate sausages cos he saw them and wanted them so i thought, why not,

i must say he loves his food, and he is getting so good with chewing i might not bother pureeing for much longer as it is getting hard work getting things in him. He has 5 teeth now, and they work hard for him. :rolleyes:

clarissa_D

hi ya
my names clarissa and my big girl is keira she is 17 months today
and im 24 ekk, new to this part of MSE, it is really difficult to think of food that's healthy for babies to eat .. she will eat fish fingers if the bread crumbs are taken off, will eat most things don't think she likes broccoli much, not a big fan of meats just yet, likes soft chicken it is very hard to get her eating healthy stuff when were out and about, I ideally would like a small container of fruit and veggies, should be more healthier places to go other then pizza hut buffet !!

has any1 tried the real nappies ? as keira is going to be potty trained fairly soon Id like to not waste money on nappies, really wish I did terry towels like mum suggested sooner but that's life, I do know if we was to have another baby I will do but no plans for any other babies at all !!

I spent my savings to pay off my loan and I now have £100 spare each month * I haven't told bf I have paid my loan off, but in 2 weeks I will have more money then I had before* and then I can try to make a dent in his debt !
also me and a so called friend was in a "discussion" on birthday money and xmas money saved ! and I basically said any money Keira is given will be put into her savings ready for a deposit on her 1st home! she will get £100 per year, but she will also get anything she wanted from me and family so she will not be going without and im branded a bad mum ! so I thought f***k it ill ask my 18 year old cuzin if she thought I was being a bad mum, she said "omg that would be great I would love if my mum n dad did that !!" but it is like EVERYTHING is a competition it really does upset me , I am depressed as it is without so called mates sayin thats bad and i cant keep her money from her !!
I did explaine that i wont be dipriving her at all its not like she dont get new toys or clothes all the !!!!!!! time !! my other mate who is my closest mate said i am a good mum and that she thinks it is also sensible to do that, basically I dont want her waiting on waiting list from age 16-19 tilll she gets her own place, if she wants to go collage she can work and learn to budget but i think its fab that she would be 18 and have her own home! we could also rent it out aswell to earn money back, the potential!!

hope every one is well sorry its a long post just had to get off me chest
thanks from Clarissa & Keira

Lu_T

Savings - Clarissa, I think you're absolutely right to do that with Keira's money. I wish my parents could have afforded to have done that for me. My bro-in-law did this for our nephew and he was able to buy his first car with the money. I think your friends are being short-sighted. You don't say whether they have kids, but they might understand better if they did. You're trying to avoid your little one getting into debt and I think that's the very best thing you can do. Go for it girl. You sound like a wonderful mum, don't let anyone tell you any different.

Real nappies - Imogen is in real nappies and has been from early on. I would say you won't get your money's worth if you start now as, as you say, Keira will be potty trained in the not-too distant future. It's about £150 for 15 nappies and 4 wraps, which would be enough if you could wash and dry them every day. It would be worth checking with your local council about whether they do an incentive scheme. Some do free packs, others money back. :money: You could get some free from them if they do it and just try with these.

Changing wriggly bums - one of the mums in my mum & baby group changes her little girl on her lap. Literally lie them sideways on top of your legs when sat down. It works a treat and all of the babies sit bloomin still while they are there. We've all adopted it when we're out and about. Guess they feel a little insecure so sit still. Imogen has started doing yoga poses and eating the curtains while I try to change her. :rotfl:

Lu_T

Finger food - forgot to say, what about pasta tubes or twists with a bit of sauce on so he can pick them up himself? I'm not great at giving Imogen finger food so any more ideas appreciated!

clarissa_D

Lu_T wrote: »

Savings - Clarissa, I think you're absolutely right to do that with Keira's money. I wish my parents could have afforded to have done that for me. My bro-in-law did this for our nephew and he was able to buy his first car with the money. I think your friends are being short-sighted. You don't say whether they have kids, but they might understand better if they did. You're trying to avoid your little one getting into debt and I think that's the very best thing you can do. Go for it girl. You sound like a wonderful mum, don't let anyone tell you any different.

Real nappies - Imogen is in real nappies and has been from early on. I would say you won't get your money's worth if you start now as, as you say, Keira will be potty trained in the not-too distant future. It's about £150 for 15 nappies and 4 wraps, which would be enough if you could wash and dry them every day. It would be worth checking with your local council about whether they do an incentive scheme. Some do free packs, others money back. :money: You could get some free from them if they do it and just try with these.

HI LU T
THANKS FOR THE POSITIVE REPLY YES SHE DOES HAVE A CHILD,
BUT THE CONVERSATION TURNED TO WHEN KEIRA GETS BIGGER AND SEXUAL STUFF, I SAID I WOULD HOPE SHE WOULD COME TO ME AND WE GO SORT CONTRACEPTION OUT, AND OF COURSE I'M A BAD MUM FOR SAYING THAT AS WELL AS I'M DECIDING FOR HER THERE, I SAID OK WHAT ABOUT YOU WIT UR LEAH, SHE SAID SHE IS NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE SEX TILL SHE IS MARRIED AS SHE IS A MUSLIM!! JAQUI THE GIRL I'M TELLING U ABOUT IS C OF E AND DRINKS ALL TIME ALSO SMOKES JOINTS ALL TIME HAS THE OCCASIONAL PILL, AND PREACHES ABOUT GOD !! YET SHE DON'T FOLLOW HER OWN RELIGION, SO TO ME SHE IS DECIDING HER CHILD'S RELIGION BEFORE SHE HAS THE CHANCE, NOT SAYING THIS IS WRONG AT ALL BUT A C OF E AND THEN SAYING HER CHILD CAN'T HAVE SEX UN TILL SHE IS MARRIED IS HER OWN MIND AND LIFE, BUT HOW DARE SHE SAY I'M A BAD MUM !!
MY OTHER MATES SAY SHE IS JEALOUS OF ME !!
WELL THE REAL NAPPIES I DO HAVE SOME I NEED PREFOLDS ! ITS ALSO BECAUSE KEIRA HAS BAD NAPPY RASH AND THAT MAKES ME FEEL CRAP AND LOOK LIKE A BAD MUM
THANKS FROM CLARISSA

SusanCarter

Clarissa: as long as you are trying to do the best you can for your child, don't worry about what your friends think. Everybody is going to have different opinions on parenting so nobody is going to agree with everything that you are doing but as long as you are doing your best and your child is well cared for, there's no need for anyone to say you are a bad mum.

Putting savings by for her is a great idea so don't get put off by any of your friends. Maybe your friend is jealous because she hasn't done it for her child. Or maybe she imagines your child doesn't get any of it now but you did say she gets £100 per year. I remember my mum saying that my grandma always put all her christmas/birthday money in the bank which meant that at the time it was like getting no present but you are giving her soemthing now and saving for later which is brilliant. Sometimes if you are doing something which another person hasn't and they think maybe they should then they attack it to make themselves feel better about not doing it themselves.

On the subject of nappies/nappy rash, I use terry nappies so can't comment on other types but it's worth looking on e-bay if you're looking to buy. Everyone keeps saying that e-bay delete auctions of second hand nappies but I bought mine on e-bay. It's worth bearing in mind that if you don't use them much then you can always sell them on so you will get some of your money back that way. The best cure for nappy rash is not wearing nappies. I don't know how practical that is with a 17 month old as my daughter is only 12 weeks and therefore doesn't move around but if you can have her without a nappy at least some of the time that should help. Alice hasn't had nappy rash yet but my mum said that she found sudocrem wonderful. She said that she would put it on and by the next nappy change she could see an improvement. You don't need to use very much so a tub lasts a long time. And apparently something like 90% of babies have nappy rash.

Lu_T

Clarissa - Susan's right. Most babies do just get nappy rash, it doesn't make you a bad mum. Imogen hasn't had it, but that could just be she's not prone to it. Most babies get it at some point. I think there is some truth in real nappies minimising it, but there's no guarantee.

Susan's also right that you don't need to pay attention to people who comment on your parenting skills. You're doing your best for your child and that's all you can do. I'm sure she does some things you don't agree with but it's each to their own. If you have a happy, safe and loving child there's nothing more you can ask for

Lu_T

Susan - your little one is gorgeous! Lovely pic.

Becles

Clarissa - ignore the "bad mum" comments. You get them all the time if people disgaree with some aspect of your parenting choices. I've been called a bad mum in threads on here before for various things, as well as in "real life". However I've got 2 healthy well behaved boys, and a beautiful contented baby girl, so I must be doing something right

Mothers instincts and common sense count for a lot IMO, so as long as Kiera is safe and happy, go along with what is comfortable for you to do.

You're right to put money away for her future. I've got money saved for my boys, and will put money away for Charlotte. They don't know about it, but it's there for if they want a car, university, house deposit - whatever!

As for the nappy rash, can you leave her nappy off for a while during the day? Fresh air is an excellent healer. Either sit her on a towel to play, or put a towel under her bits when she goes down for a nap.

Was impressed this morning with my 8 year old son. I was asleep, but woke up when I heard Charlotte cry. By the time I got out of bed and into her room, my 8 year old had her out the cot and on the changing mat and was busy dealing with her nappy. I just let him get on with it, and he managed to do the whole nappy change all by himself

Got some good news too - I'm an Auntie! My SIL had a baby girl on Sat night. She's called Lauren Nicole and weighed 9lb 2oz. SIL was in the second stage of labour for over 2 hours, so she's worn out - poor thing!

Lu_T

Becles - bad mum? More like supermum! Your 8 yr old changing a nappy is MOST impressive. Well done you. :T

We always joke that we only had kids so they could do the chores (well, half-joke). We will make Imogen do some jobs for her spending money just like I had to, unloading the dishwasher and keeping her room tidy, that sort of thing.

Recently our 5-yr-old god-daughter has been horrified that I've said Imogen will have to do jobs. Now every time she comes I say "I'm glad you've come over Gracie, I've got a duster set aside just for you!" Bless her!