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purplepatch

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I love my little boy so much, but when he starts crying just because he can't have something, or I've taken something away, or I am trying to rub in his face cream and he's not in the mood, I feel like snapping at him as I'm not in the mood either. But I really try not to, he's only being a baby and doesn't know much different. i'm the adult and need to be setting an example and show some patience.

I am worried about tomorrow.........

I'm rambling and off to bed now, so tired from last night.

Bailey, you're being too hard on yourself. You're in the knackering first 12 weeks of a pregnancy, you're worrying about said pregnancy and on top of that, you aren't getting enough sleep. We'd all feel like snapping in those circumstances. I'm like a fishwife sometimes bawling at DD1 aged 4, little madam at times, still love her like mad though. Jack won't remember a few cross words every now and then... you're doing a fine job girl!

All the best tomorrow, sure it'll be fine and that will be one less thing to worry about. Hope you get a decent night, fingers crossed.

SusanCarter

On the subject of breastfeeding, I usually find that in the morning when I get up I have so much milk I can express from the "other" breast without depriving her of any milk. I then express fully from both breasts at 9pm before going to bed. This then gives enough for my husband to give a 6oz bottle of expressed milk at 10.30pm and we also have some expressed milk in reserve. It's great as it means I get a good break from feeding and I honestly don't think I would have made it through the first month of breastfeeding without doing that. Obviously the same thing doesn't always work for everyone but I'd definitely recommend it.

Becles

I gave Charlotte formula last night. It took a while for her to get used to the bottle, but then she managed to take 4oz. She's slept for 9 hours overnight, then I've just given her a breastfeed and she's asleep again!

Will see how she goes over the next couple of days, but keeping an open mind about doing part breast and part bottle feeds.

Snaggles

I think part-formula, part breast-feeding would be a great solution, you are still giving yourself and Charlotte the benefits of breastfeeding, but managing to retain your sanity at the same time lol! I think I will try it too when Natasha gets to that stage - would you let me know how it goes if you don't mind?

Lu_T

Bailey - have you tried distracting him when he's crying? No matter how hysterical Imogen is, if I sing quietly she stops crying to listen. So when I was going cold turkey to get her dummy off her I sand Twinkle Twinkle constantly for 35 minutes before she went back to sleep. If there is something that makes him settle down when upset normally perhaps you could try this instead? I steered clear of picking her up to comfort her though, as we've always been really mean about that. I don't want her thinking that she gets picked up every time she cries in bed - it's worked so far, even if I feel a bit mean!

Hope scan was okay this morning. Do let us know when you get chance.

Next baby - we're agreed on trying again next Autumn which would mean a gap of about 2.5 years. There's 21 months between me and my brother and I think that's a nice gap. Close enough to play together and also for mum to go back to work when we were at school, so boosting the family coffers. I'm hoping to do something similar.

Becles

Charlotte was going through the night from 11pm-7am, then started waking again for a feed around 5.30am.

I tried another bottle last night. She took 3oz, but still woke up at 5.30am for a feed.

Wish she would go back till 7am, as by the time I feed her and put her back to bed, I just doze for a bit before I'm up to see to my boys! Got to remember that she was 4 weeks early though, so sometimes she might behave like a 9 week old baby and sometimes she might behave like a 5 weeks old baby, or anywhere in between!

Busy waiting for news on my SIL who's baby is due now. She's had a few different due dates between 8-13th July, but baby hasn't put in an appearance yet.

I was reading the ingredients list on the formula milk, and the biggest ingredient listed is vegetable oil. Does anyone know why? I thought it would be milk byproducts as the biggest ingredient.

SusanCarter

I know when you wean them you're supposed to give full fat of everything so maybe they use vegetable oil in the formula to make up the fat content. It may not be just vegetable oil - they may modify it in some way before they put it in? Perhaps if they used lots of milk fat there would be too much of other thing in it (e.g. wrong balance of vitamins).

Is Charlotte getting out of the covers of her bed? Since Alice slept through more than just a one off night the only time she's woken and I've had to feed her was when she'd managed to get untucked from her covers. We now make sure she's tucked in very firmly. Maybe it's just a growth spurt though. Hope it improves.

cha97michelle

some vitamins and minerals are fat soluble so you can only absorb them with fat, eg, you are supposed to do the purees of carrot and other orange stuff with a bit of oil for that reason.

otherwise, dunno.


It might help with sleeping through to use a grow bag. It was the best thing we did for Charlie, as he can wriggle to his hearts content, but is still covered. On the odd occasions we haven't used them he hasn't slept anywhere near as long

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Hello everyone, thanks for your replies and reassuring advice. Since my last post, i've tried to be less hard on myself and Jack and just go with the flow. I took Jack to be weighed today and whilst there spoke to my HV about the dummy. She suggested I wait until I am in the middle of my next trimester, Jack will about 10-12 months and then try to lose the dummy. Jack will be more receptive to controlled crying then and may start to understand. She said by a year though we should try to have him off it as it becomes harder. So we are going to go with it for now. For the past two nights, its been after 6am before needing to go in a dummy pop. And he's gone around till after 7.30am.

The scan yesterday went well. The baby is in the right place and we saw a tiny heartbeat!! It was measured at 16mm which they put me to be at 8+1w, but i'm was only 7+5w, but i'm not going to quibble about 3 days. Jack always measured a few days bigger and he was nowhere near his due date. They come when they want to.

I have my postnatal group around this afternoon. We take it in turns every thursday to meet at someone's house for cake and tea and for the babies to play etc. We started it after our sessions at the hospital finished. I hosted first, so I can't believe its been 10 weeks. Next time it comes around to me again i'll be 18 weeks pregnant!

PP, i'll remembere the singing to Jack when he's hysterical when we do eventually do the dummy removal. I don't intend to pick him up either, although like me I'm sure its the first thing you want to do, goes against instinct.

Right must go hope everyone is having a good day.

Bay

Becles

Just a thought bailey - he might give up the dummy when baby arrives. Joshua was still in nappies when James was born, and I used to say nappies were for babies, and pants were for big boys. It gave him an incentive to get out of nappies so he wasn't a baby anymore. Maybe you could do the same with the dummy.

Charlotte is good at keeping the covers on at night. She's normally covered up when I go in and check on her, and just kicks them off when she's crying. Her legs always pump up and down like crazy when she cries