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Becles

She's a proper Daddy's girl and often wants him instead of me.

She was crying tonight as she slipped in the bath, so I got her out and had her wrapped in a towel and was cuddling her, but the minute Daddy came in to see what the noise was about, she didn't want me anymore

He's chuffed to bits about it as he's already got an 11 year old daughter who he has never been allowed to see as the mother dumped him when she was pregnant (long story!). He's longed for a daughter all these years, so he's over the moon now he finally has a daughter, especially one that thinks the world of him

SeptemberBaby_2

Oh, Becles, I'm close to tears here! . I think its such a special bond that girls have with their Daddy's .

Poppy is certainly a Daddy's Girl - when we go and collect her from Nanna's or wherever she cranes her neck straight past me to look for him! :rolleyes:.

DH is determined to be the best Daddy he can be which I know he initially found difficult (which he says is due to being dropped off at boarding school aged 6 :eek:). His parents are not at all tactile....whereas Poppy is hugged and snugged within an inch of her life by my family!:rotfl:

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onlyroz

Re own room: My boy Thomas was in our room for the first 21 months - but that was because we lived in a flat and there wasn't space for him to have his own room. Somehow we managed to squeeze in our bed, the cot-bed, the piano and a large bookcase - although because of where I'd put the cot I couldn't reach the top third of the piano keys (at least that was the excuse I gave my piano teacher when I missed the notes ).

We moved into our house about 18 months ago and it was quite strange not having the boy in there with us - but he was quite happy to have his own space for his toys etc and took it all in his stride.

Second-born (due in Jan) will prob be in with us for the first six months - but I've already turfed Thomas out of the cot-bed and into a proper bed - and into the bigger of the two "spare" rooms - so that he doesn't get upset about being kicked out when the baby arrives. We've had a few weeks of disturbed nights, but he seems to be settling into the new room OK, and so far tonight he hasn't left the room or turned on the light.

As for sex with children in the room - you lose all modesty when you have a kid anyway, and as long as they're asleep I don't see a problem . We were only been "disturbed" a few times, in any case:eek:

BrunoM

Hi all,

I tried browsing in and out on this mega thread, lots of interesting stuff can't quite cope with reading the whole thing though.

I have a question which I didn't spot any talk about in my spot reading - how old was your child when you started goin to mummy and baby club type activities? My wife's keen to get out and about asap but we're not sure what's likely to be out there for different ages, and when there's any benefit to our (3 weeks old so far!) son.

Thanks!

Welshlassie

I started at our local playgroup with my DS when he was about 6 weeks old. I've since gone back to work F/T but still meet up with the mum's socially once a month and will pop along if I'm off for a reason. I really enjoyed it and definately recommend going as soon as she feel ready to go out and about. A change of scenery really helps and gives you something to look forward to.

scruffy96uk

BrunoM Hello and welcome. I started going to a mum and baby group when LO was a couple of months old. There are babies younger than that at our group so it really is personal preference. Although might be better if there is other mums there with really young ones so your wife has other mums to speak to because the babes are so young and can't really do much apart from be cuddled or sit in a bouncer etc it is always better if there is people to speak to.

MRS_TO_BE_2

BrunoM...Welcome!

I started going to mother and baby groups when my son was almost 2 weeks old. It was great as I have built up some lovely relationships. Your partner might have to go to a few different groups until she finds one that is right for her. I'm back as work now but Im still see all the friends I made regularly.

Although baby is young it will get it used to group environment which can be a little noisy.

mdsremos

First time posting in this area...hello!
We have a little boy, Charlie, who is 2years 4 months we took him to the mother and baby group (called the postnatal group) at our local library when he was only 2 weeks old just to mix with other mums and see how they were coping...not bad considering I had an emergency c-section on the Sunday and was at a baby group a week after! (with hubby in toe to make sure I could manage)

Charlie23

Hi i'm new i have a dd who is 18 months old. We are going to start ttc this/next month. I work full time at the moment and hate it. DD is in nursery full time too and i'm not happy with her there really. Need to try and sort out money so i can go back to part time or no work.

I started going to mother and baby classes when my dd was 3 weeks old. They were really good as you caould really talk to the other mums about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. We all cried about one thing or another but we all supported each other too. It was fantastic. We are still really good friends now.

cha97michelle

i'm trying to get on here once a week to keep up.

we had the 4 month jabs last week - thankfully that is now out the way till next may, and we haven't had any problems with it. and although i said last week i was dropping the breast feeding, i dropped the 7pm feed for a bottle and otherwise have kept going. I'm still up loads through the night. twice last night, so i am giving him some baby rice tonight.

your discussions always interest me.

own rooms - ds1 went into his at 11 weeks old when he started reliably sleeping through, ds2 still in with us now at 17 weeks, and with a similar aim, although i am tempted to move him soon and take it from there. ds1 needs to move into his big bed soon anyway.

playgroups - i went with both boys quite young, there is not much for the kids to do when really small but it helped me with PND by getting out and meeting people. also, it helps burn older kids some energy off.


becles - charlotte's conversations made me chuckle, as ds1 is currently crash hot on possessive nouns, amd spends all day telling me - mummys book, daddys chair, charlie's dinner. if an object is put down, he likes to return it. My friends little boy runs on 'what is _____ doing?' insert name of whoever is in his sight.

i guess they all have these little conversational quirks. ds1 also says 'that's bubbish' quite a lot at the moment after dhs 14yo cousin taught him it on holiday