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Becles

Snaggles wrote: »

Just thought I would post my very 'bad mother' tip for nappy changes - I give Natasha a sticker, and she is so intrigued and engrossed by the annoying thing stuck to her hand (and her attempts to try and remove it), that her legs stay quite still, and nappy changes are no problem at all.

*runs and hides*

That's really funny :rotfl:

Emotional day today. It's my eldest sons last day at primary school today. It's a lovely school and he'll miss it. It's just a small school with about 20 children per year and everyone knows everybody else, so I think he'll find the comp huge and strange to begin with.

Finally got his SATS results yesterday and he got level 5's in Maths, English and Science so I'm dead proud of him.

For those who haven't had the joy of SATS yet, they're supposed to be at level 4 by the time they leave primary school, so it means he's above average in all three subjects :cool:

Dormouse

Becles wrote: »

That's really funny :rotfl:

Emotional day today. It's my eldest sons last day at primary school today. It's a lovely school and he'll miss it. It's just a small school with about 20 children per year and everyone knows everybody else, so I think he'll find the comp huge and strange to begin with.

Finally got his SATS results yesterday and he got level 5's in Maths, English and Science so I'm dead proud of him.

For those who haven't had the joy of SATS yet, they're supposed to be at level 4 by the time they leave primary school, so it means he's above average in all three subjects :cool:

Well done DS1 :T You're right to be proud of him, Becles :j

I know all about emotional... My DS1 is starting primary next month and I'm already dreading it. He is fine, it's me that's all emotional now, goodness knows what I'll be like on the actual day
He's going to a huge primary - there's 4 P1 classes :eek: - but I'm hoping at least this will get him used to being in a big school so the transition to big school shouldn't be too much of a shock in that respect.

honeybe21

awww well done to your boy becles.

i didnt know a breastfed baby could be greedy but i do now.i express some for him so his dad can do one feed so he doesnt feel left out and can bond recently ive expressed 5oz he has that then wants more from me he was 9lb14 this time last week and hes defiantly grown since then he now outgrown half of his clothes.when we take him out people get this stunned look when we say how old he is.they usually say the same thing "hes very contented isnt he?" i think this is their way of saying politly hes a porker lol.

does anyone else have a childs parent that lives seperate and works?my ex works monday till friday and is currently only seeing our 2 kids for 3 hours max a weekend.my kids have started calling hubby dad now we havent asked them to do this its something they have just started doing we havent made a fuss about it he just answers them when they call him dad or pete not sure how my ex will take it i think he will go mad though

purplepatch

Congrats to Becles clever DS!!

Can I join the getting emotional club please?!

I've got a job!!

It's an admin role at DD1's school (she's just finishing reception year) and it is Monday to Thursday, term time only, and I will only be working whilst she is in school, will be able to drop off and pick her up as normal, working the 6 hours in between.

However, I'm having to give up my time with Isabel, who will be going to a childminder friend of mine.

It's the perfect job for me, I know, but I wish it had come along a year later when at least Izzy would have been starting pre school. She is at such a lovely age, just starting to blossom as a little person and I will be missing it

I know I've been spoilt up until now as I haven't worked since before DD1 was born, but we really need some extra income. I know I will still get the afternoons with her and all day Friday just me and her, but I can't help feeling terribly sad. We will also be giving up the music class that she absolutely loves, where I've made some nice friends, last class is tomorrow and I know I'm going to be really choked :rolleyes:

I'm hoping it is more the thought of leaving her that is hideous and the reality will be fine. Has anyone got any nice reassuring experiences they can share?!!?!

Becles

honeybe21 wrote: »

does anyone else have a childs parent that lives seperate and works?my ex works monday till friday and is currently only seeing our 2 kids for 3 hours max a weekend.my kids have started calling hubby dad now we havent asked them to do this its something they have just started doing we havent made a fuss about it he just answers them when they call him dad or pete not sure how my ex will take it i think he will go mad though

My ex is the boys father. He lives 3 miles away and passes our village on his short commute to work. He only sees them once every two month or so, when he'll take them for a few hours on a Saturday afternoon and give them some tea.

I've asked him to have them more but it's never convenient. I've even suggested he calls in after work and maybe kicks the ball around for half an hour, or plays a computer or board game with them but he chooses not to.

Subsequently the boys are much closer to my husband than their Dad. They call my husband Dad and it's him they turn to when they need a father figure. My husband has done all the "dad stuff" like talking to them about puberty, helping with homework and stuff like that.

My ex isn't happy about it, but as I've said if he chooses not to keep regular contact with them, it's only reasonable that the boys think of my husband as their Dad.

purplepatch wrote: »

I've got a job!!

Congrats :beer:

I know you'll be sad and find it hard to leave Izzy. I did when I went back to work after Charlotte was born. However at least you still have afternoons/evenings with her and all day Friday. It's much better than if you had to do a traditional 9-5 job with a commute, and you only saw her briefly at breakfast and bedtime.

Thinking about the money comes in handy. I don't know your circumstances, but I always think my money coming in pays for the nice things that we wouldn't otherwise have like holidays, days out, meals out etc.

I still miss Charlotte especially on the days when I'm working from home. The house seems so quiet without her and I feel guilty about stopping in and working. But then I think if she was here, I'd not get a thing done as I'd be too distracted by her!

Dormouse

Aww Purple, I'm sure it is quite an emotional time, but think of all the positives (and there are LOADS! :j). You're only away 6 hours a day, you'll still have Fridays with Izzy, and you'll be able to keep an eye on Olivia.

And Izzy will be nearly 2 when you start - it's not like you're leaving a 2 month old baby. She'll love going to the childminders at her age! :j

It really sounds like the perfect job and the hours are great. :T

Now I don't have personal experience of going back to work (I work from home and it's blooming hard work sometimes as I can't get anything done unless Alex is asleep :rolleyes: ), but if I got a chance for a job like that in a year's time, I'd definitely go for it. :beer:

purplepatch

Thanks Becles and Dormouse. I know it is such a perfect scenario - like you say, it would be so much harder if I had to go back to my old job working 9-5 in London with an hour and a half commuting every day, struggling to deal with school holidays etc.

I just get these daft emotional moments, when she's being really cute and I get such a lump in my throat. Like this morning when she looked at me all peculiar and said "Arrrrrrrr, mummy, cuddle, kiss" and threw her arms round my neck and showered me with kisses. That set me off I can tell you I reckon she might have picked up on something, she's being so affectionate towards me lately which is quite a new thing.

I keep telling myself that this adorable phase won't be lasting too much longer and it is only a matter of time before the terrible twos start and then I'll probably be thinking, phew, over to the childminder!! :rotfl:

chocaholic110

Congrats to Becles DS; that's what my eldest got in Y6 too. He's just done his Y9 SATS but is one of the ones that won't get their SATS resluts until September

I'm another one just gone back to work. It hasn't been too bad but work is always really busy so don't get time to miss Tom. I am popping home at lunchtime to feed him though as he still refuses to take a bottle. He's also still not keen on food either unless it's something he can do himself - he quite likes finger sandwiches and soft fruits - need some ideas on other things he can take himself without choking. he also won't have a drink from a baby cup but will quite happily take it from one of our glasses - it's the same juice!!

Anyway, I think I'm cheating slightly as I went back to work last week and we break up the six weeks tomorrow!

Lu_T

Snaggles wrote: »

Just thought I would post my very 'bad mother' tip for nappy changes - I give Natasha a sticker, and she is so intrigued and engrossed by the annoying thing stuck to her hand (and her attempts to try and remove it), that her legs stay quite still, and nappy changes are no problem at all.

*runs and hides*

Wish I'd thought of that...:rotfl:

Congrats Becles' big boy :T Good effort.

Purple - I know you'll miss both kids, but I like being Lu at work, not mum/wifey. It might sound strange, but I quite like that. Plus the social side is quite good, having adult conversation during the day is such a bonus! It sounds like a great opportunity and, like Becles, I think about the nicer things we can give Imogen because I work, like the holiday we're going on in a few weeks. I'm sure you'll like it once you're into a routine.

Snaggles

Phew, I am so glad you didn't all think I am a bad person! I'd run out of stickers today, and Natasha was waving her hands at me, expecting one....she cried when I didn't stick anything to her! :rotfl:

I completely agree with those sentiments about being back at work Lu. While I am there, I do miss the kids, but it is nice sometimes to put nice clothes on, do my hair and make-up, and talk about normal things. And when I get home, I am so glad to see the little monkeys that I honestly think I have better quality time with them than I would if I was with them all the time.