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chocaholic110

Snaggles wrote: »

Fac, no, broodiness isn't unusual. It's not just broodiness either, it's a chemical craving, because (this is my theory anyway) your body really likes the flood of endorphins you get during/after the birth, and it really wants to recreate that feeling, so it makes you desperately want another baby. I think it's mother nature's way of making sure we don't get put off by the pain, and we do have more than one baby (or used to, when we all lived in caves and had bad hair).

Ah, so that's why I was broody more or less as soon as I left the hospital (although OH is adamant that we are finished our contribution to increasing the population!). Oh and BTW I still have the bad hair!!

Thanks to everyone who has offered advice on baby's sleeping. I've come to the decision that we're definitely going to have to do something as have had another bad day with Tom today - he keeps screaming every time I put him down at all but even when I pick him up he's quite unsettled. he keeps wanting to feed but at the sme time as he's desperate to get on the breast he's pulling away, pushing with his hands and crying. been trying without much success to get him to take a dummy but he's not having it (DD wouldn't either and DS didn't have one for long)

So, this putting babies down awake thing (you know, despite already having 2 children this is a totally new concept to me - but then we didn't have the internet for DS and DD so I suppose I didn't know what anyone else was doing).... so we bath him, rub his oil in, feed him and wind him as normal...then what? Do I just lie him down in his moses basket? What do I do when he screams (as I know he will - and he screams loudly, going bright red and rigid) Do I pick him up? Leave him in and talk to him? How long do I let him cry? All advice gratefully received - you wouldn't think I had two children already, would you?

SusanCarter

I used to cuddle Alice for a while and say, "time for bed" in a (hopefully) calming voice and then carry on saying it as I put her down and tucked her in.

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Chocoholic, as you can tell i'm about to do this all over again 15 months from the last time and yes, I'm still interested, because with 2 children I want to maximise my sleeping and theirs of course.

Snaggles, thanks for the whispering tip, I'll bare that in mind

I'm not sure how long to leave a very small baby either, Jack was 4 months before we took charge of the situation. I'll be reading with interest. Thanks!

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"Just think, soon you'll be able to smell that baby smell and cuddle your tiny little person... is it wrong to be broody already tiny hands and feet, ahhhh..."
I actually feel scared about another little baby in the house, I feel apprehensive and like I want to run away, how bad is that? I'm only looking forward to the birth to get my body back as I am so uncomfortable. Part of me obviously wants the baby, a sister for Jack etc, but a much larger part is dreading what is to come. I haven't told anyone that, I've felt too bad about it.

"Fac, no, broodiness isn't unusual. It's not just broodiness either, it's a chemical craving, because (this is my theory anyway) your body really likes the flood of endorphins you get during/after the birth, and it really wants to recreate that feeling, so it makes you desperately want another baby. I think it's mother nature's way of making sure we don't get put off by the pain, and we do have more than one baby (or used to, when we all lived in caves and had bad hair). "
I really don't remember getting this at all with Jack, maybe i'm just not normal.

Today is really not a good day is it?

izoomzoom

chocaholic110 wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who has offered advice on baby's sleeping. I've come to the decision that we're definitely going to have to do something as have had another bad day with Tom today - he keeps screaming every time I put him down at all but even when I pick him up he's quite unsettled. he keeps wanting to feed but at the sme time as he's desperate to get on the breast he's pulling away, pushing with his hands and crying. been trying without much success to get him to take a dummy but he's not having it (DD wouldn't either and DS didn't have one for long)

So, this putting babies down awake thing (you know, despite already having 2 children this is a totally new concept to me - but then we didn't have the internet for DS and DD so I suppose I didn't know what anyone else was doing).... so we bath him, rub his oil in, feed him and wind him as normal...then what? Do I just lie him down in his moses basket? What do I do when he screams (as I know he will - and he screams loudly, going bright red and rigid) Do I pick him up? Leave him in and talk to him? How long do I let him cry? All advice gratefully received - you wouldn't think I had two children already, would you?

If my DD acts like this its usually because she has a wind. I have always had trouble identifying 'winds'. MIL says you can feel them bubbling in their backs, or tummys or whatever, but you need your LO to be settled if you are going to put them down awake in their cots to go to sleep. Perhaps you can work on trying to get him settled first, and then deal with getting him to go off to sleep.

With Samantha we started putting her to bed on her own when she was just on two months old.

Look forward to hearing how things are going.

izoomzoom

Bailey, I don't think that there is a single person on the whole of MSE who would say that you have not had a bad time with Jack.

And the only way that I think that you are ever going to believe that is when you have your new baby with you and you have had time to look back and reflect a bit.

Sending you lots and lots and lots of vibes, sweetie !

chocaholic110

izoomzoom wrote: »

If my DD acts like this its usually because she has a wind. I have always had trouble identifying 'winds'. MIL says you can feel them bubbling in their backs, or tummys or whatever, but you need your LO to be settled if you are going to put them down awake in their cots to go to sleep. Perhaps you can work on trying to get him settled first, and then deal with getting him to go off to sleep.

With Samantha we started putting her to bed on her own when she was just on two months old.

Look forward to hearing how things are going.

I can usually hear when he has wind - it sort of whistles in his chest. He is pretty good at getting his wind up though. I think a lot of the screaming is temper, if a 5 week old baby can have a temper. And for some reason he settles better when OH takes him from me and puts him down. OH claims it's because he can smell me and wants to be with me- I'm hoping he means he can smell the milk(?) not that I actually smell!!

izoomzoom

chocaholic110 wrote: »

I'm hoping he means he can smell the milk(?) not that I actually smell!!

I can't smell you, so you can't be that bad :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

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And what with bad hair and caves, we stand no chance!

chocaholic110

Lol, smelly and bad hair - no wonder OH is refusing to have any more children with me!

EDIT: Just a quick update, after I bathed and fed Tom, OH put him in the moses basket and sat with him (for 75 minutes or so!!) and he fell asleep about 10 minutes ago. He had a couple of little cries but no screaming fits. Probably beginners' luck but it's a start. So, next question...do we do the same when he wakes up through the night?