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Snaggles

Hi Tee Pee - welcome! :wave:

How old is/are your child/children?

tee_pee_2

Hello Snaggles, - thanks

My little girl is 3 and I have a baby boy 6wks old.

Dormouse

tee_pee wrote: »

Hello there,

I am the "new mum in the playground" can I join your gang please?
Tee Pee

Of course you can - welcome! :T

I was a bit surprised that some of you feel this thread is a bit, erm, exclusive. I've always thought it's a great thread, and whether someone posts loads or not very much, it doesn't really matter. (Like in a real-world group of friends, some are quieter, some talk more, some people can disappear for a few days, then reappear - all normal, right?) And I've certainly always thought of Fac and Agutka as part of the gang, so don't know why you guys feel like outsiders.

Some people here I've 'met' through other parts of MSE, a lot of you I remember from the pregnancy thread, and some of you I've never talked to before, but I like talking to all of you! :j :T :beer: :grouphug:

As for people "bragging", I'm not even going to go there. Nobody's bragging, we're sharing experiences. :cool: None of us are perfect, but we're all great mums (and dads) each in our own way! :T

Lecture over. :rotfl:

Dormouse

Oh yeah, talking about sleeping bags. Tesco do them for £10, I'm just about to buy one as Alex has nearly grown out of the smaller ones. There's 30% off kids' clothes at T's at the moment, so I'm hoping it includes sleeping bags as well. I've got some points vouchers to use up as well. :money:

halia

Well its 2 1/2 years ago for me but here goes!

Hawksmuir wrote: »

As a dad of a 12 week old boy, are people serious when they say they bath their infants every day ?

YES! bathtime wasn't about getting clean for us, it was a nice relaxing time to play with DS, he loved water from day one and we built it in as bonding time and part of his bedtime routine. We had a tummytub for him so it was great fun and nothing like the awkward business in a big bath or normal lying flat baby bath.


And are you all being serious at getting the wee folk into a routine at 6 weeks ? Or is it just competetive Mum syndrome ?

YES! nothing to do with competitiveness, we needed a routine because DS arrived (well okay was created) 6 months early so I was still finishing my diploma. I had to be able to study for 2 hrs a day so I needed to know when things were happening. DS did very well in a regular routine, its nto about rigid timings you know, its about the kid of thing you do yourself, you get up between 6am and 8am, you have breakfast then get dressed, (oe vice versa), lunch comes at 12pm because if you had it at 9am you'd be too full from breakie.
Also the world runs on a routine, I liked being able to take DS to the shops with me and to baby groups, no use going with the flow if the shop is closing in 30 minutes or the playgroup starts at 10am!

Most people seem to end up in the same kind of routine, here's what we did at 12 weeks.
6-8am get up and breakfast
9-11am activity, second feed/snack and short nap (most playgroups seem to run around this time)
12ish Lunch,
Long nap somewhere between 12 and 3 (good chance for me to rest or study)
3-5 snack/another feed and activity, in our case usually a walk to the shops at this age, short nap)
5ish tea/feeding
6ish bath
6/7ish bed

11ish late feed

On this page there seems to be people struggling to get into routines (and worrying about it) because someone else has their 'wonder' kids all sorted inside 2 months.

no 'wonder kids' in this house! just an overworked set of parents trying to make sense out of their lives! I HATED the idea of not having some kind of routine to the day. It really helped to break the long days with a small baby down into manageable chunks for me and now he is nearly 3 I can see how it paid of. He has always gone to bed easily by 7pm, its been easy to arrange apts and playgroups because I know when he will be awake/active. I know that manic running around at 12pm means he is overtired and might need to have a snack lunch and get his head down, whereas at 3pm (after nap) it means he is just being very energetic and needs to go to the park.

But each to their own!

Mazcabs

Dormouse wrote: »

I was a bit surprised that some of you feel this thread is a bit, erm, exclusive. I've always thought it's a great thread, and whether someone posts loads or not very much, it doesn't really matter. quote]

I agree, I dont think the thread is exclusive, its just that some post more than others. I mainly miss out on posting because DS seems to want attention 24/7 and I get no time to post until he is asleep when I'm normally catching up on other things.

Big milestone last night. OH bathed DS for the first time... he's 15 weeks! :j

And he slept from 8-4 and then 4.30 to 7.30. I forgot the dream feed so heaven knows what he would have done then. Definately the best idea putting him in own cot/room. On my own tonight as OH on nights, hope he sleeps the same.

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Welcome Tee Pee! The more the merrier that's what we usually say!

We've hit an in between stage at the mo. Jack is showing signs of dropping a nap but when he has his only nap of the day varies, twice this week its been 11.30-1.15pm, yesterday was 1-3pm and today he caved at 9.45am (so hoping to squeeze in another this afternoon). I just don't know where I am with him. Because of this nap dropping he is obviously having less sleep and what with waking earlier in the mornings again, he's getting tired (as we all are). Honestly I feel like every time I have it sussed out, it all goes and changes a few weeks/months later, as he's growing and changing all the time.

We are also back to him being very wet in the mornings again, soaked through to his grobag, i've washed his bedding/pj's 3 out of 4 mornings this week, so unusual. The huggies that used to work no longer do, we've tried moving up a size, going back to Tesco size 4 and 4+, huggies 4 and 4+ and last night out of desperation I tried a Huggies pull up on him, even worse wetting. I've bought some more pampers baby dry, as even though he had a red bot in the morning, i think he was still dry in the morning. I can't remember if we changed from pampers because he was red or wet. We'll see what tomorrow brings. If that fails, I don't know what to do next.

I'm having a sweep tomorrow, see if that helps to get this little monkey going, another on Monday if not and then its induction on the 29th, i'm really hoping it won't come to that. The sweep is making me nervous let alone being induced.

I also feel quite down today and tearful, unsure if its pregnancy hormones or just "one of those days"!

Snaggles

Bailey, I can't believe you are over your due date, it seems to have gone by so quickly. I hope you don't have to wait too much longer.

I had a really tearful day just before I gave birth, and thought 'I can't do this', and then I had a brave 'bring it on' day, and I had her that night (after a warm bath, a tin of pineapple chunks - don't think it helped, but it was a good excuse to eat a full tin to myself!) and a bit of 'husband-assisted induction'.

I found it was less traumatic, much quicker, and much less painful the second time round too, in fact I barely got to the hospital on time.

chocaholic110

Well, it's taken 5 weeks but I've finally made the leap from the pregnancy to parents board. I've had a skim through the last couple of pages and I'm now convinced I'm doing everything wrong (well, I already suspected it but this board is confirming it in my head!)

We had a pretty traumatic time in the run up to Tom's birth - I was hospitalised with pre-eclampsia, then they let me go home but the next day rushed me between hospitals and did an emergency c-section due to foetal distress (baby was brn with cord 4 times round neck and it was also discovered my placenta was infected hence why baby was only 5lb 8oz at almost full term) then I was quite poorly with HELLP syndrome after the birth. I was eventually allowed home after a blood transfusion but am still quite anaemic...SO... we did seem to be in turmoil for a couple of weeks

BUT with Tom aged 5 weeks I'm still not very organised. I'm breastfeeding and he seems to need feeding all the time - the health visitor claims it's because he was quite small - he still only weighs 6lb 12oz. So, because he keeps needing feeding he doesn't sleep very long either (between 5 and 25 minutes during the day and 30 mins - 2 hours at a time during the night). I am however in bad habits already - I put him down in his cot asleep - though he doesn't stay that way for long and sometimes I nuse him while he sleeps as it makes him sleep longer. Last night I let him sleep on the edge of our bed just to get some sleep and I don't want to get into that habit.

I don't want to have him sleep in another room to me (apart from the fact that until we move he doesn't have a room) as he wears a sleep apnoea monitor due to being in the CONI programme due to family history of cot death so I need to be near for when that goes off (about twice week on average :eek: ).

I am interested in how people are putting their babies to sleep awake. How do you do that? Tom screams when I put him in the moses basket. Have I left it too late at 5 weeks? The only bit of routine we have is bath at 6.30ish but then I don't put him straight to bed as OH is not getting in until 7.30-8ish and I want him to see the baby.

Help!

izoomzoom

Choc, what a tiny boy and traumatic time you have had too.

I made the mistake of putting my boys to sleep 'asleep', but this time round we 9x out of 10 make sure she is awake.

think tom is unhappy about something if you put him down and then he screams - could be a wind / needs swaddling ????

also if you find he has fallen asleep try waking him up by changing his nappy and then put him back down to sleep.

sure you will have lots of people along to offer advise but I have never had such a small baby so don't feel I am qualified.