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Curious_George_2

Becles wrote: »

It was probably me who said put baby down awake and let them fall asleep themselves! I've done that with all mine and it works great. It's even better when they get out of nappies as they just get up in the night, have a wee and go back to bed, without disturbing you. Both my boys have only woken me up if there is a problem like they're feeling poorly or had a nightmare or something like that.

I've had a routine from birth. Daytime naps and nappy changes were done in daylight, with plenty of speaking/singing/raspberry's and eye contact on the nappy changes. I've still gone about normal daily business while they were napping so they had to sleep through household appliances going, TV/radio on, conversations, dogs barking etc etc etc.

Bed time routine has always been a warm bath, gentle massage with the towel and gentle speaking/singing, then a milk feed in my bed, then into the cot awake. They've all slept in a cot in their own room from birth as I can't sleep if the baby is in the same room as me.

Night time feeds and nappy changes were done almost in the dark (fit dimmer switches or leave the landing light on). There was no noise from me and no eye contact. It was simply up, nappy change, feed and back in the cot.

When they were newborns it meant bathing at night (10pm ish). As they grew older, the bath gradually got earlier.

All my babies have slept through for about 6-8 hours a night from 8 weeks, gradually increasing until they were going from about 7.30pm-7.30am at around 6 months old.

At the moment Charlotte is 9 months. She normally does the 7.30pm-7.30am sleep on a night, and has a nap between about 1pm-3.30pm in the afternoon (when I do my uni study ).

That's what has worked for me with my 3. I'm not saying it's right or wrong - just what I felt happy doing and what worked. It was a hassle bathing them late evening as tiny babies, but to me it has paid off by having easy bedtimes ever since.

I could have written this....
everything you just said i have done with both of mine and its worked out the same!

sorry if i sounded a bit snippy in my earlier posts but i dont think i should have to defend myself for trying to do a good job, If i want to come on here and share my news with you lot its not because i need to brag to someone about my wonder children, its called our life with 2 children....so thats what i talk about!
im far from being super mum, some days i dont get changed out of my PJs and i slob around on the sofa ignoring the housework, some days i dont want to wash up, some days i do nothing at all but look after the kids
since christmas Ive been diagnosed with post natal anxiety syndrome and have regular panic attacks, and am now on a harsh dose of the happy pills... because at one point about 2 months ago i couldnt leave the house without freaking out and couldnt open a bill without hyperventilating, i still cant talk to people i dont know on the phone (paying bills, sorting things out etc) without breaking into a massive sweat, im tired, worried and increasingly disturbed by this fat flap which is currently trying to take over my body...

super mum? pfffttt... i dont think so.

SusanCarter

I'd forgotten I did night feeds/nappy changes in the dark and putting to bed awake too. (Not that there was any point in putting her to bed asleep as she would just start crying within about five minutes if I tried that.) The feeding in the dark was okay but the nappies were sometimes a bit challenging. We also used a dummy as one of the last resort things when feeding, nappy etc didn't work but we just let her settle with it and then took it out before she fell asleep. Once she started sucking her thumb we gave up using it as if she wanted to suck she would suck her thumb so if she wasn't sucking her thumb there was no point in trying the dummy. We did have one evening when absolutely nothing worked. She started crying when I offered her food and nothing else worked either. We had our first ever Tesco delivery coming so OH had to deal with that while I tried to calm her down and then while I put all the stuff away he went round the block with her in the sling. Every time he went past down the back lane I could hear her wailing. :eek: Eventually after about 2 hours she accepted a bottle of milk and then just went to bed happily.

SusanCarter

Curious_George wrote: »

sorry if i sounded a bit snippy in my earlier posts

I can't speak for anyone else but I never thought you sounded snippy.

tsstss7

Agutka wrote: »

The only reason I kept him swaddled was to keep him from dislodging the dummy from his mouth with his flailing arms in the morning, when he started stirring - the dummy gave us an extra hour or so. Mum's been suggesting this for months... At least he is now learning to keep hold of the dummy and is surprisingly good at replacing it himself. Better wean him off the swaddle - that way when he makes it into the cot I can use those grobag things.

Hope the eye clears up soon!

I did this with ds1 too!

lol felt guilty about it at the time but now realise it was an excellent "coping strategy" esp as sadly ds2 isn't playing ball and just spits dummies out. Not seen 5am this much since my uni days!

Also stopped ds1 being an early riser - he never got seen to before 7am. in those days I needed more sleep I think.

grobags are great- ds2 kicks too much for normal blankets so these guareentee he is covered till morning. Apparantly they do sdome cheap ones in Asda (£20 plus seems a bit steep to me).

tsstss7

"im far from being super mum, some days i dont get changed out of my PJs and i slob around on the sofa ignoring the housework, some days i dont want to wash up, some days i do nothing at all but look after the kids"

me too......:rolleyes: only ever worry about them really.


"since christmas Ive been diagnosed with post natal anxiety syndrome and have regular panic attacks, and am now on a harsh dose of the happy pills... because at one point about 2 months ago i couldnt leave the house without freaking out and couldnt open a bill without hyperventilating, i still cant talk to people i dont know on the phone (paying bills, sorting things out etc) without breaking into a massive sweat, im tired, worried and increasingly disturbed by this fat flap which is currently trying to take over my body...

super mum? pfffttt... i dont think so.[/quote]

sorry to hear u r having a hard time cg ....I expect all the baby problems haven't helped ...when Archie was in scbu I got through it by ignoring the possibility that it could get worse and luckily it didn't but it is ever so stressful isn't it! Makes my baby feeding problems seem unimportant by comparison....hows lo doing now btw?

I also have a nasty fat flap...the by product of my previous cs....am thinking of saving up for a tummy tuck! :0) (however Iam terrified of operations!)

Snaggles

Adams have some really cute grobags (well, their own version of them) for £12. Asda and Sainsburys do them too, but the Adams ones are the cutest I think, and they are long enough for Tasha, which the Sainsburys one (6-12 months) isn't.

Debenhams have some lovely ones for around £18, but we got one in the sale for £12. :T

Becles

I didn't think you sounded snippy either CG.

None of us are supermam's. We all have good days and bad days. I think it's good that people feel happy posting what they do with their babies. It means the rest of us can read through and try various things and stick with the bits that work for us! Bloody hard work this parenting lark at times isn't it?

Agutka

I am a supermum!!!
She lies, as her baby screams in hunger next door

The greatest thing I found out recently, that my own mother, the original career woman, knows nothing about babies, as she never had any. She went back to work three weeks after me and my brother, leaving us in the capable hands of my grandma, where we lived for the first few years of our lives!!! I never knew this! Parents visited us at weekends :eek:

I'd better go tend to Joseph now...:D

SusanCarter

Agutka wrote: »

The baby group I attend is okay, but after a few complaints from myself hubby came to the conclusion that I am being bullied by my NCT 'friends'. That's probably why I call them the female dogs! On the whole though it was the worst £200 we ever spent. Still gonna meet up with them though, don't meet many people any more... how sad is that!!

I went to an NCT baby group once (before I had Alice) with my friend who had a newborn and a 13 month old. Nobody spoke to me except for someone who I knew from church and the lady who made the tea. She held out the tray to me and then when I took one she said I couldn't have that one and I had to have a different one. :mad:

purplepatch wrote: »

:rotfl:How come so many of us are actually on here around bedtime today anyway :rotfl:

I come on sometimes while I'm feeding Alice. If I'm feeding on the right I can read but not type but if I'm feeding on the left I can type one handed although Alice sometimes decides to stop me by kicking the keyboard.

tee_pee_2

Hello there,

I am the "new mum in the playground" can I join your gang please?
Tee Pee