OS Daily Tuesday 26th July

redruby

JackieO wrote: »

.I finished 'The Help' book ,great read, and I enjoyed it thoroughly.Frightening to think what went on was a matter of course in my lifetime in the deep south.Very good first novel I hope she writes more.
Time to get the bangers on, so have a good evening everyone
Cheers JackieO xx

Jackie I meant to make a note of that book the other day, could you let me know the details again, it sounds like a book I would like xx

Julie, thanks for the rhubarb cake recipe, I have book marked it, will try and make it next week, it looks delish x

Bitsy_Beans

Tru - dare I say it and just chuck him out? If I'd have said that to my mum she'd have packed my stuff and put me out on the front lawn!! The reason is he's not a domestic angel at home is because he doesn't have to be. You have allowed him to get away with it. Perhaps now is the time to do a "Bitsy" and see the red mist xxx

tru

That's just it though - he DOES have to be. I don't do his washing up for him, it just stays in his room til there's not enough plates left in the kitchen. Then I throw a fit (I tell him everyday as it's mounting up) when there's no clean things left.

I'll take a couple of wet towels out of his room and wash them, but only if we need them ourselves. The rest gets left for him.

He'll put his washing on then go out, hoping I'll hang it up for him. He KNOWS I won't, I leave it in the machine til I need to use it. Then I shove his wet washing in a big Ikea bag and dump it in his room.

The only left for me to do - before I throw him out - is to act exactly the same way as him. It feels like I'm stooping to his level but it might make him realise. Needs must, and all that

Time to put my Hatebook online I think, it goes into much more detail than I've said here.

Bitsy_Beans

when I say he doesn't have to what I should have said is he doesn't have to until you nag him to death, or moan, or get ratty. At the end of the day it's not just a question of leaving his washing in the machine......but more to the point why should you even HAVE to leave it. Why should your kitchen and WM end up stinking of undried laundry (not saying it does mind this is just a hypothesis), this is not a hotel. it shows a complete lack of respect for the fact that this is YOUR home.

tru

Ahh I see what you mean. Yes, you're right.

He came home from work a couple of hours ago, said hello as he walked through the door (I didn't see him, it was while I was watching that fab film ) and we didn't speak again til just now. He spoke very quietly, no attitude in his voice at all. He was quite friendly.

As I was typing the above paragraph, mr tru told me that he was very apologetic last night, after I went to bed. He complained that old stuff is being dragged up. Mr tru explained that it's not old stuff, it's the same stuff that keeps happening over and over. He seemed to see sense...........we'll see.

jackieglasgow

Well fingers crossed Tru that he does change his ways this time. In my opinion, he should be acting like a housemate, not a paying guest in an hotel. Why not draw up a job sharing rota with him and Mr Tru, and make it clear that YOU will not be doing any of his things, unless he does the jobs scheduled on the rota for him. Obviously once you've finished increasing your education in modern cinematography

Bitsy_Beans

I really hope he has this time Tru. You know you can PM me on FB if you ever need to vent. I know you have your Hatebook but if you want to chat my inbox is always open

jackieglasgow

This is why I love it here, there is always good advice and someone to watch your back and send you love when you need it. :A

tru

Thanks both

jackieglasgow wrote: »

Obviously once you've finished increasing your education in modern cinematography

I watched The Human Centipede a couple of weeks ago. Not sure whether to :rotfl: or :eek:

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

if you want to chat my inbox is always open

You might regret saying that...........:D

Bitsy_Beans

tru wrote: »

You might regret saying that...........:D

Never. And I mean that xx
I've missed our little on going chat of late