hi need to vent

ska_lover

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

because youve not been reported to the police/sued in the civil courts?

what planet do you live on? this isnt 1984. big brother isnt watching your every move to see when you break the law.:rotfl:

just because you havent been caught doesnt make it any less illegal.

Stop trying to make this thread about you. Are you planning to input anything of use?
The way you are going on, anyone would think you are a cheat who got caught out by a clever partner!! Bitterness is UGLEEEEEEEE

jamespir

darlyd wrote: »

I just logged into his email account in the end, guessed his secret answers. And I too left him.

I totally agree with you.

OP hope your OK :A

i think that puts you in the wrong plus its illegal

though im not saying cheating is right either

jamespir

op it could be something innocent he could be arranging something nice for you and wanted a womens opinion why does everything need to be sinister

scooby088

jamespir wrote: »

op it could be something innocent he could be arranging something nice for you and wanted a womens opinion why does everything need to be sinister

Agreed, we all tend to jump to the same conclusion, but anyway is it wrong to have female friends rather than just wifey or GF at home. As long as nothing happens then theres no problem.

fannyanna

jamespir - I like your signature :rotfl:

Jinx

I know you are upset OP but if you can have a calm chat with your other half that would be best....

A while back I found text messages to an ex-partner on hubbys phone while playing with it. The sensible people here told me to stay calm and not over react; needless to say I went ballistic. Anyway the upshot was that it was innocent and he had got in touch to help find a job and they were just chatting but he too had deleted messages and kept it quiet as he knew I would kick off. Its the lying rather than the chatting thats hurts I think...

For me the key question is always '....so how would you feel if it was me who was doing x,y, z?'

balletshoes

Jinx wrote: »

I know you are upset OP but if you can have a calm chat with your other half that would be best....

A while back I found text messages to an ex-partner on hubbys phone while playing with it. The sensible people here told me to stay calm and not over react; needless to say I went ballistic. Anyway the upshot was that it was innocent and he had got in touch to help find a job and they were just chatting but he too had deleted messages and kept it quiet as he knew I would kick off. Its the lying rather than the chatting thats hurts I think...

For me the key question is always '....so how would you feel if it was me who was doing x,y, z?'

absolutely, and thats what I would be saying to your OH when you have a chat with him about this OP.

poorly_scammo

It's bloody Facebook time again! Honestly, that site and how many relationships it seems to endanger or cause problems within...

Anyway, the OP needs to talk openly with her OH. He may lie, he may tell the truth, whatever that is. Keeping her fears to herself is not going to help her or her relationship. In fact, it's probably going to drive her barmy.

candygirl

poorly_scammo wrote: »

It's bloody Facebook time again! Honestly, that site and how many relationships it seems to endanger or cause problems within...

Anyway, the OP needs to talk openly with her OH. He may lie, he may tell the truth, whatever that is. Keeping her fears to herself is not going to help her or her relationship. In fact, it's probably going to drive her barmy.

My Bro calls it basef**k for this very reason;)

DitaVonTee

I've never really got my head around facebook, I only play the games on there as for anything else can't say I've worked everything out yet.

Speaking to a police friend of mine, they once said they wish the site would shut down as it causes so much destruction:(

I know what I would be doing, though I wouldn't suggest OP or anyone else did anything of the sort, but me myself would plaster something all over his wall calling him all the rotton names under the sun along with her too:oalong with good kick in the goolies for him when he got home before any questions:o

But, that's just me I'm not suggesting anyone else do it :D

OP, I'd definately be asking some questions as to whats been going on here, but bare in mind he might not give you any answers you are going to be satisfied with.