hi need to vent

emmaBZ

hi im so unbelievably fked off.... OH was chatting to an old friend on facebook (female) anyway ok fair enuff im not sure what sort of friend i.e EX ect, but shes now seperated and lives local, anyway i noticed hes been deleting his texts over the last week and today his itemised bill arrived and he texted her on wed thur and fri over 100 times, i know its her cuz she got her number on facebook, im so !!!!ed off. im shaking and so close to tears i wont call him at work cuz i want to see his face when i ask him but got all 4 kids at home as school hols,
so why delete messages if your not hidding something and over 100 texts in 3 days, ( only in work time ?!!!) :(:(:(:(

part of me wants to tell him to do one, part of me wants to curl up and cry

jackieglasgow

Speak to him. It may not have turned into anything YET, and knowing he has hurt you may be enough of a jolt to make him wise up and put his energy into sorting things out at home. x

fannyanna

I have to agree with you that it doesn't sound good.

Try to keep yourself busy today so that your mind doesn't play tricks on you and then speak to him when he comes home.

danielley

jackieglasgow wrote: »

Speak to him. It may not have turned into anything YET, and knowing he has hurt you may be enough of a jolt to make him wise up and put his energy into sorting things out at home. x

Great advice; good luck and try and keep calm when you speak, although I know it will be hard with your emotions riding high.

xxx

balletshoes

You have to talk to him - and try to stay calm and ask the questions you want answers to. Write them down before if it helps focus your mind.

As another poster has said, it may well not have come to anything yet, you need to talk to him and have him realise how much this is hurting you already.

go_cat

He obviously thought he was being clever by deleting the texts but not quite clever enough to think about an itemised bill

Be grateful you are aware of the situation and you are now in control as he doesn't know you know!

Don't let him fob you off ... if you know her you could ask her ???

Darlyd

go_cat wrote: »

He obviously thought he was being clever by deleting the texts but not quite clever enough to think about an itemised bill

Be grateful you are aware of the situation and you are now in control as he doesn't know you know!

Don't let him fob you off ... if you know her you could ask her ???

Don't ask her, you warn her to stay the f away from your man! And go find a single guy to confide in!! Home wrecker!! :mad: And then wait for him to come to you.

I been there done that, it's not nice. Turned out my ex bf was stalking her, '(through work, but different areas, I never knew her) she came out of a relationship, and I swear he wanted to get with her, when I warned her off (via email), she told me to tell him to leave HER alone! That is why he is my EX!

relic

darlyd wrote: »

Don't ask her, you warn her to stay the f away from your man! And go find a single guy to confide in!! Home wrecker!! :mad: And then wait for him to come to you.

I been there done that, it's not nice. Turned out my ex bf was stalking her, '(through work, but different areas, I never knew her) she came out of a relationship, and I swear he wanted to get with her, when I warned her off (via email), she told me to tell him to leave HER alone! That is why he is my EX!

I'd suggest she talks to her partner first, he's the one who has sent over 100 messages in 3 days. That's a homewrecker.

Darlyd

relic wrote: »

I'd suggest she talks to her partner first, he's the one who has sent over 100 messages in 3 days. That's a homewrecker.

He will only deny it, and just say he is being a ear for her as she has come out of a relationship.

I would be more inclined to message her. Perhaps he has been filling her head with lies about his relationship.

relic

darlyd wrote: »

He will only deny it, and just say he is being a ear for her as she has come out of a relationship.

I would be more inclined to message her. Perhaps he has been filling her head with lies about his relationship.

Ah right, darlyd the one that knows everything about other peoples relationships!

No, he has been texting her, and has been talking to her on facebook. That is someone who doesn't want to be in a relationship with his current partner.

It always makes me laugh when guys get away with it, and the single woman always gets the blame.

candygirl

Sounds quite dodgy to me.100 texts is way OTT even for a normal relationship, let alone an old friend :eek::eek:
Hope he comes up with a reasonable explanation, and take care of yourself xx:A